Son moved away and Hurting
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06/25/18 12:23 PM
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bass10
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Well my 22 year old son graduated college this past May. We just moved him 1:40 minutes away to Pittsburgh for his first full time job. He commuted to college from home as we live 10 minutes from Akron University. I have to tell you if you want to see a 6'3", 250 pound baby come and visit. I am a wreck. I don't know how everyone does it. I had daily interactions with him for 22 years. He did his own Landscaping thing thru college that paid him quite well and much better than a summer job. I used to beach daily at the 6 wheel barrels, 3 mowers, trailers, weed eaters, bags of leaves, etc. he'd have laying around my drive and yard (I live on a cul de sac in an allotment not the country). Its only been one day and boy what I'd do to help him load up those wheel barrels and go mulch a house (I absolutely hate it) every day for the rest of my life. I truly never thought it'd be this hard but boy was I wrong.
"The more people I meet the more I love my dog!"
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Re: Son moved away and Hurting
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06/25/18 12:43 PM
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My oldest daughter decided to go to college in London. We supported her decisions. The day we dropped her off at the Philly airport was our first time without her in our home. The wife and I cried like babies on the trip home.
She has become a world traveler and is currently at an embassy post in Nigeria. We have gotten used to seeing her at home one or twice a year. You will too. Like OhioBoy said, be glad it wasn’t farther away.
My wife and I along with our three daughters keep in touch daily through a group chat on Facebook Messenger.
Eh...wot?
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Re: Son moved away and Hurting
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06/25/18 01:21 PM
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rags57078
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Empty nest is a real thing , our kids trapped , hunted and fished with me . I slowed way down on all of it and was lost , I did pick up the fishing game more and trap a bit here and there , as for hunting that is about all gone now
Off in my own world
Fish on !!!!!!!
47 years in this game of trapping
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Re: Son moved away and Hurting
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06/25/18 01:33 PM
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bass10
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Empty nest is a real thing , our kids trapped , hunted and fished with me . I slowed way down on all of it and was lost , I did pick up the fishing game more and trap a bit here and there , as for hunting that is about all gone now Yeh rags I hear ya. I already told my wife that I might as well sell my bass boat because I just don't think I'll use it much without him and will be lost on it by myself anyway. We used to go down to the cabin and mow, trim and cleanup once every 8-10 days and spend the night and come home the next morning and go to work. He was my shed hunting, mushroom hunting, deer hunting, trapping, turkey hunting, bass fishing partner. This is truly gonna take time and some getting used to, talk about depression.
"The more people I meet the more I love my dog!"
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Re: Son moved away and Hurting
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06/25/18 01:54 PM
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The hurt never goes away, it tempers but its always there. Those two mohicans of mine both went to college in Utah, now you won't get them outta those mountains with dynamite. I appreciate that. They are both tall, straight honest god fearing young men who are very well liked and leave a trail of friends and good memories wherever they go. Thank heavens for their mother. Hard hearted curmudgeon that I am I hardly notice them gone at all these days except every 5 minutes or so. You'll be fine.
Osky
"A womans heart is the hardest rock the Almighty has put on this earth, and I can find no sign on it" Jabless in Minnesota www.SureDockusa.com
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Re: Son moved away and Hurting
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06/25/18 02:02 PM
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Thanks Osky you didn't help one single bit, lol.
"The more people I meet the more I love my dog!"
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Re: Son moved away and Hurting
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06/25/18 02:25 PM
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I been there and been through it as well. It was one of the hardest things I ever did when we dropped my son off at college. He cried we cried but it is the way of life. Now I know how my parents must have felt.
We as parents give our children their wings then we need to let them spread those wings and let them fly. Not easy. LOL
Last edited by snowy; 06/25/18 06:38 PM.
Give me a fish, I will eat for a day. Teach me to fish, I will eat for a lifetime
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Re: Son moved away and Hurting
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06/25/18 02:31 PM
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Just the way that they learn to toughen up for the life ahead, a easy life never teaches a young person anything about what's ahead of them. We won't be around forever to make it all right for them, they need to learn the skills to make their own choices~
Was born in a Big City Will die in the Country OK with that!
Jerry Herbst
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Re: Son moved away and Hurting
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06/25/18 04:29 PM
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GREENCOUNTYPETE
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I know about 20 years ago my dad was dealing with the adjustment to having married son who didn't come home and go fishing as regular.
I moved away for school when I was 17 but was about 90 minutes away and made it home 3/4 of the weekends.then when I was 20 I met my wife and we used to make it back about once a month, now with 3 teens of my own it isn't as often.
my parents are about 90 minutes away.
call and talk , schedule something maybe fishing on the Ohio that looks about half way.
we found a bunch of places to meet about half way.
Last edited by GREENCOUNTYPETE; 06/25/18 04:32 PM.
America only has one issue, we have a Responsibility crisis and everything else stems from it.
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Re: Son moved away and Hurting
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06/25/18 05:08 PM
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Empty nest is a real thing , our kids trapped , hunted and fished with me . I slowed way down on all of it and was lost , I did pick up the fishing game more and trap a bit here and there , as for hunting that is about all gone now Yes it is, and not just for Mama's too. Heck when mine left I didn't know whether to scratch my watch or wind my arse. It took a spell but we all adapted. Phone calls, text, that face time thing etc. And we get together when we can. Bass, you'll go thru a rough patch but don't let it last long. Get out there by yourself and enjoy being out there. You can meet new people and make friends that you can hunt and fish with. And heck, 90 min away is a 45 min drive to meet in the middle for supper!
I wonder if tap dancers walk into a room, look at the floor, and think, I'd tap that. I wonder about things.....
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Re: Son moved away and Hurting
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06/25/18 05:22 PM
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went through the empty nest syndrome with my wife. We had five children spread out over many years as we had the last boy when we were forty but the empty nest still hit us as the home became a house. Having two living within a half hour helped as my grand kids took up hunting, fishing and trapping with grand dad and still do. Holidays are spectacular when they are all together at home but they do grow up and move away.
Although I have trapped over 50 years without a partner I am never alone...God and my Dad are always there with me.
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Re: Son moved away and Hurting
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06/25/18 06:23 PM
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My dear mother was a single mother and hard as nails. Always talked about me moving out and getting a job...couldnt wait till I turned 18. She was never mean though.
So a few montha after turning 18 I thought I was doing her a favor by getting my own place. She came home from work that afternoon and I casually mwntuoned to her that I found an apartment amd will be moving out the next week. Never seen her cry so much....
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Re: Son moved away and Hurting
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06/25/18 06:28 PM
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My dear mother was a single mother and hard as nails. Always talked about me moving out and getting a job...couldnt wait till I turned 18. She was never mean though.
So a few montha after turning 18 I thought I was doing her a favor by getting my own place. She came home from work that afternoon and I casually mwntuoned to her that I found an apartment amd will be moving out the next week. Never seen her cry so much.... I should also mention a few months later I could tell she was suffering from empty nest. I gave her a bit of a hard time about getting a life and find something that she loves to do. We always had dogs, so she got into agility and field trials and is happy and more content as ever.
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Re: Son moved away and Hurting
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06/25/18 07:32 PM
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danny clifton
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Son went in the marine corps right out of high school in 2001. Moved back here a year and a half ago. Was a long 16 years.
Those who would give up essential liberty, to purchase a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety. Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790)
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