Mom wants to be discharged and go back home. After seeing and hearing what is REALLY !!! going on in that place; I DON'T BLAME MOM ONE DANG BIT FOR WANTING TO GO BACK HOME! Everyone of Mom's friends says that she does not need to be in there. Well, I spoke to the Social Worker today, and they are having a Family meeting tomorrow Morning for Mom. Mom and I both said that she wants to go home. I told them I want Mom discharged right away. Come to find out , THEY ARE NOT MAKING IT SIMPLE!!
They said "it's a process" I then said " if you refuse to discharge Mom when we have both told you she wants to go home, then , you are holding Mom hostage !! "
Is there any way that they can force my Mother to stay in that Nursing Home , and refuse a discharge to her home ? I took care of Mom before she went into the Home, and after seeing how bad that place is, I can definitely do a better job than what they are doing!
Im assuming she was admitted into the nursing home after a hospital stay?.possibly for "rehab"?
I worked in nursing homes .for 12 years.
The big issue is insurance.
There are lots of ins and outs but the bottomline is that if you take your mom out of the home without the doctors
Approval, Medicare can and in moat cases will, refuse to pay for any of her treatment since she was admitted because you took her out before she was deemed ready to bw released. Basically they sew it as you're refusing doctor ordered treatment.
Aside from seeing this happen firsthand with residents I cared for..
I was my dads medical POA and had to deal with the same issues.
Here they can keep them for up to 90 days if they can justify the "rehabilitation" guidelines.
My dad was ping-ponged in and out of "rehab" centers
.but they were really just LTCF
Long term care. Facilities.
You need to try to get her doctor to discharge her for home
It may require the purchase of special medical equipment and the hiring of health aide at home or the commitment of y'all...her kids..to provide the care for your mom that the doctor has ordered.
Good
Luck
I can also tell you that not all aides are useless. I took pride in taking care of my residents and treated them like id want my mom and dad or grandparents to be treated in the same situation.
There are some useless aides but don't paint us all with the same brush.
Some.of us are there because we truly care about our residents.
I had many fights with administration over the care and treatments of residents where I worked and some of them weren't even my residents but they weren't being treated exactly right and I definitely raised he'll about it and got aome.of my coworkers wrote up but I didn't care.
I told more than one
. if your just here for the check get a job somewhere else
I got out of the nursing home setting and do private care
.too much BS to deal with in the nursing home setting.
Also..its not just the aides. I had a nurse one time tell me.to take a bandage off a sou d and put a new one on with the current data because she didn't want to clean the ladies wound.
I refused.the nurse said I wasnt a team player and i told her I wasn't being a party to neglect and if she didn't clean the wound I was going to report her.
She cleaned the wound.. The lady had a hole at the base of her tail bone the size of a 50 cent piece
that had to be suctioned out daily and packed with gauze..it literally took 3 feet of gauze to pack the wound.
If youre a good aide you are often ostracized by other employees that just wanna clock in and out and collect a check for doing nothing
You need to be visible
.go everyday..at different times so they're not sure when you're gonna show up
.raise he'll if your moms not being taken care of and I mean raise he'll..they will make sure shes taken care of because they will get tired of dealing with you.
She'll be the first one they get ready for the day
When my dad was in the home I heard them when I came in saying..there's the (This word is unacceptable on Trapperman).
I didn't care.
He was only way once..the first time I visited
.