Two words. Teen Challenge. Check it out. https://www.google.com/search?q=mic...223j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8


It's the only program that has super high long-term success rates for sobriety and family restoration.

The worst thing you can do is give up on her or disown her. What she needs to hear are words like, "I will never stop loving you no matter what" and "I will never give up on you." You have to realize she doesn't want this any more than you do! She's powerless to control it through her own will. She can't change her behavior. She needs to have a change of heart.

I know your frustrated, but abandoning her will just make it worse. It's not a bad idea to have her kids taken away from her, it's a powerful bargain chip to get her into some place like Teen Challenge that will transform her life.

From the time I was a teenager I was told by my parents that I would never do anything with my life and would always be a POS. I finally got tired of it and realized that they were the ones with problems. That was 30 years ago. They both died 10 or 12 years ago, not exactly sure and it doesn't matter. Funny thing is that I was the youngest and first person in my family to own a house, have credit/cards or be able to save any type of money. I have a great job and make a better living than all of them together. The thing that bothered me the most is that most of my relatives (spread out around the country) had heard my parents put me down so much that they believe it to this day. I used to try to figure out why they had the feelings about me that they did but finally realized it wasn't worth my time. Now I spend my time keeping my small family doing the best we can.

For everyone out there struggling with family or addictions keep your chin up and make sure your doing the best for you.

thanks everyone for your thoughts ,

people understand this we love our daughter!!!!, it is killing us to watch her go thru life like this, she knows we love her or should by all we have done try to help her and tell her that we do [love her] but she is a user and a liar, can't believe anything she say or her husband, at this point its up to them an the state at . can't help someone that don't want it

I will pray for you, your daughter, and your grandkids. That God would work a miracle of redemption like only He can (and has done before). Makes me think of how God is constantly loving us and showing His grace to us, even as we all sin, turning our backs on Him to some degree so many times in our walk, but His mercies are new every morning. Praise God. Sometimes the most loving thing we can do is to step away and allow the consequences of our loved ones choices to truly set in, meanwhile praying for, waiting and watching for their repentance. I will pray for your situation often.