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Posted By: nvwrangler

Single again? - 05/09/22 04:50 PM

Well I maybe single again, had an argument with the wife/girlfriend this weekend and don't know what I said that hurt her but she hasn't spoken to me since Saturday. She won't talk at all and moved into the spare room. Will see if she comes home from work today or moves out when I get home. This sucks loosing your best friend and partner we've been together for 8 years and I know I didn't handle my part correctly but I really don't know what I said.
Posted By: GREENCOUNTYPETE

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 04:59 PM

well if you want to keep her

start with , I am not sure what I did or said , but I don't want to lose you and the relationship we have, can we talk this out? if she starts talking start taking notes at lease mental ones.

I don't know much about women but admitting you don't know what you did or didn't do and asking to talk it out works better than silence.
Posted By: nvwrangler

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 05:06 PM

Originally Posted by GREENCOUNTYPETE
well if you want to keep her

start with , I am not sure what I did or said , but I don't want to lose you and the relationship we have, can we talk this out? if she starts talking start taking notes at lease mental ones.

I don't know much about women but admitting you don't know what you did or didn't do and asking to talk it out works better than silence.





When she came home last night I asked if she wanted to talk and got told no and that I knew what I had said . When I told her I didn't know what had her hurt like this , she just said figure it out. Heck this wasn't even one of the nastier fights we've had, really didn't even raise our voices but I said something wrong or what she thought I said really hurt her. No clue other then I know I was wrong on how I handled parts of this.
Posted By: AntiGov

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 05:12 PM

I hate the games women play

I hope it works out for you , either way ....
Posted By: nvwrangler

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 05:12 PM

Thanks Anti
Posted By: Boco

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 05:16 PM

If she is that upset at something you dont even recognize,she may be looking for some excuse to end it.
The fact that she doesnt even want to talk it out says a lot.
Give it a couple more days then if no dialogue show her the door.
Posted By: wissmiss

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 05:35 PM

From a women’s perspective - maybe she has other issues going on and what you said pushed her over the edge. Maybe your comment would normally not have been a big deal but in this case it was the tipping point. Some times it is due to hormones.

I’d give it another day and if she still isn’t talking, tell her you would like to work this out but you honestly don’t know what you said and that you would appreciate if she would give you some sort of clue so you can figure it out.

Good Luck. 8 years is a long time to throw it all away over something that might be minor.
Posted By: mike mason

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 05:41 PM

Dump her, you don't need the bs. Plenty of fish in the sea!
Posted By: Gary Benson

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 05:43 PM

Did you tell her happy mother's day and buy flowers?
Posted By: Marty

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 05:52 PM

Could wind up to be a good thing for you...I think being able to be happy while living alone is a good attribute. We all may be better off without people that behave irrationally.
Posted By: peej

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 05:55 PM

She cheated and feels guilty.
Posted By: nvwrangler

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 06:00 PM

Originally Posted by Gary Benson
Did you tell her happy mother's day and buy flowers?


No I set up a night with her daughter and girl friends at one of the local casinos, the fight was over the fact that they decided to stay a second night and didn't let me know till after 5 on the second day. We have had this argument before when ever a friend or one of her kids come to town I get dropped like a hot potato. I mean no calls not included in anything and its like I'm not there. I know she isn't playing around on me no worries there she just forgets to communicate with me. They showed up at the house at 5 and I had been at mom's working on the garden and wasn't home. Then got the why aren't you home phone call. I hadn't heard from her since 11 when they went for brunch so I found stuff to do as I had planned on spending the day with them. It just went down hill after she sprung the second night in town on me.
Posted By: nvwrangler

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 06:00 PM

Originally Posted by peej
She cheated and feels guilty.


Not a chance
Posted By: KeithC

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 06:04 PM

Originally Posted by nvwrangler
Well I maybe single again, had an argument with the wife/girlfriend this weekend and don't know what I said that hurt her but she hasn't spoken to me since Saturday. She won't talk at all and moved into the spare room. Will see if she comes home from work today or moves out when I get home. This sucks loosing your best friend and partner we've been together for 8 years and I know I didn't handle my part correctly but I really don't know what I said.


What do you actually remember saying?

Keith
Posted By: nvwrangler

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 06:05 PM

Originally Posted by nvwrangler
Originally Posted by Gary Benson
Did you tell her happy mother's day and buy flowers?


No I set up a night with her daughter and girl friends at one of the local casinos, the fight was over the fact that they decided to stay a second night and didn't let me know till after 5 on the second day. We have had this argument before when ever a friend or one of her kids come to town I get dropped like a hot potato. I mean no calls not included in anything and its like I'm not there. I know she isn't playing around on me no worries there she just forgets to communicate with me. They showed up at the house at 5 and I had been at mom's working on the garden and wasn't home. Then got the why aren't you home phone call. I hadn't heard from her since 11 when they went for brunch so I found stuff to do as I had planned on spending the day with them. It just went down hill after she sprung the second night in town on me.


She went to town but didn't stay the night , her daughter did but not her. Didn't talk to me yesterday went to town to see her daughter and get her on the plane home and then to a friends house till 8 last night.
Posted By: nvwrangler

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 06:10 PM

Originally Posted by KeithC
Originally Posted by nvwrangler
Well I maybe single again, had an argument with the wife/girlfriend this weekend and don't know what I said that hurt her but she hasn't spoken to me since Saturday. She won't talk at all and moved into the spare room. Will see if she comes home from work today or moves out when I get home. This sucks loosing your best friend and partner we've been together for 8 years and I know I didn't handle my part correctly but I really don't know what I said.


What do you actually remember saying?

Keith


That they didn't need to come to moms with me because as she stated this was HER weekend to spend with her daughter and I didn't want to distract her from Her weekend. I asked her if that was what I said that started this and she said it wasn't but I would figure it out.
Posted By: 3 Fingers

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 06:34 PM

The daughter would probably know what’s going on. Do you communicate with her?
Posted By: KeithC

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 06:35 PM

Originally Posted by KeithC
Originally Posted by nvwrangler
Well I maybe single again, had an argument with the wife/girlfriend this weekend and don't know what I said that hurt her but she hasn't spoken to me since Saturday. She won't talk at all and moved into the spare room. Will see if she comes home from work today or moves out when I get home. This sucks loosing your best friend and partner we've been together for 8 years and I know I didn't handle my part correctly but I really don't know what I said.


What do you actually remember saying?

Keith


Originally Posted by nvwrangler
That they didn't need to come to moms with me because as she stated this was HER weekend to spend with her daughter and I didn't want to distract her from Her weekend. I asked her if that was what I said that started this and she said it wasn't but I would figure it out.


Is she your wife or your girlfriend?

How old is her daughter?

Does your mother get along with her and her daughter?

I think she may feel that your relationship with her is not recognized enough or important enough to you and your family. She may be thinking that her daughter should be your daughter, in your mind too.

Keith
Posted By: nvwrangler

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 06:37 PM

Originally Posted by 3 Fingers
The daughter would probably know what’s going on. Do you communicate with her?


No she's 27 and from LA so we don't talk , she wanted to surprise her mom so I helped with the planning on this end. She was at college when her mom and I got together. She wanted to stay the second night and gamble.
Posted By: west river rogue

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 06:41 PM

sounds like too much drama.
Posted By: nvwrangler

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 06:46 PM

I have been calling her my wife as she calls me her husband but were not married, I've tried to get close to her kids but it hasn't been easy to do. They were just raised different and act kinda entitled. When she moved to Nevada to live with me her kids said she abandoned them. She had lost her job and I supported her for 3 months and she found the same job here. Mom gets along with them both in fact she calls my mom , mom. I had planned a nice breakfast with everybody at moms until the this was HER weekend with Her daughter comment and I popped of with the don't let me get in your way comment.
Posted By: BernieB.

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 06:48 PM

Sounds like you both need some serious relationship counseling.
Posted By: nvwrangler

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 06:48 PM

Originally Posted by west river rogue
sounds like too much drama.


The daughter should be on a realty show , looks, acts and behaves like she is . Nice kid but 100% LA and that life style. Every thing is about money
Posted By: nvwrangler

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 06:51 PM

Originally Posted by BernieB.
Sounds like you both need some serious relationship counseling.


To be honest probably do. Just needed to vent and apricate that I can here and maybe get some wisdom from some of the folks here with decades of marriage experience.
Posted By: DakotaBoy

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 06:54 PM

I'm stubborn, and things are always different from the outside looking in, but I'd play the same game. If she wants to act that way, let her. Go about your day as you normally would, and don't let it get to you. If she wants to sit down and talk like adults, great, then have that conversation. If she wants to pout about some made-up scenario or something that was a miscommunication, that's her issue, not yours. She should be able to explain to you why she's upset.

At the same time, I've said or done some things in the past that I didn't realise would upset my wife. After talking it out and looking at it from her perspective, I realised how what was said or done could have been taken in a way that could be hurtful. I think in general, us guys are pretty simple when it comes to emotions. Maybe that's just me, I dunno.
Posted By: BernieB.

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 06:57 PM

Originally Posted by nvwrangler
Originally Posted by BernieB.
Sounds like you both need some serious relationship counseling.


To be honest probably do. Just needed to vent and apricate that I can here and maybe get some wisdom from some of the folks here with decades of marriage experience.


There's no probably about it. You're both a mess. It's pretty obvious from just the few things you have said. If she won't go to marriage counseling with you then just move on and get counseling on your own. Otherwise you're just taking the same bad relationship tactics into the next relationship.
Posted By: KeithC

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 06:58 PM

Originally Posted by nvwrangler
I have been calling her my wife as she calls me her husband but were not married, I've tried to get close to her kids but it hasn't been easy to do. They were just raised different and act kinda entitled. When she moved to Nevada to live with me her kids said she abandoned them. She had lost her job and I supported her for 3 months and she found the same job here. Mom gets along with them both in fact she calls my mom , mom. I had planned a nice breakfast with everybody at moms until the this was HER weekend with Her daughter comment and I popped of with the don't let me get in your way comment.


I think it's likely then that your girlfriend thought that she and her daughter should have been a bigger part of your Mother's Day plans with your mother, or that you should have at least felt more distress that they could not have been there.

If you want to keep her, you need to make her feel like she is more important to you.

There may be a part of her that resents not being married. She may think that you think she is not good enough to marry. I would still not advise marrying her until you fix your problems.

Keith
Posted By: adam m

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 07:02 PM

Man that stinks. I hope the 2 of you work it out.
Posted By: Yes sir

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 07:05 PM

Originally Posted by BernieB.
Sounds like you both need some serious relationship counseling.

I'm thinking Savell will b along this evening after counseling himself through a few beers first. He must know something to be able to hang on to that wife of his who obviously out of league. grin
If nothing else he'll sure brighten ur spirit a little bit.
Posted By: mike mason

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 07:09 PM

Run fast in the opposite direction!
Posted By: nvwrangler

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 07:10 PM

Originally Posted by Yes sir
Originally Posted by BernieB.
Sounds like you both need some serious relationship counseling.

I'm thinking Savell will b along this evening after counseling himself through a few beers first. He must know something to be able to hang on to that wife of his who obviously out of league. grin
If nothing else he'll sure brighten ur spirit a little bit.


Between him and left lane they'll have me fixed rite up lol.
Posted By: Yes sir

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 07:13 PM

With Leftlane it will only b one night...... weeks top and u probably won't even remember her name.
Posted By: west river rogue

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 07:23 PM

40 yrs of marriage told me enough is enough
Posted By: Dillrod

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 07:24 PM

" We have had this argument before when ever a friend or one of her kids come to town I get dropped like a hot potato."
" I set up a night with her daughter and girl friends at one of the local casinos, the fight was over the fact that they decided to stay a second night and didn't let me know till after 5 on the second day. I mean no calls not included in anything and its like I'm not there."
" she just forgets to communicate with me "

She is probably an excellent girlfriend , with the benefits a relationship can blossom into.
If a permanent thing is Both of your goals
Serious dedication and counseling is gonna be needed.

JMO
Posted By: elkaholic

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 07:29 PM

Originally Posted by nvwrangler
I have been calling her my wife as she calls me her husband but were not married, I've tried to get close to her kids but it hasn't been easy to do. They were just raised different and act kinda entitled. When she moved to Nevada to live with me her kids said she abandoned them. She had lost her job and I supported her for 3 months and she found the same job here. Mom gets along with them both in fact she calls my mom , mom. I had planned a nice breakfast with everybody at moms until the this was HER weekend with Her daughter comment and I popped of with the don't let me get in your way comment.


I bet this was it. It may not be totally what you said, but how you said it. My wife tells me all the time my tone is worse than the words I use.
Posted By: yotetrapper30

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 07:31 PM

I'm confused. At first you said they stayed for an extra day and didn't tell you until 5pm on the second day, then said they came home at 5pm the second day, meaning they didn't tell you until they came home. But then you said you talked to her at brunch on the second day. And then you said she didn't stay a second day, only the daughter did. Then you said she didn't come home until 8pm the second day. So I'm pretty lost.
Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 07:34 PM

Originally Posted by Yes sir
With Leftlane it will only b one night...... weeks top and u probably won't even remember her name.



Ouch, I should prolly defend myself but maybe I will let it slide this one time LOL.


Jeb- you're talkin to the wrong man, if you want to know what girls are all about...
Posted By: nvwrangler

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 07:35 PM

Originally Posted by yotetrapper30
I'm confused. At first you said they stayed for an extra day and didn't tell you until 5pm on the second day, then said they came home at 5pm the second day, meaning they didn't tell you until they came home. But then you said you talked to her at brunch on the second day. And then you said she didn't stay a second day, only the daughter did. Then you said she didn't come home until 8pm the second day. So I'm pretty lost.


Dinner was Friday night , I talked to her at brunch on Saturday morning and then they came to the house Saturday evening at 5. The daughter and her went back to town and gambled for awhile and she came home at midnight, She went to town on Sunday morning and got home last night at 8.
Posted By: Osky

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 07:37 PM

Originally Posted by Boco
If she is that upset at something you dont even recognize,she may be looking for some excuse to end it.
The fact that she doesnt even want to talk it out says a lot.
Give it a couple more days then if no dialogue show her the door.


Absolutely this. This world festers these days with worthless drama. If people who are so close to one another that they live together can’t be bothered to be civil and open, open the door and shove.
NEVER lower your standards for anyone.

Osky
Posted By: G Hose

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 07:39 PM

Well....... I’m gonna agree with boco on this one
Posted By: beartooth trapr

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 07:44 PM

Best of luck bud, hope it works out.
I've been married 27 years and still don't have it figured out laugh
Posted By: Yes sir

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 07:49 PM

Originally Posted by Leftlane
Originally Posted by Yes sir
With Leftlane it will only b one night...... weeks top and u probably won't even remember her name.



Ouch, I should prolly defend myself but maybe I will let it slide this one time LOL.


Jeb- you're talkin to the wrong man, if you want to know what girls are all about...

I knew that would get u to login friend
Posted By: 160user

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 07:59 PM

This makes me appreciate living alone even more! I hope you figure it out and do whatever makes you happy. No one deserves to be miserable in life.
Posted By: beaverpeeler

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 08:09 PM

On the positive side, getting rid of wives and girlfriends is one of the best things you can do to run a productive trapline. grin
Posted By: Mac86

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 08:18 PM

Take Bocos advice, he’s pretty much bang on!. Sucks man, I been through that kind of situation. Send her free and if she comes back it’s meant to be. Life’s too short to moan and have enemies under the same roof.
Posted By: yotetrapper30

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 08:36 PM

So they came home at 5 on Saturday and that was when they told you that they were going back again that night and you were mad because they told you instead of asking you? So you made your don't let me get in your way comment? I'm sure that's what she's mad about.

She's probably looking at it like this.... her daughter lives a long ways away and so when she does come to town she wants to spend as much time doing things with her that her daughter enjoys doing. It sounds like your mother lives close, so she probably feels it's more important to spend time with the out of town daughter. PLUS you said you tried to make friends with the daughter but she's so different from you that you find it hard. Well, even if you try to hide that I'm sure your girlfriend senses it and probably the daughter too. So your girlfriend prefers to spend time with her daughter without you. Now I'm NOT saying that's right. Your girlfriend, imo, is in the wrong there and whether her daughter likes it or not she should do what's needed to include you into these family days. However, if the daughter is an entitled democrat, I'm not sure why you'd WANT to be included. If it were me I'd be glad to let them spend their time alone while I did something I enjoyed like working on mom's garden. But, if being included is important to you, then you need to tell your girlfriend that. Tell her it makes you feel unwanted when they take off all day without you and that you want to spend time with them. Say that you know her daughter and you don't always see eye to eye on things, but that you know her daughter is an important part of her life and that you want to be involved with that. Tell her you went to your moms because you didn't want to be sitting home alone all day on Saturday.

The OTHER possibility of why she could be mad, is that you weren't home when they got home on Saturday. She got home, and like her entitled daughter, felt that you should be there waiting on them with bated breath. If THAT's why she's mad I have no advice because if that's the case she feels it's fine to be gone however long without letting you know when they'll be back and just expects you to be there waiting whenever she decides to. If that's the case, I'd just tell her she's gonna have to be mad until she gets glad again because you'll be darned if you'll cancel your life until she gets around to entering back into it.

So that's my $0.02 of womanly opinion, lol.
Posted By: Hodagtrapper

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 08:48 PM

What she said ^^^^^^

Chris
Posted By: Savell

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 08:51 PM

Originally Posted by yotetrapper30
So they came home at 5 on Saturday and that was when they told you that they were going back again that night and you were mad because they told you instead of asking you? So you made your don't let me get in your way comment? I'm sure that's what she's mad about.

She's probably looking at it like this.... her daughter lives a long ways away and so when she does come to town she wants to spend as much time doing things with her that her daughter enjoys doing. It sounds like your mother lives close, so she probably feels it's more important to spend time with the out of town daughter. PLUS you said you tried to make friends with the daughter but she's so different from you that you find it hard. Well, even if you try to hide that I'm sure your girlfriend senses it and probably the daughter too. So your girlfriend prefers to spend time with her daughter without you. Now I'm NOT saying that's right. Your girlfriend, imo, is in the wrong there and whether her daughter likes it or not she should do what's needed to include you into these family days. However, if the daughter is an entitled democrat, I'm not sure why you'd WANT to be included. If it were me I'd be glad to let them spend their time alone while I did something I enjoyed like working on mom's garden. But, if being included is important to you, then you need to tell your girlfriend that. Tell her it makes you feel unwanted when they take off all day without you and that you want to spend time with them. Say that you know her daughter and you don't always see eye to eye on things, but that you know her daughter is an important part of her life and that you want to be involved with that. Tell her you went to your moms because you didn't want to be sitting home alone all day on Saturday.

The OTHER possibility of why she could be mad, is that you weren't home when they got home on Saturday. She got home, and like her entitled daughter, felt that you should be there waiting on them with bated breath. If THAT's why she's mad I have no advice because if that's the case she feels it's fine to be gone however long without letting you know when they'll be back and just expects you to be there waiting whenever she decides to. If that's the case, I'd just tell her she's gonna have to be mad until she gets glad again because you'll be darned if you'll cancel your life until she gets around to entering back into it.

So that's my $0.02 of womanly opinion, lol.


... more terrible advice as usual ..

... what you want to do is bust into the room wearing nothing but boots ( spurs on ) and a 2 x wool Stetson carrying a pigin string in your right hand .. then tell her “you understand what’s about to happen here? .... you understand why?”

.... you got to take charge of the relationship..can’t have 2 trail bosses in the same bunkhouse
Posted By: Yes sir

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 08:54 PM

Savell!!! Where are u? Angela is telling him to share his feelings....?? The brotherhood needs some East Texas wisdom..... grin
Posted By: Yes sir

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 08:54 PM

We were posting at same time..... great timing.... I'll add sound advice.
Posted By: greenetrapper

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 08:56 PM

When you figure out what you said to make her stop talking to you Please let us know . I would like to see if it works on my wife .
Posted By: west river rogue

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 09:13 PM

Originally Posted by Savell
Originally Posted by yotetrapper30
So they came home at 5 on Saturday and that was when they told you that they were going back again that night and you were mad because they told you instead of asking you? So you made your don't let me get in your way comment? I'm sure that's what she's mad about.

She's probably looking at it like this.... her daughter lives a long ways away and so when she does come to town she wants to spend as much time doing things with her that her daughter enjoys doing. It sounds like your mother lives close, so she probably feels it's more important to spend time with the out of town daughter. PLUS you said you tried to make friends with the daughter but she's so different from you that you find it hard. Well, even if you try to hide that I'm sure your girlfriend senses it and probably the daughter too. So your girlfriend prefers to spend time with her daughter without you. Now I'm NOT saying that's right. Your girlfriend, imo, is in the wrong there and whether her daughter likes it or not she should do what's needed to include you into these family days. However, if the daughter is an entitled democrat, I'm not sure why you'd WANT to be included. If it were me I'd be glad to let them spend their time alone while I did something I enjoyed like working on mom's garden. But, if being included is important to you, then you need to tell your girlfriend that. Tell her it makes you feel unwanted when they take off all day without you and that you want to spend time with them. Say that you know her daughter and you don't always see eye to eye on things, but that you know her daughter is an important part of her life and that you want to be involved with that. Tell her you went to your moms because you didn't want to be sitting home alone all day on Saturday.

The OTHER possibility of why she could be mad, is that you weren't home when they got home on Saturday. She got home, and like her entitled daughter, felt that you should be there waiting on them with bated breath. If THAT's why she's mad I have no advice because if that's the case she feels it's fine to be gone however long without letting you know when they'll be back and just expects you to be there waiting whenever she decides to. If that's the case, I'd just tell her she's gonna have to be mad until she gets glad again because you'll be darned if you'll cancel your life until she gets around to entering back into it.

So that's my $0.02 of womanly opinion, lol.


... more terrible advice as usual ..

... what you want to do is bust into the room wearing nothing but boots ( spurs on ) and a 2 x wool Stetson carrying a pigin string in your right hand .. then tell her “you understand what’s about to happen here? .... you understand why?”

.... you got to take charge of the relationship..can’t have 2 trail bosses in the same bunkhouse

LOL
Posted By: yotetrapper30

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 09:13 PM

Well, Savell's advice ain't that bad either.
Posted By: wissmiss

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 09:17 PM

Angela - you are wasting your time trying to figure out this situation. No point in giving advice - guys are going to do what they want no matter what you say. Makes me glad I’m single. I do what I want when I want and don’t have to explain anything to anybody. LOL
Posted By: Nessmuck

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 09:24 PM

Instead of a castor mound...change it up ,with a piece of Poplar ...she will come crawling back for fresh bait
Posted By: Boco

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 09:51 PM

After reading what else you wrote,it is clear she has no respect for you.
Posted By: Gary Benson

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 09:57 PM

Yup..what Boco said. No respect and you'll always be the bad guy. Time to move on.
Posted By: danny clifton

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 10:01 PM

Lifes to short to fight fuss and argue. Try Savells plan. If she is still moody time to get a new dance partner.
Posted By: G Hose

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 10:05 PM

Like said, Try Savells plan..... if it don’t work heck with it.
Single life sure is nice.
Posted By: Donnersurvivor

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 10:18 PM

Lord knows I'm no expert but from my experience...

Watch the bank accounts and watch the credit card. The amount of damage and chaos a women can cause in a couple months is incredible.
Posted By: BernieB.

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 10:22 PM

Have her watch the movie with John Wayne McClintock.

Then try Savell's plan and be sure to fully carry through with it.
Posted By: Nessmuck

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 10:25 PM

I had to google ....Pigin string..
Posted By: Gary Benson

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 10:32 PM

Originally Posted by Donnersurvivor
Lord knows I'm no expert but from my experience...

Watch the bank accounts and watch the credit card. The amount of damage and chaos a women can cause in a couple months is incredible.

Thats a fact...I know a couple guys that got stuck with that.
Posted By: Yes sir

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 10:32 PM

Originally Posted by BernieB.
Have her watch the movie with John Wayne McClintock.

Then try Savell's plan and be sure to fully carry through with it.

No pics though..... if u say u took Savell's advice that's good enough for me.... I don't want to see any proof.
Originally Posted by Nessmuck
I had to google ....Pigin string..

I bet Wissmiss did too...im thinking she was more intrigued with Savell's idea than she is putting on
Posted By: nvwrangler

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 10:34 PM

Thanks for all the tips and advice .

She's a great gal 99.5 % of the time , I said something that hurt her don't know what it was or if she heard me say something that I didn't say. Like I said this wasn't even a bad argument. But something hurt her feelings. I know she acts like this when her daughter is in town so I have made piece with it, she doesn't do it out of disrespect even tho it is she just gets so excited to see her daughter she forgets to let me know she is safe and whats going on. That's why I planned the girls night out so there was no need to feel excluded on my end. I know her daughter was up at the casino and enjoys playing so that's why the change.

Savell will hobbles , quirt and a twisted wire slide bit work?
Posted By: Yes sir

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 10:35 PM

Originally Posted by Donnersurvivor
Lord knows I'm no expert but from my experience...

Watch the bank accounts and watch the credit card. The amount of damage and chaos a women can cause in a couple months is incredible.

A couple months??? You haven't seen a woman really mad before. I promise if she takes that route watching them isn't going to help.... by the time u see it the money is gone partner
Posted By: danny clifton

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 10:42 PM

How come does a guy that shoots such a fine work of art flinter, shaves with a straight razor, not know what a pigin string is? Me, I was thinking a catch rope would provide more options?
Posted By: yotetrapper30

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 10:42 PM

Originally Posted by Yes sir
Originally Posted by Nessmuck
I had to google ....Pigin string..

I bet Wissmiss did too...im thinking she was more intrigued with Savell's idea than she is putting on


grin shocked blush
Posted By: Gary Benson

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 10:52 PM

I had to look it up but I did see that on a TV rodao a few times. THAT BULL IS [Linked Image]
RANK!!!!!
Posted By: Nittany Lion

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 11:16 PM

I never knew we had so many marriage counselors on Trapperman.
Posted By: upstateNY

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 11:22 PM

Lot of advise going on here,,,but none of us live with you and know the whole story.My Dad always told me theres usualy three sides to every story.His side,,,Her side,,,and somewhere in the middle is the truth.8 years is a good investment to throw every thing away.I hope everything works out for you.Good luck old boy.
Posted By: G Hose

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 11:30 PM

Saying I’ve heard...... love is an imaginary thing between two fools
Posted By: SJA

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 11:31 PM

Originally Posted by Marty
Could wind up to be a good thing for you...I think being able to be happy while living alone is a good attribute. We all may be better off without people that behave irrationally.


I've said this before, a man that best gets along with women, is the man that bests gets along without them.
grin
Posted By: Feedinggrounds

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 11:33 PM

Sounds like a bunch of rookie's to me! After 40 years of marriage, it's springtime, some of the best fishing of the season is happening right now!! I'd pack my gear and head to crick or pond, good camping, bonfire weather too! You'll remember a great week fishing heck of a lot longer than this fight, you already forgot what you said wrong! I ain't never seen a brighter green light flashing!! If you ask me.....My Mrs. don't dare pick a fight when hunting /trapping/ fishing is prime! Think old Brad Paisley made a song about such things!
Posted By: lumberjack391

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 11:35 PM

I have no empathy emotion so sorry I cant help you.
Posted By: Bob_Iowa

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 11:50 PM

Originally Posted by Feedinggrounds
Sounds like a bunch of rookie's to me! After 40 years of marriage, it's springtime, some of the best fishing of the season is happening right now!! I'd pack my gear and head to crick or pond, good camping, bonfire weather too! You'll remember a great week fishing heck of a lot longer than this fight, you already forgot what you said wrong! I ain't never seen a brighter green light flashing!! If you ask me.....My Mrs. don't dare pick a fight when hunting /trapping/ fishing is prime! Think old Brad Paisley made a song about such things!


This doesn’t always work right last time I went to Canada fishing a guy with us came home to a completely bare house at 5 in the morning, another friend went turkey hunting Sunday morning showed back up at the house with a dead turkey and said “skin it woman” she just laughed and went back to eating breakfast, so I guess every woman is different.
Posted By: yotetrapper30

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 11:56 PM

Originally Posted by Bob_Iowa
Originally Posted by Feedinggrounds
Sounds like a bunch of rookie's to me! After 40 years of marriage, it's springtime, some of the best fishing of the season is happening right now!! I'd pack my gear and head to crick or pond, good camping, bonfire weather too! You'll remember a great week fishing heck of a lot longer than this fight, you already forgot what you said wrong! I ain't never seen a brighter green light flashing!! If you ask me.....My Mrs. don't dare pick a fight when hunting /trapping/ fishing is prime! Think old Brad Paisley made a song about such things!


This doesn’t always work right last time I went to Canada fishing a guy with us came home to a completely bare house at 5 in the morning, another friend went turkey hunting Sunday morning showed back up at the house with a dead turkey and said “skin it woman” she just laughed and went back to eating breakfast, so I guess every woman is different.


The first woman mentioned is either psycho, or was already sleeping with someone else, or both. The second one is normal.
Posted By: Bob_Iowa

Re: Single again? - 05/09/22 11:59 PM

It was both.
Posted By: 160user

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 12:19 AM

Originally Posted by wissmiss
Angela - you are wasting your time trying to figure out this situation. No point in giving advice - guys are going to do what they want no matter what you say. Makes me glad I’m single. I do what I want when I want and don’t have to explain anything to anybody. LOL



SO......You are single too? smile
Posted By: 160user

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 12:20 AM

Originally Posted by Donnersurvivor
Lord knows I'm no expert but from my experience...

Watch the bank accounts and watch the credit card. The amount of damage and chaos a women can cause in a couple months is incredible.



TRUE STORY! This is some of the best advice I have seen on here yet.
Posted By: Marty

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 12:23 AM

Oh, the drama of it all.......none for me, thanks anyway!
Posted By: beartooth trapr

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 12:30 AM

This is getting good, some of it is just too funny.

But All and All , I hope the best for you NVwrangler
Posted By: MNTrapper21

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 12:32 AM

Life is too short for that drama and mind games. Id have her bags packed for her outside on the steps when she got home.
Posted By: Scuba1

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 12:33 AM

Reading this ,I can't help but think that all the good advice you are getting here is from the single folk grin
Posted By: bucksnbears

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 12:50 AM

Well, it's sucks no matter what the reason.
Takes awhile to get over an 8 year relationship.
Good luck.
Posted By: DelawareRob

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 12:55 AM

Originally Posted by Scuba1
Reading this ,I can't help but think that all the good advice you are getting here is from the single folk grin


Yeah, I’m thinking the same! grin
Posted By: white dog

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 12:55 AM

Is this thread for real? Is a 50 year old male really asking on a trapping forum advise about his relationship with a pretend wife.
Posted By: DelawareRob

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 12:56 AM

Originally Posted by white dog
Is this thread for real? Is a 50 year old male really asking on a trapping forum advise about his relationship with a pretend wife.


I wanna know Dave’s opinion.
Posted By: Swamp Wolf

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 01:01 AM

I have no advice (too many unknowns for advice)....so, just a life experience comment from me....

The last time I had a woman act like that to me.....she was already gone.....with another man. She just needed what she thought was a good reason to act up.
Posted By: AntiGov

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 01:01 AM

Originally Posted by white dog
Is this thread for real? Is a 50 year old male really asking on a trapping forum advise about his relationship with a pretend wife.



This place is a good trial run for " getting it off my chest "

I'm sure he can sort the good advice from the bs , and prolly get a laugh or two
Posted By: Feedinggrounds

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 01:06 AM

Originally Posted by Bob_Iowa
Originally Posted by Feedinggrounds
Sounds like a bunch of rookie's to me! After 40 years of marriage, it's springtime, some of the best fishing of the season is happening right now!! I'd pack my gear and head to crick or pond, good camping, bonfire weather too! You'll remember a great week fishing heck of a lot longer than this fight, you already forgot what you said wrong! I ain't never seen a brighter green light flashing!! If you ask me.....My Mrs. don't dare pick a fight when hunting /trapping/ fishing is prime! Think old Brad Paisley made a song about such things!


This doesn’t always work right last time I went to Canada fishing a guy with us came home to a completely bare house at 5 in the morning, another friend went turkey hunting Sunday morning showed back up at the house with a dead turkey and said “skin it woman” she just laughed and went back to eating breakfast, so I guess every woman is different.

He had his fishing gear with him right? And she left the house right? I could live in one room. All that stuff can be replaced. Time and years cannot. Even if the old boy figures out what he said, she'll move the goalposts till she satisfied she accomplished her goal. So drop your favorite guns off with a trusted friend, get your fishing gear. And go. If she runs off, it never was meant to be.
Go fishing....
Posted By: Scuba1

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 01:23 AM

If we followed the advice we give each other on here, we would all be single ........ OK Save may stay hitched ...but for the rest of us that would be it.
Posted By: BuckMink

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 01:25 AM

Originally Posted by Donnersurvivor
Lord knows I'm no expert but from my experience...

Watch the bank accounts and watch the credit card. The amount of damage and chaos a women can cause in a couple months is incredible.



Actually lock the cards, or cancel them... Put funds into a different step account for "emergency" away from her...
Posted By: BuckMink

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 01:26 AM

Originally Posted by DelawareRob
Originally Posted by white dog
Is this thread for real? Is a 50 year old male really asking on a trapping forum advise about his relationship with a pretend wife.


I wanna know Dave’s opinion.



Dave really needs to chime in here!
Posted By: Gary Benson

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 01:27 AM

Dear Abby.........
Posted By: Andrew Eastwood

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 01:34 AM

Originally Posted by nvwrangler
Thanks for all the tips and advice .

She's a great gal 99.5 % of the time , but she heard me say something that I didn't say.

I run into this problem .5% of the time as well. My advice wouldn't be far off from Savell's so go for it. Them hobbles should work fine. wink
Posted By: Scuba1

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 01:37 AM

[quote=Andrew Eastwood][quote=nvwrangler]Thanks for all the tips and advice .

She's a great gal 99.5 % of the time , but she heard me say something that I didn't say.

Have you asked her to cut back on the liquor yet ?? Preferable to a point before she hears things that were not said.
Posted By: trapdog1

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 01:43 AM

Originally Posted by Gary Benson
Dear Abby.........

Dear Penthouse....
Posted By: DelawareRob

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 01:43 AM

Originally Posted by Scuba1
[quote=Andrew Eastwood][quote=nvwrangler]Thanks for all the tips and advice .

She's a great gal 99.5 % of the time , but she heard me say something that I didn't say.

Have you asked her to cut back on the liquor yet ?? Preferable to a point before she hears things that were not said.


Now there you go, speaking sense.
Posted By: DelawareRob

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 01:45 AM

Originally Posted by trapdog1
Originally Posted by Gary Benson
Dear Abby.........

Dear Penthouse....


Are those helpful?

Abby is my aunt and I have an uncle who talks about a penthouse, but he lives in the third floor.
Posted By: Whopper Stopper

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 01:47 AM

Turn out the lights, the parties over.

Wishing you the best. Hope I'm wrong.

WS
Posted By: SJA

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 01:51 AM

Originally Posted by trapdog1
Originally Posted by Gary Benson
Dear Abby.........

Dear Penthouse....

Dear Prudence
Posted By: Willy Firewood

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 02:50 AM

So how much did she lose gambling?
Who’s money did she lose?
Who paid for the weekend of female debauchery?
Women are just as crude, crass, vulgar, and low as men.
If she’s so wonderful, why haven’t you already married her?
Lock up the money, credit cards, deeds, power of attorney, and anything that can be squandered.
You can share with her later.

Let us know how Savell’s advice works out. Teach her some manners!
Posted By: yotetrapper30

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 02:56 AM

Originally Posted by Willy Firewood
So how much did she lose gambling?
Who’s money did she lose?
Who paid for the weekend of female debauchery?
Women are just as crude, crass, vulgar, and low as men.
If she’s so wonderful, why haven’t you already married her?
Lock up the money, credit cards, deeds, power of attorney, and anything that can be squandered.
You can share with her later.

Let us know how Savell’s advice works out. Teach her some manners!


Advice from another undoubtedly single man
Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 03:16 AM

I can't believe nobody has quoted Bill Bur- that guys gives great relationship advice! whistle
Posted By: nvjb

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 03:17 AM

That is pretty common behavior, understand that you aren't the only one that has ever experienced it.
Don't try and fix it with logic, because it's not coming from a logical mindset. Real good chance that she doesn't understand it any more than you do.
I went through the same thing and read a bunch of self help books, female psychology, and went to counseling.
I think that I have a fair understanding of it female behavior but I'm not going to write a book about it here.
I read a great article in National Geographic about love years ago. The author came right out and said that love fits the clinical definition of insanity, enough said?
Let's just say that I get along better with my ex wife now that we've both moved on.
I frankly choose to be single now. I date quite often but the idea of having someone else in the house doesn't appeal to me anymore.
I've dated more than one lady that feels the same way about having their own space, getting that out of the way early makes for pretty good bedfellows.
Marriage is really about children and property. The rest of it doesn't need a contract.
Good luck and take care of yourself first. Thats easier said than done sometimes.
Posted By: 20scout

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 03:17 AM

If it flys, floats or flirts, it's cheaper to rent.
Posted By: Craig S.

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 03:26 AM

Originally Posted by Gary Benson
Dear Abby.........



“Dear Abby, dear Abby
My fountain pen leaks
My wife hollers at me and my kids are all freaks
Every side I get up on is the wrong side of bed
If it weren't so expensive I'd wish I were dead
Signed unhappy…
Unhappy”

Well you’ve gotteb a lot of advice on this thread ( and some maybe not so good) ..LOL

On a serious note, I Hope everything works out for the two of you 8 years is a long time.
Posted By: 330-Trapper

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 04:46 AM

Originally Posted by nvwrangler
Originally Posted by BernieB.
Sounds like you both need some serious relationship counseling.


To be honest probably do. Just needed to vent and apricate that I can here and maybe get some wisdom from some of the folks here with decades of marriage experience.

36 years here, not as many as others on here.

But best advice I ever got was from 2 different worlds

A divorced Woman who worked at Ballistic products with me. She said "Always Remember what made you fall in Love" ...and second bid came from my Grandfather / Baptist Minister in his 20's & 3o's Then 50 years selling Fuller brush. He said " Ask forgiveness first for your Part in the fight - even if you feel she was 80% at fault. Bite the bullet and Apologize " and before bed.

I hope she sees You're trying ...when fights are bad and there seems no way out. Ask Her "What's my Out" she should give you one...

Scott
Posted By: Willy Firewood

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 07:57 AM

Originally Posted by yotetrapper30
Originally Posted by Willy Firewood
So how much did she lose gambling?
Who’s money did she lose?
Who paid for the weekend of female debauchery?
Women are just as crude, crass, vulgar, and low as men.
If she’s so wonderful, why haven’t you already married her?
Lock up the money, credit cards, deeds, power of attorney, and anything that can be squandered.
You can share with her later.

Let us know how Savell’s advice works out. Teach her some manners!


Advice from another undoubtedly single man


yotetrapper - you made a bad call here. I am happily married, and so is my wife. And yes to each other for 39 years. In my case, I was extremely selective and “married up”. Funny, my wife says she did the same thing.

There should be a good hard look at responsibility and accountability. It looks like the woman takes the man for granted, does not value him, and has no respect for him.

Maybe Coonman220 Dave could do counseling for them?
Posted By: Feedinggrounds

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 08:53 AM

I was married at 18, just a kid, my wife was 17. During our first slobber knocker fight I was hanging out in the garage at my folks house. I did evening car repair for extra cash. He knew I was frosted. I told him we were fighting. He said "son you better learn, if it has (T--'s) or tire's you're going to have trouble, and have to work on it" Still better than walking. Go fishing!
Posted By: Turtledale

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 09:26 AM

Originally Posted by trapdog1
Originally Posted by Gary Benson
Dear Abby.........

Dear Penthouse....

Dr. Ruth Westheimer
Posted By: west river rogue

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 09:39 AM

Originally Posted by nvjb
That is pretty common behavior, understand that you aren't the only one that has ever experienced it.
Don't try and fix it with logic, because it's not coming from a logical mindset. Real good chance that she doesn't understand it any more than you do.
I went through the same thing and read a bunch of self help books, female psychology, and went to counseling.
I think that I have a fair understanding of it female behavior but I'm not going to write a book about it here.
I read a great article in National Geographic about love years ago. The author came right out and said that love fits the clinical definition of insanity, enough said?
Let's just say that I get along better with my ex wife now that we've both moved on.
I frankly choose to be single now. I date quite often but the idea of having someone else in the house doesn't appeal to me anymore.
I've dated more than one lady that feels the same way about having their own space, getting that out of the way early makes for pretty good bedfellows.
Marriage is really about children and property. The rest of it doesn't need a contract.
Good luck and take care of yourself first. Thats easier said than done sometimes.

x2
Posted By: west river rogue

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 09:40 AM

Originally Posted by 20scout
If it flys, floats or flirts, it's cheaper to rent.

x2
Posted By: Kev56

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 10:39 AM

Feedinggrounds your Dad was SOOOO right! Wish I'd gotten that advice when I got married at 18....
Posted By: J Staton

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 10:46 AM

This thread needs a George Jones song.....
Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 11:17 AM

So we are gonna quit with the great relationship advice and just cheer Wrangler up?
Ok he is my contribution


Posted By: Yes sir

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 11:59 AM

Only a few things in this life you really have control over, figure out what they are and try to do them the best u can and give the rest to God. Really simplifies life for me.
Posted By: bass10

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 12:03 PM

Just talk it out immediately, never go to bed with any dispute on the table! Don't let up until its handled for the good or bad! Got married at 22 after dating for 5 years and this will be year 35
for me. We have never slept apart and I never let any dispute go to rest until its over and in the end its was always something stupid when we both gave it some thought!
Posted By: cathryn

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 01:50 PM

Originally Posted by nvwrangler
Originally Posted by GREENCOUNTYPETE
well if you want to keep her

start with , I am not sure what I did or said , but I don't want to lose you and the relationship we have, can we talk this out? if she starts talking start taking notes at lease mental ones.

I don't know much about women but admitting you don't know what you did or didn't do and asking to talk it out works better than silence.





When she came home last night I asked if she wanted to talk and got told no and that I knew what I had said . When I told her I didn't know what had her hurt like this , she just said figure it out. Heck this wasn't even one of the nastier fights we've had, really didn't even raise our voices but I said something wrong or what she thought I said really hurt her. No clue other then I know I was wrong on how I handled parts of this.


Sometimes it the tone that you say it in. Words can be very hurtful. Especially when they come from rhe one we love yhe most..

Sometimes also the things that hurt us the most are the things yall never think twice about.

And sometu.es we've had enough and it doesn't take much to send us packing
Posted By: wallfur

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 03:18 PM

Originally Posted by Boco
If she is that upset at something you dont even recognize,she may be looking for some excuse to end it.
The fact that she doesnt even want to talk it out says a lot.
Give it a couple more days then if no dialogue show her the door.
....exactly sounds like she already made up her mind ..help her pack.
Posted By: 2zwudz

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 03:23 PM

Use smart contact. Give her space and don’t react. Be present when she approaches you but don’t argue with her. If it gets worse let her walk!
Posted By: seniortrap

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 04:18 PM

Ask her to get married! That will throw her off.
Posted By: danvee

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 04:37 PM

Communication is a two way street, if worse comes to worse it might be for the best. It wont be the end of the world relationships are like buses another will be along soon.
Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 08:51 PM

I heard Savell helped write this song (it is sound advice like he always gives anyhow

Posted By: yotetrapper30

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 09:00 PM

Originally Posted by Leftlane
So we are gonna quit with the great relationship advice and just cheer Wrangler up?
Ok he is my contribution




With friends like us to cheer a guy up he doesn't need any enemies, lol.

Posted By: nvwrangler

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 09:30 PM




She said to give her a day or two and then we can talk, did say that she felt that I ruined her weekend again.
Posted By: yotetrapper30

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 09:36 PM

Posted By: Flicker Shad

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 09:39 PM

Eve took the first bite of the apple. It's always the woman's fault. Lol
Posted By: J Staton

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 09:44 PM

Be careful now on how you end the relationship.....
Posted By: danny clifton

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 09:47 PM

Posted By: J Staton

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 10:02 PM

Don't spend to much time in the bottle....
Posted By: Yes sir

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 10:05 PM

[img]http://https://youtu.be/EkN3smeaVDw[/img]
Posted By: nvwrangler

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 10:14 PM

[video:youtube]img]http://https://youtu.be/EkN3smeaVDw[/img][/video]
Posted By: yotetrapper30

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 10:22 PM

Since neither of you can post it, haha

Posted By: Yes sir

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 10:23 PM

Thanks. Wolfdog91 taught me once but I forgot again. Lol
Posted By: yotetrapper30

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 10:25 PM

Posted By: yotetrapper30

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 10:26 PM

Originally Posted by Yes sir
Thanks. Wolfdog91 taught me once but I forgot again. Lol


You just click on the little blue directors clap board icon, pick youtube, and paste your link there.
Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 11:00 PM

Posted By: Yes sir

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 11:06 PM

Posted By: Flipper 56

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 11:07 PM

I can't believe I read all this. She is way too much drama and high maintenance for me. You are chasing her and she could care less, RUN FOREST!!!! Life is way too short to waste time on that crap, find someone that would rather be with you and enjoy the adventure finding that person.
Posted By: Cedar Hacker

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 11:10 PM

Posted By: Yes sir

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 11:20 PM

Maybe we should take our musical counseling skills over to the menopause thread. Lol
Posted By: Mike in A-town

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 11:39 PM

Originally Posted by Marty
I think being able to be happy while living alone is a good attribute.


In my opinion, this ^^^ is a necessary attribute for a man. You'll never be happy with anyone if you don't learn to be happy on your own. I'm not saying anyone should be a hermit... But if you can get by quite happily on your own it makes you more "choosy" about what you are willing to put up with from anyone you might be in a relationship with.

I had a couple of practice runs at the marriage thing. And I spent quite a while on my own before I got married again. And I decided to work on myself while I was on my own. And I became very cautious and choosy about who I made a part of my life.

The woman I'm married to now tried the "if you don't know what's wrong I'm not going to tell you" mind game ONCE... I told her I don't play those games and if she persisted I would send her down the road and move on. If I did something wrong, tell me and we can discuss it and figure it out. She took it to heart and now we discuss everything, even the minor details and she is literally my best friend.

I won't say broom her or keep her, that's your call. Life is difficult enough, a relationship should be about teamwork not a power struggle.

Whatever you decide, I hope it works out and you find happiness.

Mike
Posted By: DelawareRob

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 11:44 PM

Posted By: Drifter

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 11:45 PM

Sounding like the 7 year itch was a year late.
Posted By: DelawareRob

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 11:46 PM

Posted By: DelawareRob

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 11:48 PM

So glad I am married to my best friend and one of the greatest people I know. She is a saint, and one heck of a lucky woman for landing me some days… wink

Couldn’t follow my passion of being a wife moocher without her!!


Posted By: DelawareRob

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 11:49 PM

Originally Posted by nvwrangler
Well I maybe single again, had an argument with the wife/girlfriend this weekend and don't know what I said that hurt her but she hasn't spoken to me since Saturday. She won't talk at all and moved into the spare room. Will see if she comes home from work today or moves out when I get home. This sucks loosing your best friend and partner we've been together for 8 years and I know I didn't handle my part correctly but I really don't know what I said.



Real talk. Hope y’all work it out, talk it out and discuss the issues with an open mind. Hope it turns out ok.

A relationship is a team. It also is not 50/50. Both people have to give 100% and it is hard work, but worth it.
Posted By: Savell

Re: Single again? - 05/10/22 11:51 PM

Posted By: H2ORat

Re: Single again? - 05/11/22 12:58 AM

Originally Posted by DelawareRob
Originally Posted by nvwrangler
Well I maybe single again, had an argument with the wife/girlfriend this weekend and don't know what I said that hurt her but she hasn't spoken to me since Saturday. She won't talk at all and moved into the spare room. Will see if she comes home from work today or moves out when I get home. This sucks loosing your best friend and partner we've been together for 8 years and I know I didn't handle my part correctly but I really don't know what I said.



Real talk. Hope y’all work it out, talk it out and discuss the issues with an open mind. Hope it turns out ok.

A relationship is a team. It also is not 50/50. Both people have to give 100% and it is hard work, but worth it.

agreed 100 %
Posted By: bucksnbears

Re: Single again? - 05/11/22 01:50 AM

Originally Posted by DelawareRob
Originally Posted by nvwrangler
Well I maybe single again, had an argument with the wife/girlfriend this weekend and don't know what I said that hurt her but she hasn't spoken to me since Saturday. She won't talk at all and moved into the spare room. Will see if she comes home from work today or moves out when I get home. This sucks loosing your best friend and partner we've been together for 8 years and I know I didn't handle my part correctly but I really don't know what I said.



Real talk. Hope y’all work it out, talk it out and discuss the issues with an open mind. Hope it turns out ok.

A relationship is a team. It also is not 50/50. Both people have to give 100% and it is hard work, but worth it.

Can be hard when one expects the other to give 200%.
I feel for the Op. Seems he's petty bummed out.
If it does fall apart, and if you find a women again, get stuff out right from the get go.

No surprises.
Posted By: 52Carl

Re: Single again? - 05/11/22 04:58 AM

Originally Posted by Nessmuck
I had to google ....Pigin string..

Me too. eBay has them for $22.95. It'll be here in 4 days. I already have the hat. smile
Posted By: Willy Firewood

Re: Single again? - 05/11/22 05:18 AM

Some relationships are give and take.
One person does all the giving and the other all the taking.

For a relationship to work, both must be willing to give their all all the time. And once in awhile we need to do even better!
Posted By: Kevin Colpetzer

Re: Single again? - 05/11/22 07:05 AM

The best way to get over one, is to get on a new one ☝️
Posted By: Scott__aR

Re: Single again? - 05/11/22 10:47 AM

Must be something in the air. Son is going through the same thing ... coming to a head this week.
Posted By: 1lessdog

Re: Single again? - 05/11/22 11:57 AM

Originally Posted by DelawareRob
So glad I am married to my best friend and one of the greatest people I know. She is a saint, and one heck of a lucky woman for landing me some days… wink

Couldn’t follow my passion of being a wife moocher without her!!





I remember coming home from school in the mid 70's and hearing my Mom singing all the Charlie Pride songs. I would set on the back porch steps and listen to her singing. I would give everything I own to hear her singing one more song.
Posted By: bearcat2

Re: Single again? - 05/11/22 12:22 PM

Posted By: GROUSEWIT

Re: Single again? - 05/11/22 12:56 PM

Originally Posted by Nessmuck
I had to google ....Pigin string..


My wife knew what it was grin
Posted By: GROUSEWIT

Re: Single again? - 05/11/22 01:02 PM

Originally Posted by 52Carl
Originally Posted by Nessmuck
I had to google ....Pigin string..

Me too. eBay has them for $22.95. It'll be here in 4 days. I already have the hat. smile


Boots and spurs?
Posted By: lee steinmeyer

Re: Single again? - 05/11/22 01:36 PM

I'd guess a hat band!
Posted By: lumberjack391

Re: Single again? - 05/11/22 06:50 PM

Heres a thought, my daughters mother was giving me the business for about 3 weeks and I couldnt take it no more. I sat her down and said what is the problem? She finally come out with it- she had a dream I was cheating on her.........I just shook my head and walked away. And here I was getting all homicidal over a freakin dream...
Posted By: Mad Scientist

Re: Single again? - 05/11/22 08:34 PM

Originally Posted by lumberjack391
Heres a thought, my daughters mother was giving me the business for about 3 weeks and I couldnt take it no more. I sat her down and said what is the problem? She finally come out with it- she had a dream I was cheating on her.........I just shook my head and walked away. And here I was getting all homicidal over a freakin dream...


Does your daughters mother like being referred to as your daughters mother?
Posted By: lumberjack391

Re: Single again? - 05/12/22 12:02 AM

Me and my daughter dont really care what she thinks, we both disowned her. She was an egg donor was about it.
Posted By: Bruiser1

Re: Single again? - 05/12/22 12:15 AM

Think of all the free time and money you’ll have now.
Posted By: Savell

Re: Single again? - 05/12/22 12:24 AM



.... here you go NV , if my advice didn’t work.... best country song past or present in my opinion... a watched a few walk away with this cd playin in the background in my younger days lol
Posted By: rick brocious

Re: Single again? - 05/12/22 12:51 AM

Posted By: nvwrangler

Re: Single again? - 05/12/22 12:54 AM

Savell you still haven't answered if hobbles, a quirt and a twiisted wire slide bit works. And how about a flat hat , chinks and a wild rag for dress ?

Song now added to play list
Posted By: Savell

Re: Single again? - 05/12/22 01:08 AM

... you can bust in with whatever tack you see fit... but my advice stands lol
Posted By: Ohiowoodchuck

Re: Single again? - 05/12/22 01:34 AM

I enjoy the silent treatment myself. As mentioned earlier it must be something In the air because it’s happening at my house also. I always win the silent treatment game.
Posted By: rpmartin

Re: Single again? - 05/12/22 01:34 AM

Posted By: rpmartin

Re: Single again? - 05/12/22 01:39 AM

Posted By: 1rivercabin53

Re: Single again? - 05/12/22 01:58 PM

Well have you still got the women or did you put her out? You started this this post but never let us know what was the out come. Hope it works out for the best.
Posted By: 1rivercabin53

Re: Single again? - 05/14/22 02:00 AM

yes
Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/14/22 10:08 AM

In case you still need some cheering up I still remember you posting pics from a beech side resort when Texas had an ice age last year so I got your back!

Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/14/22 10:08 AM

Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/14/22 10:15 AM

Posted By: Mark June

Re: Single again? - 05/14/22 10:19 AM

We've got so much woulda, coulda, shoulda stealing people's joy on this thread, I'm of the opinion some of all y'all need to set more traps. Immediately.
laugh
Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/14/22 10:26 AM

Every once in a while I will be seeing some random hottie and she will walk for what ever reason. When one does, I have noticed that at some point they will reach back out to me I suppose it is because I am basically a buckle bunny's dream come true LOL.

When that does happen I always make it a point to text back "Hey I am on a date, lemmy get back to ya!" It works like a charm and allows me to keep my rockstar quality streak of disappointing all women!



Posted By: west river rogue

Re: Single again? - 05/14/22 10:37 AM

Originally Posted by Leftlane
Every once in a while I will be seeing some random hottie and she will walk for what ever reason. When one does, I have noticed that at some point they will reach back out to me I suppose it is because I am basically a buckle bunny's dream come true LOL.

When that does happen I always make it a point to text back "Hey I am on a date, lemmy get back to ya!" It works like a charm and allows me to keep my rockstar quality streak of disappointing all women!




Oh Brother!!! cry
Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/14/22 10:56 AM

Posted By: west river rogue

Re: Single again? - 05/14/22 10:59 AM

Originally Posted by Leftlane

love the troubador!
Posted By: AirportTrapper

Re: Single again? - 05/14/22 11:01 AM

Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/14/22 11:09 AM

Good one APT! Here is a good and sad one

Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/14/22 11:11 AM

Posted By: GROUSEWIT

Re: Single again? - 05/14/22 11:14 AM

Originally Posted by west river rogue
Originally Posted by Leftlane
Every once in a while I will be seeing some random hottie and she will walk for what ever reason. When one does, I have noticed that at some point they will reach back out to me I suppose it is because I am basically a buckle bunny's dream come true LOL.

When that does happen I always make it a point to text back "Hey I am on a date, lemmy get back to ya!" It works like a charm and allows me to keep my rockstar quality streak of disappointing all women!




Oh Brother!!! cry

Yep a legend in his own tiny mind!!!
Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/14/22 11:41 AM

Hey it is hard to be humble if you got an inbox as full as I do! grin
Posted By: danvee

Re: Single again? - 05/14/22 02:11 PM

Couldn't find it on line but heard it in a blues bar in Louisiana done live "Mister your wife's been cheating on both of us"
Posted By: AirportTrapper

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 12:44 AM

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Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 01:33 AM

Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 03:58 AM

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Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 04:10 AM

Posted By: yotetrapper30

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Posted By: danny clifton

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 06:53 AM

Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 10:09 AM

Any cowboy can appreciate this one

Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 10:16 AM

Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 10:17 AM

Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 10:26 AM

Posted By: J Staton

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 12:28 PM

Posted By: AJE

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 12:34 PM

Originally Posted by nvwrangler
I really don't know what I said.
There's a country song that says sometimes it is not what a guy says but what he doesn't say.
Posted By: rick brocious

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 01:52 PM

Posted By: MNTrapper21

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 01:59 PM

nvwrangler, don't leave us hanging, what's the outcome
Posted By: nvwrangler

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 04:15 PM

We're talking and working things out. My reaction and telling her not to come to mom's is what set her off. She is starting to understand how I felt and why. We're going to try a counselor. To be honest this is the only issue we have and only when her friends or kids come to town. Both of us had been the happiest we had ever been till that fight. We will keep working on it.
Posted By: Feedinggrounds

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 05:22 PM

Originally Posted by nvwrangler
We're talking and working things out. My reaction and telling her not to come to mom's is what set her off. She is starting to understand how I felt and why. We're going to try a counselor. To be honest this is the only issue we have and only when her friends or kids come to town. Both of us had been the happiest we had ever been till that fight. We will keep working on it.

Best of wishes!!
Posted By: Providence Farm

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 05:32 PM

Either your married or not. She is not your wife just because you call her wife. Pretending is not the same.

I'm glad it's turning in your favor.
Posted By: Okie Farmer

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 06:21 PM

Originally Posted by nvwrangler
We're talking and working things out. My reaction and telling her not to come to mom's is what set her off. She is starting to understand how I felt and why. We're going to try a counselor. To be honest this is the only issue we have and only when her friends or kids come to town. Both of us had been the happiest we had ever been till that fight. We will keep working on it.



Good to hear and good luck to both of you.



Originally Posted by Providence Farm
Either your married or not. She is not your wife just because you call her wife. Pretending is not the same.

I'm glad it's turning in your favor.



If nvwrangler says she is his wife that is good enough for me.
Posted By: Whopper Stopper

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 06:38 PM

Best of luck.

Hope you can work it out without succumbing to a third party leach.

WS
Posted By: J Staton

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 07:14 PM

Good to hear. Time for makeup tunes....
Posted By: Mark June

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 09:09 PM

Originally Posted by nvwrangler
We're talking and working things out. My reaction and telling her not to come to mom's is what set her off. She is starting to understand how I felt and why. We're going to try a counselor. To be honest this is the only issue we have and only when her friends or kids come to town. Both of us had been the happiest we had ever been till that fight. We will keep working on it.


PM sent
Posted By: GREENCOUNTYPETE

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 09:55 PM

Originally Posted by nvwrangler
We're talking and working things out. My reaction and telling her not to come to mom's is what set her off. She is starting to understand how I felt and why. We're going to try a counselor. To be honest this is the only issue we have and only when her friends or kids come to town. Both of us had been the happiest we had ever been till that fight. We will keep working on it.


keep working it out , glad to hear your the happiest together , working family into that her kids your mother , her siblings , it sounds like that puts a strain on things.

sometimes just scheduling the expectations or lack of them can keep you both happy

so you may be on your own no expectations of you going or being any where when her kids are in town and just let them go wit the flow.
Posted By: Ark Trapper

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 10:17 PM

https://youtu.be/fr5XaY2I-CE
Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 11:00 PM

That is good news Jeb and I will be rooting for ya, you gotta know that. BUT if things start south and pick up warp speed like they sometimes do, misery loves company and you can count us us bud! grin
Posted By: Mark June

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 11:52 PM

It'd be worthwhile for both of you to sit down with a therapist and sort through all of it.
We all have junk in our trunks and it can sour relationship after relationship after relationship after relationship.
Regardless of what song's on the radio.

Blessings,
Mark
Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/15/22 11:59 PM

Sniping at our impeccable taste in self help tunes I see. I will remember this! cool
Posted By: Mark June

Re: Single again? - 05/16/22 12:10 AM

LL, I think I still owe you a brew and a tune or some such??
I'm a hard man to tack down shocked
Trapping in 101 temps today near Cotulla.
Wow it's balmy.

Blessings,
Mark
Posted By: Leftlane

Re: Single again? - 05/16/22 12:12 AM

I am sure that will separate the men from the boys real quick like. I will be working around Salado and Temple for most of the summer so if you head up 35 I could probably stand one more cold drink!
Posted By: Mark June

Re: Single again? - 05/16/22 12:17 AM

I owe and I don't forget but the cold one will have to wait. When I get done here in a week or so (depends on the rain Man), my truck and trailer is headed north to Alaska.... well, Michigan. I got a house and a manufacturing shop to put together!!!!

We bought back in February and I've only seen it just once. Thought I might go inhabit it for a spell.

I promise, we'll get together at some point. I'm now a full fledged Texigander!
Posted By: adam m

Re: Single again? - 05/16/22 12:29 AM

That's great news NVW.
Posted By: ScottW

Re: Single again? - 05/17/22 01:42 AM

Originally Posted by Mark June
LL, I think I still owe you a brew and a tune or some such??
I'm a hard man to tack down shocked
Trapping in 101 temps today near Cotulla.
Wow it's balmy.

Blessings,
Mark


We spent a night in Cotulla on our honeymoon I believe! If it’s the town I’m thinking it has a Sonic restaurant. And lots of natural gas if I remember right! And a hotel worker who neglected to tell us their continental breakfast was out of everything except cereal and milk……morning person said the food delivery would be there later that day!

Glad you’re getting it worked out wrangler, it’s not always easy.

Happy trapping! ScottW
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