UPDATE:

I hope I am able to express what I have gone through and still some cases still going through. I am sure others on here have faced dilemma's similar to this, but I hope not. Twenty years ago I would have treated this situation like I would a mosquito bite, but time seems to have eroded my mental and physical will. Last year started off badly and got worse as the year went by. I lost my last uncle, 2 cousins, 3 friends and my brother. Although I hurt bad throughout the ordeal, I was still able to be strong for the remaining members of the families. But with each loss I could feel losses opening me up to deep depression and with the help of my long time PTSD strangling me I tried pushing on. I still had some perseverance left.

This year I lost another cousin and close confidant and then my sister-in-law. This put me more on edge, because she didn't have a Will. I had talked to her many time after my brother passed away, she need to get a Will, but she never did. As I stated before, I talked to her about the agreement and house. Her last comment a few days before she fell and then died were, that she was thinking of signing the house over to me. That never happen. Her daughters then promised me there was no problem about the house. But then there were other items at my brother house that belonged to me outright, that I had bought. I tried to get these items and several being guns, they couldn't find the key to brother gun safe. Then they couldn't find his ring of keys, which had the key to the garage, where we had stored several dozen decoys, and some traps. One gun was a small single shot, Hamilton, .22 cal rifle, my had bought me for my 8th birthday. Now it will be auctioned off on an online auction.

I talked to social workers, lawyers, a friend that is a judge, about the document that was the agreement with my bother over the house. They all told me the same thing. Once my brother died and the house went and everything in it and the garage, was hers and the agreement with him was no longer valid. The judge said, I could have a dozen agreements with him and none of them would be valid. Basically, with will every thing became property of the state, in the eyes of the Probate Court. It was the same answer with the items in the house, who has possession in this case is the owner.

I have been in some really tight and tough situations before, but this is the only the second time I was really scared. The only things I had were in this house, a life time of memories, both good and bad. I checked on small apartments to rent and the only worst case scenario apartments I would live in were $450, half of my Soc Sec. and I would have to rent a storage locker for the rest of my things would be another $50 or $60. A small house with a garage would be as much as my SS.

I have lived by myself for most all of the last 30 years. Now if I get a cousin or friend that stays with me for more than a couple of days, I become a nervous wreck. The only offer was to move to just outside of Chicago a few miles with my cousin and his wife, where I would have one room. I would loose my mind. I felt like I was standing on a high cliff and the rocks beginning to crumble under me. I got down on my knees and prayed. I felt there wasn't much else I could do. I felt that all of my pride and possessions had been stripped away. I had gone to the bank to see if I could get loan and was turned down. There was nothing I could do. So to escape the anguish, I got really drunk. I mean passing out drunk and waking up about 6 hours later. The worst drunk in at least 45 years. I didn't sleep the rest of the night. As a matter of fact I didn't sleep for 5 nights in a row and I was a zombie.

Sometime through those 6 days, I had emailed the last of my longtime close friends about what I was going through. The next morning after being drunk and dehumanized, I got a call from this friend. He told me there was no way he was going to let me go through this. He asked me if I had any money and told him I had what what I was saving for next years property tax and and a couple of hundred more, stuck back for more work I needed to do on my van (Trapperman Money). I told him I didn't like taking his money, He told me I didn't have any choice. That he would get the money for the house if I would pay the closing costs, and I pay him what ever I could, when I could. This certainly lifted a very large burden from my shoulders. So it looks like I will get to stay in this house until I die.

There is somewhat of a moral to this story... Don't get old... In our society today, an old person, to many people are expendable. Your opinion is worth nothing and so is your experience and knowledge. (Not so much on this site, thank you). Make sure everyone of your parents have a Will, whether they are 55 or 85. In 2009, I got my Will, paid for my funeral, bought my casket, my cemetery plot and head stone marker.

I am still having problems with my depression and PTSD and having trouble sleeping. That is why I am writing this at 4:15 AM. But at least I have some hope and I give Praises to the Good Lord for sending me Angels and that includes the members of Trapperman that have shown concern for my well being. Now I would ask for another miracle, and ask for my back to be healed so I could do a little more trapping this fall, but I don't want to push my luck.

Thank you all again.

Garry-

"This May be my last appearance on here... This is not asking for anything... just the facts.

When I moved from Florida back to Ohio... I did so at the request of my younger brother. It took him 3 years to convince me to do so. He wanted for us to be able hunt, fish and trap together again. In the meantime our mother passed away and he got her house, leaving his older home vacant, but need considerable work. We sign signed an agreement that I had the right to live in the house until I died.

So a year ago Aug he died with cancer and his wife became the owner of the house, I pleaded with her to get a will or to sign a new agreement. She told me she would, but she was thinking about Signing the house over to me, but she needed to talk to her daughters (2) about doing it. Well in March she fell and injured herself and died with in a couple of days. No will ... No Agreement.

Now I have received a letter from the girls attorney that I had 10 days to either decide to buy the house or be evicted. Well most of you know I don't have the money to buy the house, and my credit is not great or even good. The cheapest place in this area to rent is $450 a month, and I am not sure I would care to live in such a place.

So I am boxed in and my future doesn't look good. I haven't fully decided what I am going to do... but options are not good.

Just wanted to thank all of the friends I have made on here, even if I have never met you. I hope you all have a great season this year and every year after. It was good while it lasted."

-Garry

Hey mods, can we sticky this thread?

For me, I like to cut through all the Red Tape. Just post his home address or an address where he gets his mail and I will drop him a few bucks in the mail. A hole lot simpler for me.

Posting addresses and/or phone numbers is a really bad idea!! Too many antis cruise web sites like this looking for victims. Antis or no different than scammers or pediphiles, they know that the internet is prime hunting territory and provides a lot of identity protection.

Posting addresses and/or phone numbers is a really bad idea!! Too many antis cruise web sites like this looking for victims. Antis or no different than scammers or pediphiles, they know that the internet is prime hunting territory and provides a lot of identity protection.