Isn't it intriguing that most in this country steeped in incredibly strong individualism are taught (urged) by culture to work it out by yourself: man up, sort it out, get over it, don't cry, stick with it, own it, push through, sort through it, beat this thing, and a 1,000 more isms just like these. We've all heard 'em because we were taught them our whole life.

Q: Is individualism the best way to deal with "stuff" and sort it all out?
Sometimes maybe. But if it is.....
Then why the deep chasm of grief over a loved one? Especially the loss of a child.
That's the opposite of "go it alone." That's missing someone else = the opposite of alone, true?
Maybe being with others we care about and care about us might work better,
but culture teaches us, once again, methods and ways that are backwards, not nourishing, to our mind, body, and soul. Shocker.

It was said by the only One who knows all this for 100% sure,
"it is not good for the man to be alone."
Wonder who does their best work in us when we remain alone?
Wishes the opposite of anything good for us and cheers on the misery and destructive ways?

Blessings,
Mark

Yes!^^^

I tell my Wife when a I do...even admitting the mood helps.

Providence,
I sympathize with you and hope you shake this. Sorry to hear about your son. I cannot imagine the pain. Wishing you the best my friend.
Found out 2 weeks ago that my cancer is detectable again. Been four and a half year battle so far.
I can't seem to get my mind in a good place.

best wishes Larry!!!

I used to call my wife "Sunshine" as she was always happy, smiling until we lost our adult son and only child in 2017. I wish I had the "old" wife back. They told her in therapy that she needs to let go of what's gone and be grateful for what remains. Wife says easy for someone to say that never experienced a loss. Mother's Day, his birthday and holidays are the worst. I have bad, sad days too but try not to let her know. Unless you've experienced the loss of a child no matter their age it leaves a huge hole in your heart.
Morris

Seems like loss is a huge driver for "grouchy" days. I can't imagine losing a child. I have only lost older relations, but those days are huge triggers for me to be in a bad mood.