Re: Daughters attitudes
[Re: adam m]
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Adam, are you looking for advise for the wife, kids, grand kids or great grand babies? I have no answer for you, haven't figured it out yet. (but i do have a tip for you.... no matter what they say your reply should be "you're right")
jim
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Re: Daughters attitudes
[Re: adam m]
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I concur with Pete, you and your wife have to be on the same wavelength, otherwise to quote the Italians, fogetaboutit.
"Inflation is always and everywhere a monetary phenomenon". Milton Friedman.
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Re: Daughters attitudes
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09/08/20 06:32 AM
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Not knowing any history it’s hard to give proper counsel.
If you are looking for something that will stick.....”Don’t disappoint Jesus and you won’t disappoint me, He can be with you all the time, I can’t.”
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Re: Daughters attitudes
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The number one piece of advice I could offer is you must be 100% supportive, consistent and united with your spouse. You're doomed if there's other forces at play. If you disagree on an issue, disagree and work it out behind closed doors.
Last edited by Crit-R-Dun; 09/08/20 08:36 AM.
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Re: Daughters attitudes
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I thought boys and girls are the same, so just treat them the same. That’s what most colleges teach so it has to be right. Lol
Hats off to all you guys raising girls. I’m still trying to figure out the one that blessed me with 4 boys. Good luck
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Re: Daughters attitudes
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On a side note*sarcasm here* the Chinese were way ahead of their time when the got rid of their baby girls....it's not that they aren't useful on the farm or wherever. It's because they didn't want to put up with these emotional basket cases from 10yo to 19yo.
Stops at 19? Heck I know plenty in their 40's that are still basket cases.
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Re: Daughters attitudes
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My daughter will turn 50 in a couple of years, Head nurse at our local hospital. Has her head on straight. I still say , she is my little girl. Proud dad. old243 Nice! Congrats.
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Re: Daughters attitudes
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I coached a girls soft ball team from minor league up to ASA, I remember the season when they was 13. Then season they turned 14 and 15 I remember saying to my wife what the heck happened LOL. My daughters when they hit around the 14 to 16, for one and 14 to 19 for the other was, well rough on them and dad. But as was said hugs and firmness, and many times real firm hugs helped things. the firmness was neededfor direction, but the hugs showed the love. It was not a easy time, but they got through it. and now they are daddys girls again even though they are in their late 30's with kids them self. Also what was already stated husban and wife must be on the same lines, working together not against, and I know many will not want to hear this, but GOD being a real part of our lives was the anchor.
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Re: Daughters attitudes
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These years are the start of self-independence and the start of more decision making. For children of both genders, what do they use as their template for "how do I do this?" Parents? Family? Friends? Society? It's complicated to boys and girls, and we call it "hormones" when it may be a completely different category of going-ons. The good news may be that there are ups and downs, self-independence to be structured, and decisions to be figured out, and a two parent home, if at all harmonious, is better equipped to walk the walk with any child than what many children face - pure hardship. It's part of the blessed maturing from young to old. Hug your daughter, discipline her with affection, and be so very thankful that the didn't stay a 9 year old for the rest of her life. That does happen. It's like the parents of a child with a debilitating mental disease that leaves their 1 year old baby a mental baby for the rest of his/her life. These parents would give all they own, would call it a blessing from God - if only their child could experience what other parents bemoan and call the "terrible 2's." It's all perspective. Smile that your daughter is healthy and the struggles of life carry on adam Blessings, Mark
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Re: Daughters attitudes
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mine are 15 and 18 , you are getting good advice here , you just kinda have to love them through it and not get soured by their attitude.
also when you can talk through good and bad life decisions using others as examples for not so good things to do.
I have a cousin in TN a collection of bad life decisions , her oldest daughter and mine are maybe 2 months different in age , 3 years ago now her oldest ran away eventually came home , but just explaining to my girls the huge risk factors , involved in both the lifestyle my cousin leads , for her girls and the massive too huge to describe risk factors of a 15 year old run away. it basically takes the perfect roll of the dice to not get hurt or worse.
some other things to work in as life lessons
-there is no free lunch .
-if something is free your the product on the lighter side Gmail, google search , you tube , face book , even trapperman in the very lightest way , in these things you are being marketed to advertisements placed in-front of you every time you use the platform. think about how your the product and are you ok with that.
- managing risk , risk vs reward understanding what the risk factors are.
my youngest daughter wow she was all exited about doing most everything with me when she was young she went to gun shows and you should have seen her so proud carrying around her first 22 at the gun show when was maybe 10 a couple years later she wants nothing to do with her gun other than no one else is allowed to touch it either just sits in the safe.
I can be cool or cool-ish or not embarrassing at times , but they are short , then ugg dad
best I can tell you have to ride it out and keep helping them with everything , let them know when they are displaying the big Attitude and when it is getting them in trouble and why. but be reasonable and keep loving them.
America only has one issue, we have a Responsibility crisis and everything else stems from it.
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