There are just so many grocery carts you can smash into before you get thrown out of the store. I am by no means a bar type person but met my wife of 30 yrs this coming June in one. Higher class place where foke were dressed up. In NY everyplace is smoke free now not when I was in my dating years. I have stopped at line dancing places to pickup my wife when she was with friends and that seems like a decent place. Not a bar by any means more of a just refreshments and snacks while learning to line dance.

You may never be able to replace the happiness you had with your wife, watch what you wish for. I guess if was me I would just stay involved with life and see what happens.

What's the hurry ?

i found one on "plenty of fish" been married 4 years come june. dated for 2 years.

So sorry for the loss of your wife!
Hal has some pretty nieces. Maybe he could set you up with one on a date??

God I love the diversity of peoples on this site ! Keep it coming folks this getting old battered heart is still pumping , im betting theres at least two hundred " dudes " on here that would love to have the likes of me for a brother in law ! some just show it in an odd way !

Lost my wife of 24 years to Ovarian Cancer in 2015. After about 2 years of not really looking or wanting to I tried the online sites. I tried most of the big well known ones, and some of the smaller ones.

eHarmony will not allow you to post any pics in your profile of dead animals. Farmers Only was ok, but the majority of the women on there my age were “animal lovers”, and stated so in their profiles. They did not like my trapping!! Our Time was ok, mostly they were not compatible to my form of outdoor lifestyle. Tried Pile of Fish. It was ok. And has a free version.

Like anything it can be full of scammers. What amazed me was on every site I had multiple contacts from supposedly young beautiful women(which I did not want) from Ghana. That is in West Africa. They all had the similar stories.

There are of course many great women on those sites as well.

I also have met a couple of nice ladies at the VFW and Legion.

I hunt ALOT!! Maybe 120 days a year. I trap ALOT!! About 45 days a year. Many days it’s trapping am, hunting pm. Fish ALOT. Catch snappers too!! Dig ramps. Off months I reload and shoot. I am very conservative minded.

Why did I mention that?? Well, you do not have to have a lady that hunts/traps/etc. However, you do need one that accepts that lifestyle fully.

As you need to accept her lifestyle fully.

I have been married 3 times. 4, 6, and 24 years. In all 3 we were not compatible and it caused issues. At 61 I now realize that. Just do not let loneliness or excitement of a new relationship make you believe incompatibility won’t matter. It will at some point.

If I sound negative, I am not. I dropped off all the online sites. Enjoying my health, financial freedom, and thanking God for blessing me.

I am sorry for your loss. Take your time. Go in with your eyes open. Have some fun. And good luck!!!!

agreed sshaffer , my life experiences with the opposite sex concur with yours , the first wife of nine years was bisexual and would not share her other lovers , lol . the second wife of twenty years was great , until the cancer , cemo , med drugs - which led to alcoholism , granted im an understanding individual , and willing to work through anything life throws at ya . its just down right mind blowing to the male nature to fix everything and find you cant fix something , you accept your position and make the most of it and move on .

Wait one year before making any major changes in you life after some major happen. Example, husband pass away, wife want to move 100 miles away to live with kids. Wait, let thing settle down. Now in some cases she may have to. But wait that year, then make that discussion. JMO

Friend of mine met his wife in the checkout line at a grocery store. He"says" he had forgotten a package of hamburger buns but conveniently said it out loud in front of the woman who is now is wife that owns a small restaurant and luck had it, had an abundance of them and gave a package to him. Ended up meeting up with the woman in the parking lot, exchanged numbers and the rest is history. Now whether or not he really forgot them, and just wanted to spark up a convo with her is a mystery. Life is short, tomorrow isn't promised.

Agree with Getting There, especially financial decisions.

Why wait , i'm not a dog at the end of his chain. lol

I wouldn't recommend using any of the free sites. Those are where 65 year old men who drive panel vans disguise themselves as 21-year-old hard bodied supermodels and you end up losing a kidney....

ol' dad

Lots of advice on here! As far as things go here, if I end up single after these 40+ years, I already have a plan.....going to live out the rest of my life as I planned to when I got out of High School...just like my hero, Rancid Crabtree!

My Mom lost tens of thousands of dollars searching for companionship online. Be VERY careful. Lots of men and women out there looking to take advantage of lonely people.

no experience with the online stuff

but, i met my wife at a time when i wasn't looking.
we met during everyday life and it grew from there. that was 15 years ago and we've been together ever since.

If I was looking today, I might consider online, but would still want it to be somewhat local - with an understanding that I ain't moving.
I hunt, fish, trap, and i do at least one of them year round.

i eat meat
not having anymore kids.
i like my dog, and i don't like cats.

etc. etc. and so on

the number one and two things i see that ruins relationships in the long run is people not being who they truly are from the get go - and people thinking they can change the other person in the long run.

Have you seen the true movie (on Bravo) "Dirty John"? you'll think twice about dating sites... The best advise I saw on here is go to a Bereavement meeting or two...
Best of luck...

My dad's best friend lost his wife 5 years ago after 40+ years of marriage, he dated a woman shortly after that bit it didn't work out. And then he got to talking to a guy who had married a phillipino woman and was happy. The guy tells him that his wife has other family that are looking for an American man. After talking over the phone for awhile with the ladies 20 yr old niece he took off to the Philippines. Not long after his trip he brings her over here and married her. He sends money to her family weekly, and he bought his new bride a new car and put her in college. Now she comes home when she needs something or money but that's about it. We tried to tell him before but he was so lonely and desperate he didn't care. She's just using him, and it's been 2 years and it's worse. Only sees her when she wants something but want divorce her. No 20 yr old woman is going to marry and 70 year old man for the right reasons. Good luck with your search but be careful

Pat and I met online (kinda). Even though we grew up in the same small town we didn't get to know each other until adulthood thanks to liquor and anonymous online harassment and bantering. I don't think it ever woulda worked had someone set us up or if we had been swiping on dating apps. The bottom line is that it can't be forced. We got to know eachother on each of our own terms and neither of us were looking for a relationship and that's why it worked out.