Re: Single again?
[Re: west river rogue]
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05/09/22 02:48 PM
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sounds like too much drama. The daughter should be on a realty show , looks, acts and behaves like she is . Nice kid but 100% LA and that life style. Every thing is about money
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Re: Single again?
[Re: BernieB.]
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05/09/22 02:51 PM
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Sounds like you both need some serious relationship counseling. To be honest probably do. Just needed to vent and apricate that I can here and maybe get some wisdom from some of the folks here with decades of marriage experience.
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Re: Single again?
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05/09/22 02:54 PM
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I'm stubborn, and things are always different from the outside looking in, but I'd play the same game. If she wants to act that way, let her. Go about your day as you normally would, and don't let it get to you. If she wants to sit down and talk like adults, great, then have that conversation. If she wants to pout about some made-up scenario or something that was a miscommunication, that's her issue, not yours. She should be able to explain to you why she's upset.
At the same time, I've said or done some things in the past that I didn't realise would upset my wife. After talking it out and looking at it from her perspective, I realised how what was said or done could have been taken in a way that could be hurtful. I think in general, us guys are pretty simple when it comes to emotions. Maybe that's just me, I dunno.
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Re: Single again?
[Re: nvwrangler]
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05/09/22 02:57 PM
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Sounds like you both need some serious relationship counseling. To be honest probably do. Just needed to vent and apricate that I can here and maybe get some wisdom from some of the folks here with decades of marriage experience. There's no probably about it. You're both a mess. It's pretty obvious from just the few things you have said. If she won't go to marriage counseling with you then just move on and get counseling on your own. Otherwise you're just taking the same bad relationship tactics into the next relationship.
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Re: Single again?
[Re: nvwrangler]
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05/09/22 02:58 PM
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I have been calling her my wife as she calls me her husband but were not married, I've tried to get close to her kids but it hasn't been easy to do. They were just raised different and act kinda entitled. When she moved to Nevada to live with me her kids said she abandoned them. She had lost her job and I supported her for 3 months and she found the same job here. Mom gets along with them both in fact she calls my mom , mom. I had planned a nice breakfast with everybody at moms until the this was HER weekend with Her daughter comment and I popped of with the don't let me get in your way comment. I think it's likely then that your girlfriend thought that she and her daughter should have been a bigger part of your Mother's Day plans with your mother, or that you should have at least felt more distress that they could not have been there. If you want to keep her, you need to make her feel like she is more important to you. There may be a part of her that resents not being married. She may think that you think she is not good enough to marry. I would still not advise marrying her until you fix your problems. Keith
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Re: Single again?
[Re: BernieB.]
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05/09/22 03:05 PM
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Yes sir
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Sounds like you both need some serious relationship counseling. I'm thinking Savell will b along this evening after counseling himself through a few beers first. He must know something to be able to hang on to that wife of his who obviously out of league. If nothing else he'll sure brighten ur spirit a little bit.
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Re: Single again?
[Re: Yes sir]
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05/09/22 03:10 PM
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Sounds like you both need some serious relationship counseling. I'm thinking Savell will b along this evening after counseling himself through a few beers first. He must know something to be able to hang on to that wife of his who obviously out of league. If nothing else he'll sure brighten ur spirit a little bit. Between him and left lane they'll have me fixed rite up lol.
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Re: Single again?
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05/09/22 03:24 PM
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" We have had this argument before when ever a friend or one of her kids come to town I get dropped like a hot potato." " I set up a night with her daughter and girl friends at one of the local casinos, the fight was over the fact that they decided to stay a second night and didn't let me know till after 5 on the second day. I mean no calls not included in anything and its like I'm not there." " she just forgets to communicate with me "
She is probably an excellent girlfriend , with the benefits a relationship can blossom into. If a permanent thing is Both of your goals Serious dedication and counseling is gonna be needed.
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Re: Single again?
[Re: nvwrangler]
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05/09/22 03:29 PM
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I have been calling her my wife as she calls me her husband but were not married, I've tried to get close to her kids but it hasn't been easy to do. They were just raised different and act kinda entitled. When she moved to Nevada to live with me her kids said she abandoned them. She had lost her job and I supported her for 3 months and she found the same job here. Mom gets along with them both in fact she calls my mom , mom. I had planned a nice breakfast with everybody at moms until the this was HER weekend with Her daughter comment and I popped of with the don't let me get in your way comment. I bet this was it. It may not be totally what you said, but how you said it. My wife tells me all the time my tone is worse than the words I use.
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Re: Single again?
[Re: nvwrangler]
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05/09/22 03:31 PM
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I'm confused. At first you said they stayed for an extra day and didn't tell you until 5pm on the second day, then said they came home at 5pm the second day, meaning they didn't tell you until they came home. But then you said you talked to her at brunch on the second day. And then you said she didn't stay a second day, only the daughter did. Then you said she didn't come home until 8pm the second day. So I'm pretty lost.
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Re: Single again?
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05/09/22 03:34 PM
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With Leftlane it will only b one night...... weeks top and u probably won't even remember her name. Ouch, I should prolly defend myself but maybe I will let it slide this one time LOL.
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Re: Single again?
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05/09/22 03:35 PM
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I'm confused. At first you said they stayed for an extra day and didn't tell you until 5pm on the second day, then said they came home at 5pm the second day, meaning they didn't tell you until they came home. But then you said you talked to her at brunch on the second day. And then you said she didn't stay a second day, only the daughter did. Then you said she didn't come home until 8pm the second day. So I'm pretty lost. Dinner was Friday night , I talked to her at brunch on Saturday morning and then they came to the house Saturday evening at 5. The daughter and her went back to town and gambled for awhile and she came home at midnight, She went to town on Sunday morning and got home last night at 8.
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Re: Single again?
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05/09/22 03:37 PM
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If she is that upset at something you dont even recognize,she may be looking for some excuse to end it. The fact that she doesnt even want to talk it out says a lot. Give it a couple more days then if no dialogue show her the door. Absolutely this. This world festers these days with worthless drama. If people who are so close to one another that they live together can’t be bothered to be civil and open, open the door and shove. NEVER lower your standards for anyone. Osky
"A womans heart is the hardest rock the Almighty has put on this earth, and I can find no sign on it" Jabless in Minnesota www.SureDockusa.com
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