Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
[Re: asphalttrapper]
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All boy's are the Devil just remember that, they will corrupt your daughter sooner or later. I let my daughter to start dating at age 16 but not on her own. Best of luck your going to need it.
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
[Re: asphalttrapper]
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I don't want to remember those times Raised 3 daughters...If you say no...they'll find a way around it I had 3 all teens together for a while.
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
[Re: 330-Trapper]
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I don't want to remember those times Raised 3 daughters...If you say no...they'll find a way around it I had 3 all teens together for a while. You might qualify for saint hood.
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
[Re: mississippiposse]
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I have 2 daughters and they are full grown. Gave me 4 grandkids. You brought her up right so trust her. Had a couple of boys that I thought were trouble so I was cleaning a shotgun when they showed up. Told them what I thought and to my knowledge it was only one date. Trust. You raised them right. Went with a few in college that their parents were very protective with them in high school. To say the least they were making up for lost time This was my experience and also now my concern as a father. I figure I'll trust my girls and that I raised them right. What I have noticed is that the more freedom/responsibility I give them the more careful they are.
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
[Re: asphalttrapper]
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Ours is now 20. Our rule was that she couldn't date until she was 16. The word "date" means different things to different people. I couldn't stop her from saying she was dating someone but she wasn't going on a "date" with said boyfriend until she was 16. We did let her go out as a group of friends even if her "date" was in the group but we paid a lot of attention to where she was going and who else was in the group of friends. We met a lot of her friends parents and we all coordinated together to protect our kids.
You can't protect them 100% of the time and if she considers your rules to be unreasonable, she will tell herself that there is no moral obligation to follow your rules. If that happens you will have to be heavy handed to keep control and your heavy handed rules will be unreasonable. Do your best to protect her while treading lightly. It's a difficult balance and we didn't always get it right. They don't come with a manual.
One thing that we did do right was to allow a male friend (she can call him whatever she wants) to come to our house or to come out with the family for dinner, bowling, or some other event. She usually brought another girlfriend or two to hide from us that the boy was more than a friend - she was a poor actress so we figured it out. This gave her a way to "date" with us always in the same room (or at least right around the corner). Not great for her or for us but it was a compromise.
Good luck. Here's the hard part. Try to enjoy her. You're going to snap her fingers and she will be out on her own.
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
[Re: mississippiposse]
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I have 2 daughters and they are full grown. Gave me 4 grandkids. You brought her up right so trust her. Had a couple of boys that I thought were trouble so I was cleaning a shotgun when they showed up. Told them what I thought and to my knowledge it was only one date. Trust. You raised them right. Went with a few in college that their parents were very protective with them in high school. To say the least they were making up for lost time Yep, college girls get lots of practice for when they get married. Lol.
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
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I don't want to remember those times Raised 3 daughters...If you say no...they'll find a way around it I had 3 all teens together for a while. I'll be there soon enough. My girls are 7, 5, and 4, so I'll have 3 teenage girls at once for a few years.
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
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I don't want to remember those times Raised 3 daughters...If you say no...they'll find a way around it I had 3 all teens together for a while. I'll be there soon enough. My girls are 7, 5, and 4, so I'll have 3 teenage girls at once for a few years. All that estrogen in the house . Gosh, That could be a nightmare. Good luck.
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
[Re: asphalttrapper]
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I have a 15 and 3/4 year old daughter and the boys are starting to come calling. My question is at what age did you let your daughters date? What should I look out for? I never had a daughter. However, if I did, I would say 40ish would be a good age providing she is a mature 40ish.
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
[Re: asphalttrapper]
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offer to drive , they can date but you will drive.
school dances , out to eat ect. that is your rule you drive or they walk.
this was my plan , neither of my daughters 15 1/2 and 18 have really been much of an issue , I guess I have time for them to get interested in such a case I will drive.
America only has one issue, we have a Responsibility crisis and everything else stems from it.
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
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3 girls . When a boy came to take out my youngest step daughter for the first time.I was skinning a beaver in the dining room .I met the boy and told him to behave himself,to make my point,I slammed my skinning knife into the plywood I had the beaver on.I then told him---that knife can be used for more than skinning beaver.Needless to say,that boy never came back Tom
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
[Re: asphalttrapper]
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I have 3 boys. Lord help a parent that didn't install values in their girls. My nephew takes the boys aside, talks to them..........not mean, just serious. Tell them what you expect of them and what your daughter means to you. Most don't come back. The good ones with good intentions do.
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
[Re: asphalttrapper]
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07/15/20 11:44 PM
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Mine is 15 and it aint happening, i was young once and i know what to look out for lol
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
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I have 2 daughters and they are full grown. Gave me 4 grandkids. You brought her up right so trust her. Had a couple of boys that I thought were trouble so I was cleaning a shotgun when they showed up. Told them what I thought and to my knowledge it was only one date. Trust. You raised them right. Went with a few in college that their parents were very protective with them in high school. To say the least they were making up for lost time This was my experience and also now my concern as a father. I figure I'll trust my girls and that I raised them right. What I have noticed is that the more freedom/responsibility I give them the more careful they are. It has been my finding that those parents that don’t trust there daughters end up with ones that can’t be trusted, I have 2 one is out of the house and on her own and the other is still a bit away from my having to worry about who she dates, but I have done my best to instill not only high expectations in what I expect from them but also a good sense of values and self worth
�Everything in excess! To enjoy the flavor of life, take big bites. Moderation is for monks.� ― Robert A. Heinlein
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
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It’s already been said but if you have raised her in a loving environment where she got to see how a woman should be treated and what a relationship looks like, you won’t have a lot to worry about.
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
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07/16/20 06:59 AM
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Being a male, and I'm sure a majority of people on here share my gender(birth gender) I have come across some girls over the years that were insane but their parents thought they were angels. Sometimes its the girls that corrupt the guys. Anyhow, guys won't corrupt your daughter any more than her upbringing will allow for. If they are brought up right and know right from wrong she'll do as she has been taught. Expect the schools to do that for you and you wind up the crap you see on MTV these days.
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
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I don't want to remember those times Raised 3 daughters...If you say no...they'll find a way around it I had 3 all teens together for a while. You might qualify for saint hood. Hahaha... and my Son was still a teen..... so 4 teens (and a Wife) They would not call me a saint though during that time.
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