anyone on here have to take care of there parents , when mom or dad got old an needed help, I've been helping my mom for a few years now ,my sister used to help , she would do the shopping an help mom with the inside stuff , I did all the outside stuff ,about two years ago my sister said I wish mom would just died , so I've been doing it all since then ,well looks like my sister is going to get her wish , I'm writing this from a motel room in green bay wis. moms down here in hospital ,not doing well she has a lot of medical problems an her body is just had enough , doctor said they are going to try some stuff toady that might give her more time , but quality of live wont be good , I don't know what to do she has a D N R so I don't have to make that decision , she always said she does not want to go to nursing home

prayers for ya,took care of my mom for the last 6 months of her life with pancreatic cancer.was the hardest thing i ever did but also by far the most satisfying.

i owed her even more than that in my mind.

That is very hard.My sister takes care of our Mom and I help with what I can do. PCR2 is correct,my Mom has given more then we can ever repay.She cared for her dad for 20 years,would not use the nursing home route. You only get one Mom!

did it with mmentally ill mother and abusive Dad.....wasnt pleasant at all.

Yes,but you did it.That speaks volumes of you as a person.

She obviously raised you right for you to turn into a man that takes care of her now. Prayers sent that the doctors get her fixed up. Perhaps you can move her in with you when she is released.

thanks guys ! we have to many stair in my house for that to happen, she has three steps to get into her house an that a hard thing for her , don't think she will be coming home ,she will need kidney dialysis ,if she pulls thru , 3-4 hours ever other day , doctor said

Good luck with everything going on, We have been on that same road too often and know what your going through. Prayers sent for your Mother and Family !

Praying for You !!!

Prayers for you and your family !!!

Prayers for you and your family.

When this is all over, you will not regret all you did. We are commanded to honor your mother and father. If you were across the globe, you would wish you were there with her.

Take time to tell her all the things you need to say.

Hang in there

Been there done that both Mother and Mother In-law.. Stay strong for her and you won't regret it..


Mac

Roy my mother was in hospice two years before passing, know what you are going thru. Prayers for you and mother and family.

Sent with prayer.

Praying for you and your family, Roy.
Your sister sounds a lot like one of my sisters. Good for you for sticking by her side.

God bless.

thanks guys , my sister is a good person , just young an busy

Praying for you and your family

Moved in with my 87yo. mom bout 7 years ago to help her out .Can be a royal pain, but I figure so was I earlier in life.
Dennis

Sometimes people just want to remember their loved ones to be like they used to be.

My wife and I moved in with her mom shortly after my FIL passed. We found out shortly after moving in the my MIL suffered from dementia. We knew she had it before my FIL passed, but didn't realize how bad it was. After 6 years my wife couldn't handle it well any more. She became combative, mean, and very condescending. My wife talked to her sisters. One was receptive to putting her some place. The other not so much. After about 6 months of "discussing" it my wife finally blew her lid and said; "OK if you don't want her going into the home then she's coming to live with you." It only took her sister 3 months to finally realize that her mother wasn't her mother anymore.

What I'm trying to say with this is, Don't judge your sister to harshly. My MIL hid her dementia pretty well. The one sister only saw her mom being the same old sweet lady. She didn't see the things that she did and said in private.

Your mom, you, and your sister could be in the same boat.