I knew this day would come, my daughter has found the love of her life.

He seems to be a good kid. That said there are a couple things that concern me. Most of his conversation is money and things. The other is, he drives a Ford.

I question his priorities. My question is, do I hold on have those conversations until he comes to me for that serious conversation or do I begin the interrogation now?

Get your bluff in early.

Good for her. I’d do it now! The good lord knew what he was doing when he gave me and the wife all boys. Girls of any age scare me. Old man told me something I’ve never forgotten when me twin boys were born. I replaced the word he used with thing.lol

“It’s easier to keep track of one THING. Than it is to keep track of EVERYTHING in town!”

He’ll never be good enough. Doesn’t matter how good he is.

Start now...it may get worse...lol
Does he hunt, trap, or shoot ?
Got to ask about that...

If he talks about money and things, he will probably always have a decent job. If he drives a Ford, he knows his .

Time for the flood light!

I'd start now

I would jump right in there now , the guy drives a ford , hes a pretty shady character.

Now! Ford is good!
I'd see how serious he is, make him prove he is worthy.
Ask to see his cell phone internet history

If it's an F series pickup he's a keeper. But I say definitely better have some talks with him about how he treats your daughter, and a mention or two about capital punishment wouldn't hurt. Really depends on how old your daughter is on how you handle this. Make sure he is aware of your no trespassing policy with regards to putting his hands on her.

Go with your gut feeling......I didn't like my daughters boyfriend the 1st time I saw him and I was right....a parents worst nightmare.....almost went to prison over that boy.....Sounds like your OK compared to my situation. The guy she married is tops in my book so it worked out finally.

Also remember to mention the older you get a life sentence becomes less of a deterrent haha

Start now. Get to know him, if there's things you don't like or that he doesn't know or understand, mentor him into the kind of man you want for your daughter. Of she loves him, there's likely nothing you can do to make her feel any different.

He's only talking money so can save enough to UPGRADE to a Toyota! My daughter just turned 11 so I know I'll face the music someday as well. I can only hope that he is better than I was in those days. Good luck!

the ford thing is a non issue , they can be serviceable vehicles it could be much worse he could have some sort of Dodge addiction.


money is something that should probably get talked about , it may stick it may not.

invite him over for a project , projects are great ways to see how a person works and work ethic is important it translates into effort in so many things and effort in being a good partner to your daughter is important.

depending on the project or a ride along trapping you should be able to steer a conversation towards fiduciary responsibility.

He is a avid hunter, not trapping yet but has spent time in the fur shed with me.





She has waited for someone like him to come along for quite sometime. She has not been in a serious relationship before mainly because she has set the bar pretty high. She went on a couple dates when she was in high school but that’s about it. She is now 23yrs old. She handles herself very well.

The job thing worries me a bit. He works for his dad in a family business, that he apparently will be taking over when his dad retires. From what I’ve seen, he isn’t afraid of hard work, that’s a plus.

The only thing I don’t like is the “keeping up with the Jones” talk.

I raised 4

3 daughters and a Son.


The Girls couldn't be counseled ( even by their Mom , my Wife tried twice) . The Girls marry whom they will. After the divorce of one she became even more unwilling to listen to advice.

Run off the one you perceive as bad and you Could end up with worse.

This can be fixed slowly by hidden counseling. Like when he sees something he "wants" compared to what he "needs". Hopefully you can tell him "yes, I know those folks, they work 2 jobs to have all those material things, so they hardly ever have the chance to play with their toys."
Or
"yes, I know them and know their house is paid off, and kids have a college fund, and his 401k is rolling, etc.

Our SIL took the Wants--Needs talks well........

Wants come AFTER a house is purchased
AFTER a 401k is set up
AFTER all vehicles are paid off

"the one who dies with the most toys, wins" is a phrase for boneheads who end up NOT providing well for their families.....
.....like my buddys SIL ....stupidly got $8k tax return (W-2 needs adjusted) then blew it and now cannot afford a lawn mower.

to answer,,,,,,start the talks now
you can be subtle and discreet somewhat too...not bossy or forceful.