have you ever disowned a family member, my dad did this to my older brother, never understood how he could do this , when I was young , but when I got older I understood , now I'm ready to disown my oldest daughter, she had a drug problem for 15 years has try to beat it many times ,seem she just can't beat it and when she does she don't care about anyone but herself !!!. her kids my grandchildren suffer the most, Kim and I have raised them for years at a time, and looks like we will be again, rant over thanks for listening

Understand, and pray for your family's strength with these situations.

A tough situation for sure. She may be a lost cause, but your grandkids aren't and will need you. Hats off to you and your wife for stepping up for them!

I am sorry to hear of your problems with your daughter, I hope and pray things work out for you.

Sadly your story isn't unusual these days. Drugs have destroyed alot of people. No answer for you on the disowning.

Have 5 kids ,one black sheep ,Her children have all followed in her footsteps except one .Good luck to you

Never disowned my kids but I've never not let them know when they make poor life choices which in turn makes me the bad guy at times. Oh well, love endures.. I hope for the best in your troubles.

Disowned is not really the term I would use for your situation. If she got herself together you’d be glad for her, yes?

No doubt a tough situation. We will be praying for your family.

I am sorry to hear this, I hope things get better. Your grandkids will appreciate your efforts and will never forget it. Hopefully eventually your daughter will too.

I hate hearing that. Drugs have wreaked havoc in my family too. IMO sometimes you just have to cut a loved one loose. No more "help". A few people finally come to their senses. The hard part in my experiance is forgiving yourself. Coming to see its not your fault. Its a hole in the drug addict I believe some people are born with. Have to cut em loose, tend only to those who really benefit.

It’s a terrible thing Roy. I have dealt with siblings drug addiction for years. I know exactly what you mean about not caring about anything but herself. I’ve gone both ways with this too. When do I say enough is enough and when do I say, here I am to help. I pray that the Lord will give you wisdom in this matter. Ultimately, you are not in control of her, it’s her choices, right or wrong. None of it is your fault. I will say what others have too. Make sure them kids are taken care of.

Addicts need help. Sometimes, the help they need is to be cold, hungry, miserable, sick, and alone, living under a bridge,in order to make them realize that they need to do whatever it takes to quit.
That's different than "disowning", though. Disowning is final, there's no going back. Leaving an addict to rot in their addiction doesn't have to be final. Once they get help and get sober, they can be welcomed back, even If the relationship is never what it could have been.

I have disowned a generous amount of my close family. Family will stab you in the back quicker and deeper than any stranger could. I figure its because they know you probably wont shoot em over it.

Family are also like meth heads they will steal your wallet and smile and help you look for it.

My real friends (and there are very few) have helped me out way more than my family ever has with very few exceptions.

I've been around this crap for the last 40 years. You can only do so much to help people. Sometimes all you can do is be there to talk to them if they want it. If.

Tough Love

Prayers for relief.

Sorry to hear Roy, prayers and all you can do is pray and be there to listen....

It kills me to hear these stories. Sending prayers for you and your family.

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It's the only program that has super high long-term success rates for sobriety and family restoration.

The worst thing you can do is give up on her or disown her. What she needs to hear are words like, "I will never stop loving you no matter what" and "I will never give up on you." You have to realize she doesn't want this any more than you do! She's powerless to control it through her own will. She can't change her behavior. She needs to have a change of heart.

I know your frustrated, but abandoning her will just make it worse. It's not a bad idea to have her kids taken away from her, it's a powerful bargain chip to get her into some place like Teen Challenge that will transform her life.

I wouldn't talk to my brother for years .. he had a drug problem, and would steal from his own family for drug money ..
It's finally over now ...... he put a 308 in his mouth and pulled the trigger .....