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Single again? #7580536
05/09/22 12:50 PM
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Well I maybe single again, had an argument with the wife/girlfriend this weekend and don't know what I said that hurt her but she hasn't spoken to me since Saturday. She won't talk at all and moved into the spare room. Will see if she comes home from work today or moves out when I get home. This sucks loosing your best friend and partner we've been together for 8 years and I know I didn't handle my part correctly but I really don't know what I said.

Re: Single again? [Re: nvwrangler] #7580540
05/09/22 12:59 PM
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well if you want to keep her

start with , I am not sure what I did or said , but I don't want to lose you and the relationship we have, can we talk this out? if she starts talking start taking notes at lease mental ones.

I don't know much about women but admitting you don't know what you did or didn't do and asking to talk it out works better than silence.


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Re: Single again? [Re: GREENCOUNTYPETE] #7580546
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Originally Posted by GREENCOUNTYPETE
well if you want to keep her

start with , I am not sure what I did or said , but I don't want to lose you and the relationship we have, can we talk this out? if she starts talking start taking notes at lease mental ones.

I don't know much about women but admitting you don't know what you did or didn't do and asking to talk it out works better than silence.





When she came home last night I asked if she wanted to talk and got told no and that I knew what I had said . When I told her I didn't know what had her hurt like this , she just said figure it out. Heck this wasn't even one of the nastier fights we've had, really didn't even raise our voices but I said something wrong or what she thought I said really hurt her. No clue other then I know I was wrong on how I handled parts of this.

Re: Single again? [Re: nvwrangler] #7580549
05/09/22 01:12 PM
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I hate the games women play

I hope it works out for you , either way ....


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Re: Single again? [Re: nvwrangler] #7580550
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Thanks Anti

Re: Single again? [Re: nvwrangler] #7580554
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If she is that upset at something you dont even recognize,she may be looking for some excuse to end it.
The fact that she doesnt even want to talk it out says a lot.
Give it a couple more days then if no dialogue show her the door.


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Re: Single again? [Re: nvwrangler] #7580571
05/09/22 01:35 PM
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From a womenís perspective - maybe she has other issues going on and what you said pushed her over the edge. Maybe your comment would normally not have been a big deal but in this case it was the tipping point. Some times it is due to hormones.

Iíd give it another day and if she still isnít talking, tell her you would like to work this out but you honestly donít know what you said and that you would appreciate if she would give you some sort of clue so you can figure it out.

Good Luck. 8 years is a long time to throw it all away over something that might be minor.


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Re: Single again? [Re: nvwrangler] #7580574
05/09/22 01:41 PM
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Dump her, you don't need the bs. Plenty of fish in the sea!

Re: Single again? [Re: nvwrangler] #7580578
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Did you tell her happy mother's day and buy flowers?


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Re: Single again? [Re: nvwrangler] #7580583
05/09/22 01:52 PM
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Could wind up to be a good thing for you...I think being able to be happy while living alone is a good attribute. We all may be better off without people that behave irrationally.


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Re: Single again? [Re: nvwrangler] #7580586
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She cheated and feels guilty.

Re: Single again? [Re: Gary Benson] #7580588
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Originally Posted by Gary Benson
Did you tell her happy mother's day and buy flowers?


No I set up a night with her daughter and girl friends at one of the local casinos, the fight was over the fact that they decided to stay a second night and didn't let me know till after 5 on the second day. We have had this argument before when ever a friend or one of her kids come to town I get dropped like a hot potato. I mean no calls not included in anything and its like I'm not there. I know she isn't playing around on me no worries there she just forgets to communicate with me. They showed up at the house at 5 and I had been at mom's working on the garden and wasn't home. Then got the why aren't you home phone call. I hadn't heard from her since 11 when they went for brunch so I found stuff to do as I had planned on spending the day with them. It just went down hill after she sprung the second night in town on me.

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Originally Posted by peej
She cheated and feels guilty.


Not a chance

Re: Single again? [Re: nvwrangler] #7580593
05/09/22 02:04 PM
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Originally Posted by nvwrangler
Well I maybe single again, had an argument with the wife/girlfriend this weekend and don't know what I said that hurt her but she hasn't spoken to me since Saturday. She won't talk at all and moved into the spare room. Will see if she comes home from work today or moves out when I get home. This sucks loosing your best friend and partner we've been together for 8 years and I know I didn't handle my part correctly but I really don't know what I said.


What do you actually remember saying?

Keith

Re: Single again? [Re: nvwrangler] #7580595
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Originally Posted by nvwrangler
Originally Posted by Gary Benson
Did you tell her happy mother's day and buy flowers?


No I set up a night with her daughter and girl friends at one of the local casinos, the fight was over the fact that they decided to stay a second night and didn't let me know till after 5 on the second day. We have had this argument before when ever a friend or one of her kids come to town I get dropped like a hot potato. I mean no calls not included in anything and its like I'm not there. I know she isn't playing around on me no worries there she just forgets to communicate with me. They showed up at the house at 5 and I had been at mom's working on the garden and wasn't home. Then got the why aren't you home phone call. I hadn't heard from her since 11 when they went for brunch so I found stuff to do as I had planned on spending the day with them. It just went down hill after she sprung the second night in town on me.


She went to town but didn't stay the night , her daughter did but not her. Didn't talk to me yesterday went to town to see her daughter and get her on the plane home and then to a friends house till 8 last night.

Re: Single again? [Re: KeithC] #7580597
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Originally Posted by KeithC
Originally Posted by nvwrangler
Well I maybe single again, had an argument with the wife/girlfriend this weekend and don't know what I said that hurt her but she hasn't spoken to me since Saturday. She won't talk at all and moved into the spare room. Will see if she comes home from work today or moves out when I get home. This sucks loosing your best friend and partner we've been together for 8 years and I know I didn't handle my part correctly but I really don't know what I said.


What do you actually remember saying?

Keith


That they didn't need to come to moms with me because as she stated this was HER weekend to spend with her daughter and I didn't want to distract her from Her weekend. I asked her if that was what I said that started this and she said it wasn't but I would figure it out.

Re: Single again? [Re: nvwrangler] #7580611
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The daughter would probably know whatís going on. Do you communicate with her?

Re: Single again? [Re: nvwrangler] #7580612
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Originally Posted by KeithC
Originally Posted by nvwrangler
Well I maybe single again, had an argument with the wife/girlfriend this weekend and don't know what I said that hurt her but she hasn't spoken to me since Saturday. She won't talk at all and moved into the spare room. Will see if she comes home from work today or moves out when I get home. This sucks loosing your best friend and partner we've been together for 8 years and I know I didn't handle my part correctly but I really don't know what I said.


What do you actually remember saying?

Keith


Originally Posted by nvwrangler
That they didn't need to come to moms with me because as she stated this was HER weekend to spend with her daughter and I didn't want to distract her from Her weekend. I asked her if that was what I said that started this and she said it wasn't but I would figure it out.


Is she your wife or your girlfriend?

How old is her daughter?

Does your mother get along with her and her daughter?

I think she may feel that your relationship with her is not recognized enough or important enough to you and your family. She may be thinking that her daughter should be your daughter, in your mind too.

Keith

Re: Single again? [Re: 3 Fingers] #7580615
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Originally Posted by 3 Fingers
The daughter would probably know what’s going on. Do you communicate with her?


No she's 27 and from LA so we don't talk , she wanted to surprise her mom so I helped with the planning on this end. She was at college when her mom and I got together. She wanted to stay the second night and gamble.

Re: Single again? [Re: nvwrangler] #7580619
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sounds like too much drama.

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