I mean I do have both anxiety and depression and according to the shrink yeah it played a part in it but what y'all call a spanking and what I do are probably two separate things

At least you are able to differentiate between a spanking and hitting.

Sorry for your anxiety and depression. As smart as you are, I don't believe a spanking contributed in any way to any of your conditions. I am sorry for the actions that caused your internal pain.

Prayers for you.

Have you ever raised any animals ?
They snip their young when they need it .
Dogs , cats , rabbits , seen them all put their young in their place .
It's part of teaching , just like in the days when a doctor was hundreds of miles away .
Parents would stick their toddlers hands in the fire place to teach them not to play with fire .
Sure it hurt the child , but it more than likely saved their lives also .

To clarify so others don't misunderstand you, toddlers hands were put very close to the fire to feel an uncomfortable heat so they did not get burned.

Some people on here will think you meant shoving the kids hand into the fire until it was blistered and the child was writhing in the floor in agony.

For thinking people, that concept is very easy to understand. For the non thinking people, well..........

Ohio, LOL, I'd like to think the human being is above this animal instinct, but having read this thread and replied to it as well,
it seems we may never evolve out of the animal kingdom !

Animals lick their own butt too.

Ok, ok, I'm really done this time.

In Montana is 45-3-107 I kept a copy very handy when my kids lived at home .

Make sure of your target if and when you spank a kid .

Thank you you're right .
Sad that even though people today see the things that are happening today that didn't happen back 60-70 years ago , all after the government stepped in with DR Spock's teachings .

Most humans can't kill their own food.

Who's the dummy?

SMH

I had 3 boys that needed a smack on the butt when they got out of line. The 4th had a good chance of being a nut case if I kept spanking him. Each kid is different. Adjust as needed is my opinion

If parents don't discipline them when they are young, the government will be forced to discipline them when they are adults; fines, prison, etc..
And it's always tougher to teach old dogs new tricks.

I don't know either , I was the youngest of 5 boys , 3 older sisters and two younger sisters .
Trust me I was beat up often by older brothers .
I became a loner , did things without my brothers .
Hunted and trapped , until they became interested in what I was doing .
Taught them what I knew , and was never told thank you .
But when hunting they always asked me for advice .
It doesn't matter , as I had my butt spanked by more than my parents .
Strange I didn't ever think about killing anyone but my brothers when I was little .
Never wanted to kill anyone and even though I've killed my pet rabbits, chickens , cows for dinner , and hunted before my brothers did .
Killed thousands of animals , never had a thought of killing or disrespecting others !
Never was mean to animals or children , but did spank them when needed while young .
Only God knows why .
There's plenty of humans ( civilized ) that lick each others butts , and would their own if they could !

There's plenty of humans ( civilized ) that lick each others butts , and would their own if they could !

8 seems a bit late for spankings and especially from a great uncle. Adhd is real and you will not beat it out of a person. You say you rarely see this family yet you can diagnose the child's brain chemistry. Good on ya bud, I'd have kept those thoughts to myself.

Were you spanked as a child? And I don't believe you're done. You haven't had the last word.

I was youngest of 4 rough and tumble semi farm boys. Mom and grandma next door who raised 15 kids, 10 boys and 5 girls, had very well honed spanking skills. They were not all full on whoopins. Most were 1 or 2 warning swats, not heeding the warning often resulted in a formal set of 6 to 8 well aimed swats. We all earned every one fair and square. We all grew up with Respect, no criminal records, always rushed home to take care of or help aging or in need relatives. And all these years later, all of us whooped kids still maintain the same ties, even though those awful parents and grandparents that "hit" us kids have long ago left this earth. I can say the same adults that swatted us would also gather us kids around for story time, bible readings by grandma, pass out poor folk gifts and treats made for all us kids, even if you got the full on whoopin 2 hours prior. Best childhood ever.

Quite a few years ago my brother in law and sister in law were here with their twin boys. They were about 6-8. Just about completely feral . I had been doing some painting and had some of those paint mixing sticks on the coffee table. I grabbed one twin in one hand and a paint stick in the other and gave that kid 3-4 quick smacks. His brother ran out the door. Mom and dad got mad and left. But neither one ever ignored uncle danny again when I said no.

a kid running amok in my house is going to be reined up.

The first wife had friends with a “energetic” kid. They came over one day and he started his Tasmanian Devil routine and I put a stop to it. The parents kept commenting how he was a different kid when he came to our house.

Month later we are over to their place and the kid pushes the tv off the tv stand then starts stomping his ice cream in the recliner (the ice cream was to make him be good lol). They turn to me and ask me to say something to him. I said to them, “This is your house, not my place to say anything. I just wasn’t going to let him destroy ours.”

My stepson has ADHD. Spanking didn't work. Taking everything from his room except his bed didn't work, he would just sleep. Etc.,etc.
When he was about 14, him and his buddies got in what they thought was an abandoned mobile home. Kicked holes in the walls, broke windows, etc. When I found out about it from the sheriff's office, I had enough. I proceeded to grab him by the scruff of the shirt, place him with enough force against the wall to get his attention, then told him if it ever happens again I would be using my fist to correct the problem. That worked, never had anymore trouble of that sorts with him again.