Long story short, kids were fighting over the tablets and puppy then started being disrespectful and disobedient to me mother in law butts in and tells MY kids not to listen or respect me. Told her to get gone but nooo then starts talking garbage and that she and others want to kick my ..... told her to step up call them over and come try. I'm livid she is encouraging such disrespect and disobedience in MY home.

I'm thankful the kids are here right now.

It is mother-in-laws station in life to be bothersome.

True, but why does she think it's ok to allow bad behavior and disrespect?

How would you all handle an in law at your house that's encouraging your kids to be disrespectful and disobedient?

There’s the door use it and don’t come back untill you can follow the rules of the my house

Far as I know grand parents have no right of visitation

I have a cousin that had a similar experience with his mother in law result was that she has not seen or talked to her grand kids in something like 8 years

Knowing the story I would have kicked her out a lot sooner

Two older generations helping teach the younger generation how to resolve their differences and how to treat others and get your way; and we want to blame government for these type of society changes.

Bryce

You'll have issues with your wife, but you're mother in law should never enter your property again or see your children. You are right to be angry. What she did is unforgivable.

Keith

Have same issues with my 2 boys and their grandmother's. They want to spoil them rotten an by the time they get home we have to restart the manners,showing respect,an how to say ma'am and sir. Funny how one weekend can have such a bad affect on children

I've dealt with the same situation, my mother and father in law do not come to my house they know they are not welcome. I told my wife if she has a problem with it to remember I didn't hate being single. I provide well for my family and treat them right, I will not be mistreated in my own house. I hate rude behavior in women children and dogs, at 32 years old I will not tolerate it

Your house your rules. Let the rules be known right up front.

If need be print them out and post for all to see. Be respectful in explaining to them of the rules.

Then maybe they'll understand from the get-go how its supposed to be.

Especially on a second marriage and new and old in-laws.

Rude behavior should not be tolerated in one's home, that being said my MIL is the kindest person I know. Must skip a generation.

I had typed a good story of dealing with a mother in law many years ago. My first one. Some how it got deleted before I finished the story. So I will give you the punch line.

The old coot wanted to stay way too long when visiting and I had enough. No kids involved just an aggravating woman that needed to go home asap and not to come back hopefully.

I bought a couple of those slinky silicone spiders that use to climb slowly down the wall when you would throw them and they stuck. They would slowly walk down and drop at some point when they lost contact with any surface area to grab on too.

I threw one of those crawling spiders above the old coot and it stuck perfectly above her and it eventually fell into her lap while reading a news paper one evening. OMG I nearly lost all composure trying to act innocent when she went to screaming frantically.

Of course the wife ran to see what was going on and just gave me a look that I ignored of course.

Magically a few days later the mother in law went home. Of course there were other circumstances that may have contributed. Such as wearing skunky clothing home and wanting to have a conversation with her. Of course bait making day and the lingering odor that will last for days on clothing that I hung by her jacket in the hallway.

I believe the accumulative effect was very effective. LOL

Call me a bad man or whatever you like I did what needed to be done.

Thanks everyone I appreciate it.
My wife gets back shortly after I posted, then her mom starts the water works and lying about it and the situation. Wife sides with her mom for the most part and didn't say anything when I told her mom wants the kids to be disrespectful and disobedient.

My wife knows how I feel about her mom and don't want the kids with her. She doesn't care.
It's been a long morning.

To be honest I was raised never to hit a woman but boy I was hoping she would've stepped to the plate and have been waiting for her family to come to the plate. Never have I had that feeling before towards any woman.

Make matters worse today is rough health wise I woke up in bad shape and it's only gotten worse.

A fellow once told me if you let someone make you angry, they have beaten you.

You don't need to throw anyone out that you never let into your house! LOL

Put the kids in another room, grab the old crow by the back of her collar and toss her out the front door.


Your welcome.

Osky

My MIL can be a witch too. I've shown her to the door more than once... And by "shown her to the door" I mean that I get a belly full and say something so outrageously hateful that she sees herself out, usually in a huff. A few times in tears.

After I do that she behaves for a while and then starts getting brave. Then she ramps it up until I give her both barrels again...

Only thing I really have going for me is that my wife likes her mom even less than I do. She used to let her mom step all over her feelings. Then when she saw how I handle things she realized the world wouldn't end if she told her mom to go soak her head.

Adam, I can't offer any advice on how to handle this. I can only relate and tell you how I handle it. My approach likely won't work for you since all situations are different.

Best of luck to you bud.

Mike

Three thanksgivings ago we were sitting down in my home just about rdy to eat an my in-laws said the wrong thing to me in my own home. After my wife removed the kids from the table I saw fit to give them the how it's gna be under this roof or there is the door.....well I enjoyed my dinner with my wife and kids. Had alot of leftovers lol!!!! relationship has been alot better with in-laws ever since then. Although the Christmas after was a little odd

y oh its forgivable...but shell never ask for forgiveness. I'd not have her there Again unless she did.

Done that, the old crow came back. But we've come to an understanding I provide the roof overhead and food on the table and she stays out of my way.