Re: Child raising methods today.
[Re: Leftlane]
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07/22/21 08:18 PM
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Lawdog, I have a great friend outside of Colo Springs and I got to spend some time with him and his family last year. His wife has convinced him that the no spanking talk to your child BS works and his 5 year old son is completely out of control.
My fear is this, if you can't even get a handle on a kid at 5 what do you expect from him when he is 15? I've never really laid a hand on my kids. I think they might prefer that over my "discussions". They are some of the best behaved kids in our circle.
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Re: Child raising methods today.
[Re: Law Dog]
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07/22/21 08:25 PM
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You must be doing something right Pike. To be clear, my boy is 22 and only needed a small handfuls of corporal punishment to keep him on the straight and narrow. Some kids are just good kids and don't need that much 'encouragement'. I see others that probably only need one healthy dose of it and they would probably be cured. Just my thoughts anyway
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Re: Child raising methods today.
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We have a 36 year old daughter with a 16 and 14 year old. Very good kids. Respectful, excellent manners, good students. She has a boyfriend with a 9 and 6 year old. The boy, 9, loves to fish and when he does doesn't care who is in his way. Doesn't pay attention when casting. Snagged his little sister in the head bad enough she had to go to the ER. They told him he had to take a break from fishing till he could control himself. He looked at his sister and said "You (This word is unacceptable on Trapperman) I'm going to hook you again". My 31 year old son said, "Man if I ever said that to my sister I never would have seen your hand coming if I ever said something like that." I might have snapped my boys rod for a comment like that.
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Re: Child raising methods today.
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Wife and I went out to supper with one of our sons and his fiancé the other evening.Sat us next to a husband ,wife and three kids.The younger kid,,probly three years old,,was banging his spoon on a plate so hard and loud I thought the plate was gonna break.When he wasn't doing that,,he was screaming bloody murder at the top of his lungs.Parents sat talking like nothing was even happening.Waitress came to take our drink order,,and says I will be right back.Manager comes to our table and says its a bit noisy here,,follow me and you will get a new quieter table at the other side of the restaurant.LOL,,Kid didn't need a smack,,,the parents did.
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Re: Child raising methods today.
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You must be doing something right Pike. To be clear, my boy is 22 and only needed a small handfuls of corporal punishment to keep him on the straight and narrow. Some kids are just good kids and don't need that much 'encouragement'. I see others that probably only need one healthy dose of it and they would probably be cured. Just my thoughts anyway I don't disagree with you even if you are a Texan. As a young man growing up I look back and think of all the times I could've used a punch in the face. With my girls..... I started even when they were babies. Nipped any bad behavior in the bud. Folks thought I was too strict for babies but now we look back and see the fruitage of our ways.
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Re: Child raising methods today.
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07/22/21 08:48 PM
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If you want to teach your kids or your dog to ignore you, don't expect them to comply the first time you ask them to do something. Yup! All these parents giving their kids till the count of 5. Nope! This isn't a negotiation, I spoke, you listen. However.. I will give a heads up such as "in x amount of minutes this is happening"
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Re: Child raising methods today.
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If you want to teach your kids or your dog to ignore you, don't expect them to comply the first time you ask them to do something. Yup! All these parents giving their kids till the count of 5. Nope! This isn't a negotiation, I spoke, you listen. However.. I will give a heads up such as "in x amount of minutes this is happening" The heads up thing is a good idea and I used that. Another thing we did was use an appeals process. I didn't want to viewed as an ironfisted tyrant so we let the kids give us some additional information on a decision we had made. They would literally ask us if they could appeal a decision. We always let them appeal. Sometimes they won the appeal, sometimes they didn't but it gave them a feeling their input mattered. Respect and love your kids, they're a precious gift.
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Re: Child raising methods today.
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Three things to instill in young children from the get-go: 1. It's your house, your rules. 2. You're paying the cost to be the boss 3. . . . and you're a he// of a lot bigger than they are. :-)
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Re: Child raising methods today.
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I'm going to go against the grain here. I have 5 brothers and sister and we were not spanked. Maybe a pat on the butt to get attention but that was it. All professionals excelling in their fields. All upstanding members of the religious and overall community.
Raised my 3 the same way. My youngest is 18 and we've never even had to deal with a traffic ticket. We were often told how nice and well behaved our kids were/are. Not saying that to brag, I just want to show there is more than one way to do it.
I’d guess the difference would be the electronics today that fill the quality time you spent with your kids and family.
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Re: Child raising methods today.
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I'm going to go against the grain here. I have 5 brothers and sister and we were not spanked. Maybe a pat on the butt to get attention but that was it. All professionals excelling in their fields. All upstanding members of the religious and overall community.
Raised my 3 the same way. My youngest is 18 and we've never even had to deal with a traffic ticket. We were often told how nice and well behaved our kids were/are. Not saying that to brag, I just want to show there is more than one way to do it.
I’d guess the difference would be the electronics today that fill the quality time you spent with your kids and family. Good point. We had a game console in the living room but even that was done as a family.
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Re: Child raising methods today.
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Three things to instill in young children from the get-go: 1. It's your house, your rules. 2. You're paying the cost to be the boss 3. . . . and you're a he// of a lot bigger than they are. :-) Yep and I’ll add. We can be friends when you’re 22 and on your own. I have 4 great God fearing boys. They aren’t perfect but the wife and I have got complaints from age 2 until 20 on how well behaved and polite they are. The devil pads and devil pods are the ruination of the society.
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Re: Child raising methods today.
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21Evil pursueth sinners: but to the righteous good shall be repayed. 22A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children: and the wealth of the sinner is laid up for the just. 23Much food is in the tillage of the poor: but there is that is destroyed for want of judgment. 24He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. 25The righteous eateth to the satisfying of his soul: but the belly of the wicked shall want.
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Re: Child raising methods today.
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07/22/21 11:27 PM
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The "trick" is knowing the difference between corporal punishment and discipline :-)
"Humans are the hardest people to get along with." Dr. Phillip Snow
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