I vote he gets hungry enough he will get a job.

Talented people with all the potential that they never reach are just milking that potential that they will never reach. If they keep dancing to his tune they will always be dancing always.

Hungry people are often humble and more willing to work I’ve found.

Convenience stores and fast food joints here local here are paying 12 to 14 bucks an hour to start with immediate openings. Some jobs go unfilled. A person could easily feed themselves on that much money.

Truth!

They say if you look around at a family reunion and you don't know who the loser is... it's you.

This guy has probably been enabled and bailed out to the point where he thinks he deserves it.

Which is more embarrassing ? That ^, or being a 35 yo dog tick

was at a 4-H shoot the other day and we were discussing this.
we could not think of one lazy person who had done hay as a kid.
nearly every leader at the event had done hay

one friend said his dad would give him time off the farm when their first cutting was done so he would go up north to visit cousins well their hay was 2 weeks behind ours so he got there and helped them with hay , then their neighbors with hay , and it only made him appreciate the bale elevator his dad had even more.

I had a stepson that fit that description to a T. Didn't want to work, just wanted to hang out with his buddies and thought he was a big shot. He was hitting up his sister, mom and me for $ to pay his bills and buy food gas and other non-essentials.

I shut him off, which caused problems with his mother and me. I can't do that for a bum that puts forth no effort at all. He is dead now. I predicted the outcome of his life years ago. I told him, son you will end up in jail or dead in the near future. It was no surprise when I got the news but also a relief sad to say. I felt bad for the wife it was her youngest. He was 45 when he died.

This is how I feel too. I agree with helping someone out to better themselves but I'm not going to dole money out to someone who won't work to improve their situation. I tend to distance myself regarding some relatives and people.

I feel that nearly all of us need a pat on the back once in a while and yet we also need a kick in the pants at times to get us going in the right direction Often times it is how we handle the good and bad times that decide the direction we go in life .My one brother told me once after getting himself in trouble due to several bad choices that he just got into a situation that resulted in him ending in a hole he could not get out of I said well the first thing you need to do when you find yourself in a hole is stop digging

If the bum is texting he has a cell phone and if it's working he is paying his bill so he can't be too hungry yet.

Wait until the one with money passes. My wife's brother talked her dad into making him executor of his estate. Not sure what it was worth but he didn't do what the law, will or trust told him to do. He told my wife to get a lawyer. Were sitting here in IN waiting to talk to one. The problem is the law doesn't care if the executor lies under oath or steals from the family. My mom passed away last year and my brother talked her into becoming the executor. We found out after she died that my brother stole the ranch and at least 100k from mom. Yea every family has one and the Stinky debris rises when a relative dies. Don't waste your money on wills, trusts and lawyers. They are worth the paper they are written on and lawyers are just....well, I can't say.

Not getting a job is one of two mistakes he is making, the other is threatening suicide publicly to anyone who will listen, as Bob pointed out, could be just a matter of time.

Just what, a dying breed? Let’s hope so.

Threatening suicide is a side act to put pressure on the ones that are giving him money, stop the money and call his bluff, then you'll see if he's serious, if he is....problem solved.

People with real issues rarely run around threatening to off themselves.

That’s one way of looking at it. lol

X2. I hit rock bottom hard and took a long time to get it together. I was 35 when that happened. Trapping turned out to be a HUGE part of the process.

Had a step son who was (is) that way. In 2007, my wife and 2 younger step-kids moved to NY. We set him up to go to FL and work at Disney (his father lives down near Orlando). I flew him down there to do his paperwork. Because he and a buddy were caught smoking marijuana in a parking lot - not legal in OH, with stolen merchandise in the car (I was a Police Detective at the time - WHOLE other story series there), the admissions process took a long time. I dumped his clothes in his dorm room, grabbed my duffel bags, drove back to the airport and left him there. We have seen him 5 or 6 times since then. Feel bad for my wife, but he is a carbon copy of his dad and hasn't changed a bit in his 35 years on the earth.