Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
[Re: asphalttrapper]
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Hahaha... and my Son was still a teen..... so 4 teens (and a Wife) They would not call me a saint though during that time. [/quote] Probably wouldn't call you sane either during that time.
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
[Re: HobbieTrapper]
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07/16/20 07:12 AM
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It’s already been said but if you have raised her in a loving environment where she got to see how a woman should be treated and what a relationship looks like, you won’t have a lot to worry about. Unless Nature takes over ....that's the Trump card... but alas- Grandkids smooth things over
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
[Re: asphalttrapper]
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If they're not old enough to marry, they're not old enough to date
the just shall live by faith
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
[Re: asphalttrapper]
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Our Daughter is a very bright , kind and caring young lady. She is very open with her mother and I . The boy came by to meet us last weekend he is 16 . He was very polite and talkative . He holds a couple of jobs and likes hunting and fishing. He wants to come over this weekend again and my daughter wants to watch movies in the basement instead of in the living room with the rest of the family. I don't know if I'm ready for that. Sounds like a nice young man, better watching movies in the basement than out somewhere else. Between brining them some popcorn, re-setting the fuse, (any siblings you can send down?), you should be able to be down there fairly often. Just saying...
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
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I am 35 and up until 4 years ago was still chasing girls.
I will tell ya, parents be darned...if they are to stay out of trouble, there is nothing you can do at the time to keep them out of it. What you had to do was the years leading up to it to ensure they can stay out of trouble themselves.
That said, I was certainly not "trouble" in the eyes of any of the parents of the girls I was with in the past and all of the ones I met were happy to chat, and supported their daughters decisions. Parents liked me. To be honest, I think the "cleaning the shotgun when you first meet them" approach is a bit old, cliche, and "fudd ish" but that's not to say your reputation shouldn't precede you. I dated cops daughters, conservation officers daughters, and am friends with all the parents even still.
If you don't like the person, tell them them your point of view, tell her the guys is trouble and leave it at that. If the guy is bad enough he needs to be taken care of, do like an older french friend of mine did to a seriously bad apple his daughter was seeing...
"One day the guy just fell down the stairs and ended up in the hospital. And he never came around any more".
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
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07/16/20 07:42 AM
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I have 4 boys so I have no personal experience, but I have heard some great programs on Focus on the family about father/daughter relationships and dating Lots of resources on there website. Good luck
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
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Our Daughter is a very bright , kind and caring young lady. She is very open with her mother and I . The boy came by to meet us last weekend he is 16 . He was very polite and talkative . He holds a couple of jobs and likes hunting and fishing. He wants to come over this weekend again and my daughter wants to watch movies in the basement instead of in the living room with the rest of the family. I don't know if I'm ready for that. Sounds like a nice young man, better watching movies in the basement than out somewhere else. Between brining them some popcorn, re-setting the fuse, (any siblings you can send down?), you should be able to be down there fairly often. Just saying... And remove all blankets and coverings! I cant begin to remember all the times I was innocently in that scenario and the girl wanted to get frisky and risky while sitting with a blanket while family was there.
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
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Alert, this is not first hand experience. I worked with a wise older carpenter many years ago that was kind enough to share his experience while we were eating lunch one day. This older carpenter had a young teenage daughter that was starting to date. As I said, we were sitting around eating our lunch on a hot, humid, August day. One of the younger workers on the crew though he would tease the guy about his daughter about being at the age where she was starting to date. The older guy, with out missing a beat, while polishing off a sandwich told us his secret. He said he had not worried a bit since he started putting birth control pills into his daughters Cheerios. That got everyone roaring with laughter.
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
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we have two, 17 and 20. neither "dated" anybody that could drive before they could. at 15 3/4, I'd probably have been okay with them going on a date. prior to that, a movie or dinner was okay with a parent driving/dropping off. a parent or two would usually stay for the movie.
to me, it's important that they have/had certain freedoms and responsibilities before they were turned loose into the "real world". We try to keep open communication with them, but they know that we are their parent first, and their friend second. they also know that if they are in a bad situation, even if it is of their own making, we will help them out of it
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
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Our Daughter is a very bright , kind and caring young lady. She is very open with her mother and I . The boy came by to meet us last weekend he is 16 . He was very polite and talkative . He holds a couple of jobs and likes hunting and fishing. He wants to come over this weekend again and my daughter wants to watch movies in the basement instead of in the living room with the rest of the family. I don't know if I'm ready for that. Yep right out of my play book almost 50 yrs ago!!! Your bringing back the memories!!!
NRALIFER,PRPA LIFER,HUNTER,FURTAKER
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
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07/16/20 08:25 AM
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It’s already been said but if you have raised her in a loving environment where she got to see how a woman should be treated and what a relationship looks like, you won’t have a lot to worry about. This, by the time they date, they should already know how a girl should be treated. That said, you have absolutely no power over whom she brings home, you can only hope for the best. Also first impressions are important. If he walks into a house where trust and obedience are the rule of the day, that will shape his behavior . On a side note, a friend of mine had a young man ask once if he could sleep over, I believe his reply was " Sure, but your sleepin with ME".
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Re: Help! Dads with teenage daughters.
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07/16/20 10:35 AM
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I have a 15 and 3/4 year old daughter and the boys are starting to come calling. My question is at what age did you let your daughters date? What should I look out for? We always said 35 is a good age... Honestly there's nothing you can do now, but hope for the best. You could do what I did to chase off my wife's boy friends... I just gave them a good handshake, and they never came back . But it's your daughter so that isn't a good idea. My daughter turned 19 this year and has her first boyfriend... It's kinda funny her boyfriend hasn't gotten close enough to shake my hand yet... hmmm. How did we do It? I have no idea. The only thing I can think of is that she was home schooled, took horse riding lessons, went fishing, target shooting, hunting, and trapping... she got her trappers certification when she was 12. She won a trap setting contest the same year at the Arizona's Trappers Association rendezvous, I feel bad for all them farm boy's who got whooped. Kepp her busy. What to look out for? Gray hair in the mirror. Good Luck Oldtrapper
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