Recently, my daughter said she wanted to be treated like a "big girl"/teen. I said ok then there is more expectations, responsibilities that comes with that.

Today I told the kids to be ready at a certain time. Few minutes after said time my daughter wasn't ready so I left. Hahaha. Later, she says she forgot her track uniform and shoes at a family member's house. I told her too bad. Hahaha

Now I'm the bad for calling her bluff. lmbo

She asked again to get her stuff I said I will not go there today, I have a couple errands around that area tomorrow so I will get her stuff then when I'm in the area. She says she needed it first thing in the morning. Told her too bad, it's her responsibility.

Wow. Glad I don’t treat myself the way you treat them. Everyone forgets something every now and then. And I’m guessing a track uniform is school related so she not only has classes but participates in sports. I can understand teaching responsibility, but dang it man. How old is she?

Haha good work

Tough Love

Watch out for karma.

They will learn.

I think what you did was completely fair. Life is hard. Being soft doesn't help them. Good lesson. She asked to be treated more grown up and she got what she asked for.

Totally disagree, if a child wishes to be treated as an adult then they should be given the opportunity to do so and that includes the negatives as well as the percs, if you or I left something we need somewhere we wouldn’t have someone around to take time off what they are doing to go run and get it, it would be up to us to figure out how to get it or how to go without till we could, sadly you see it all the time people want the benefits of something without having to also accept the responsibility’s that go along with it

Adam anyway she could earn the ride to get the uniform? I agree with the tough love and actions have consequences but problem solving is also a skill that needs to be taught.

This is True and doesn't build resentment

I'm sure she'll figure out how to get the stuff she needs before the morning. I gave her 2 options I can do for her but it wasn't good enough so she's on her own to figure it out. Tough love.

I'll also suggest if she pays for my gas I'll take her today. The family members house is not close to me.

Good luck Adam dealing with teens let alone teen girls is rough, id rather have to play the badger in the barrel game that was posted about then go back to having to raise teens again.

Hopefully she can figure out away to solve her dilemma.

If needed go grab her stuff without her knowing you did it till you give it to her in the morning, set her up to succeed and tell her you wanted her to try to solve the problem but you love her and didn't want her to fall behind or not to be able to participate in track. Then let her know your always there and together you can find solutions to problems. Just my 2 cents

You running after them teaches them someone will always wipe their butt Those that disagree don't have kids or try to justify their lack of parenting that is teaching your kids how the world actually works

Kids need to learn how to be responsible for the little stuff first or they’ll never learn to be responsible for the big stuff later…. LIFE .

Its called "Tough Love"!

Theres a lesson to be learned.

Exactly right.

Your illness has to be making it difficult for a young teen. Cut her some slack. You’ve made your point.

It's really sad when a man comes on here one month and asks for money to help his families kitchen and bathroom get fixed. But the next month tells his daughter "Naw You figure out how to get yourself out of your predicament."

You aren't calling her bluff. You're just being a butthole.

HURRAY!

Do you know what behavior she had the lead up to this course of action? I don't from what's posted. I'm guessing your one of the old guys not having to deal with today's teens.