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Re: Retirement..how to deal with the changes? [Re: FairbanksLS] #7591985
05/26/22 06:19 PM
05/26/22 06:19 PM
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West Virginia,age 49
cathryn Offline OP
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Originally Posted by white dog
Now you’re advising both men and women on how to train their significant others. Is your expertise based on your own training?

Any advice I gave came things I learned from the school of hard knocks.


IF IDIOTS GREW ON TREES THIS PLACE WOULD BE AN ORCHARD !

Re: Retirement..how to deal with the changes? [Re: lumberjack391] #7591989
05/26/22 06:24 PM
05/26/22 06:24 PM
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West Virginia,age 49
cathryn Offline OP
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Originally Posted by lumberjack391
I thought he trapped away during the winter" so if he worked from may til nov, and trapped from nov til apr, when was he home?

He was home from Nov 3rd till about Dec 1st when he goes to arkansas.. Then Dec 22 till Jan 2Arkansas. He's home but while he was home.home just means hes in wv. Because then he stays at his house for 10 days to trap northern wv.then he's in the mntns at his brothers for a wee or so.

Then Jan 31 he's in Mississippi until March 3rd or 4th. Then he was home tiill april 30th to May 10 depending.

E figured up one time he was actually here together for about 93 or so days a year..if that.


IF IDIOTS GREW ON TREES THIS PLACE WOULD BE AN ORCHARD !

Re: Retirement..how to deal with the changes? [Re: cathryn] #7591997
05/26/22 06:32 PM
05/26/22 06:32 PM
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Ohio
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Get a hobby away from home. I have no clue what your interests are so can't help there.

Volunteer to help out at a local homeless shelter or a battered women's shelter. That will help you to put things in perspective

If all else fails, I have a garden that always needs weeding and a few acres of grass that needs mowed every week. I wouldn't mind letting you do that and then I could have more time for one of my hobbies which is chasing a white ball around. grin

Good luck!!


Randy
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Re: Retirement..how to deal with the changes? [Re: cathryn] #7592008
05/26/22 06:46 PM
05/26/22 06:46 PM
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West Virginia,age 49
cathryn Offline OP
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Of those 90 or.so.days we are together 85 of them

Thanks computer hater. Problem is gardening was my jobby.lol

I feel like he changed job and I'm the one who retired.against My will


IF IDIOTS GREW ON TREES THIS PLACE WOULD BE AN ORCHARD !

Re: Retirement..how to deal with the changes? [Re: cathryn] #7592014
05/26/22 06:54 PM
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It’s easy to love someone that you only spend 3 months a year with. That other 9 can take it’s toll. Haha

At least it did with me.

Last edited by white dog; 05/26/22 06:55 PM.

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Re: Retirement..how to deal with the changes? [Re: cathryn] #7592016
05/26/22 06:56 PM
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You’ll figure it out and live happily ever after.


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Re: Retirement..how to deal with the changes? [Re: cathryn] #7592038
05/26/22 07:27 PM
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Do you think that he might feel like he has left all this "extra" work for you to do for all these years and now feels like he is making up to you for all the years that you had to do it all yourself? Basically, he retired and took your job.


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Re: Retirement..how to deal with the changes? [Re: Wanna Be] #7592196
05/27/22 01:08 AM
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No real advice but learn to adjust to not having to be productive all the time. For me it was not easy to do that. I also feel I made the error in thinking that "retirement is something you enter or go into" After a few years I feel a better thought process woud have been that it is something I let come to me instead of going to get.

Bryce

Re: Retirement..how to deal with the changes? [Re: cathryn] #7592256
05/27/22 06:49 AM
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my aunt and uncle , had the same problem, she finally had to tell him , to find something to doon his own, he stated taking walks, was up to 10 miles, then he got active in the legion and that took up all his spare time

Re: Retirement..how to deal with the changes? [Re: cathryn] #7592318
05/27/22 08:22 AM
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Send him a link to this thread.


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“A people that values its privileges above its principles soon loses both.”

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Re: Retirement..how to deal with the changes? [Re: cathryn] #7592325
05/27/22 08:30 AM
05/27/22 08:30 AM
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Goldsboro, North Carolina
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For heaven's sake woman, talk to the man about how you're feeling. Men aren't complicated, and will usually work for a solution when confronted with a problem. Sometimes I think some "folks" enjoy the turmoil they put themselves through.



Re: Retirement..how to deal with the changes? [Re: cathryn] #7592336
05/27/22 08:47 AM
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If these 2 can make it work….you should have no problem


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Re: Retirement..how to deal with the changes? [Re: cathryn] #7592356
05/27/22 09:26 AM
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I have my Cows , 12 fruit trees. 200 pines. Garage , chicken coops. I do projects off Pinterest, Build birdhouse and feeders. Sell on Etsy. Garden is mine 98% canning is hers.

She works as a Nurse part time. Picks up shifts when she wants.
She has her Stained Glass room. Kitchen is hers/ ours.

We do separate to do lists all day. But take breaks randomly together.

We do lunch and a crime show between 12noon and 130 ishbut it varies on our time needs .

Division of chores is really needed. Space is needed.
Pinterest gave me 1000 ideas to make stuff for our Farm.
Welder helped with those ideas.

We meet in the morning do separate things...meet and talk over the things we've done or life on the farm stuff.

So I'd say separate to do lists are important. Divide chores . Get new for sale hobbies that you each do. But not together.


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