Had to do it with 4 friends with cancer......very rough thing to do but we need to do it. You did good brother!!!

Never easy. You did great. Now keep his memory alive by doing something to honor him.

Sorry for your loss. I've been through it too many times.

Personally, I'd prefer to remember loved ones the way they were and not see them on their death beds. We don't do it for ourselves though, at least I don't. We do it to comfort the person dying.

Went through it with a beloved aunt two months ago. The way her face lit up when I walked into her hospice room was worth it. I stayed for several hours. She was in rough shape, in and out of lucidity. When I left I hugged and kissed her, told her I loved her. She must have realized I was saying a final goodbye. She suddenly became very lucid and said, "I'm gonna get better." I really didn't know what to say. She died three days later.

cancer SUCKS!!!!, I've had a few friends' pass from cancer, it's never easy, I'm a 3 times survivor of cancer myself,

That's tough but I bet he was glad you showed up for a last visit.

You did a good thing by going to see him, and making him smile. Cancer sucks my friend!

So Sorry for you and your friend. When my Uncle was dealt with Terminal Cancer they were going to put him in a Hospice House but my wife and I would not allow it. We had him brought into the house and made his final days as comfortable as possible. It is hard and his wife did the right thing. So did you.!!!! My Uncle was a Vietnam combat veteran and no way was I letting him pass among Strangers. I had my two Brothers and my wife and a Grand daughter all around him till the end.

Thanx , very cool ......and I do like some country western cowboy Indian stuff ....

Thanx for all the kind words , folks

You did good,, just being there shows that you care.
We often question sometimes why GOD allows such a horrible disease like this to happen…
I have many times… but, we don’t know the mind of GOD,,, even as crappy as it is,, there’s a reason..
And someday, it will be revealed why.

I agree

That was a fine thing that you did. Some folks wouldn't be able to do what you did. You did your friend a kind favor. I'm sure he appreciated it.

I asked my buddy for some of his ashes after he passed. He seemed genuinely surprised and grateful that I asked. I told him I was going to place them under my outhouse. He crapped on me in life and I intended to crap on him in death. I still have his ashes in my office.

Please don’t take this as me trying to hijack the thread. This post reminded me of a similar occurrence with my friend.
My friend Paul had fought cancer for awhile and a mutual friend told me if I wanted to see him to hurry as he was near the end.
I stopped by on a Friday morning. His son took me back to his bed. His son shook his foot gently and kept repeating “Dad, someone’s here to see you”.
After several tries of this I figured he wasn’t going to wake up and decided to leave. I turned to his son and said “that’s okay, let him sleep”.
Paul’s eyes flew open and he said loudly “Shaffer?” (That’s my last name).
His son says with surprise ”He recognized your voice!!!!” His son then left me alone with him.
I said a few things to him. Just small talk. When I’d speak his eyes would open, then close as soon as I stopped. He never said anything else since he’d said my last name.
After a few times of this I stopped trying to talk to him to let him rest.
I then decided to leave and without saying a word I turned to leave. There was carpet on the floor so he could not hear my footsteps leaving.
As I neared the door I heard him say in a loud voice, “Shaffer, you keep on working and I’ll see you in heaven later”.
He passed 2 days later.
Been 10 years and that moment still brings tears to my eyes.

I'm so sorry to read that. You really don't have to say anything at times like that. Just being there says a lot.

Life is hard sometimes And it is often not fair And for you to visit him as you did shows that all men may be created equal but you have the desire to be more than that At the time the friend is slowly slipping away you sat by his side In by book youdid the thing he probably needed at the time .

Lost a Brother in law and a niece to that nasty stuff.No matter how much you think you are ready it still finds a way to tell you that you are not. Niece had a baby 6 months after was discovered but was too late, I hope they are both with God and pain free now. Prayers for you and yours as well.

I know exactly how some of you guys feel. A coworker and friend had lung cancer. I kept telling him to quit smoking or he would see his 65 birthday. He see 65 but not 66th. I bought him the patches to stop smoking and he never quit. They gave him 12 to 15 months to live. He lived 18 month and I seen him every week and would text every day. I built him a deer stand on a trailer so he could enjoy his last deer hunting season. Both his daughters and w of his grandkids shot deer out of it that fall. I thought he might make another deer season. It never happened. I was visiting with him on a Thursday and told him I was taking are bosses 11 yr old son deer hunting on Fri. I text Gregg at 6:15 and was going ask him how he was feeling. His wife Becky text me right back and told he had just died. A few mins later the young hunter shot a does and we were looking for it. Now I'm crying. I looked up and asked Gregg where she was. I really believe he guided me to the deer. I looked up and thanked him. I was crying and Brant asked me what was wrong. I said Gregg died just before Braden shot the deer.

When we talked at work death came up many time and we talked about what we would say at the funeral. I was so broken hearted. The only thing I could say was. There was not a day went by that he didn't bring up his wife and daughters. I said I could feel the love in his heart and voice.

I still miss him and it still hurt inside when I think of him.

Went to see Belin in his last days, took his hand and asked if he had talked to the lord. He squeezed my hand. Bud and I talked most days till his last few. Death is sometimes welcomed.

Went to see my brother before they pulled the plug. Heart surgery went perfect, but the nurse stuck a feeding tube into the lung afterwards so went without O2 for a bit. Completely brain dead. His eyes were half open and and were steely grey. He was just a shell at that point. It was an open wound for me but over time it scabs over…..but it’ll leave a scare on you that’ll never go away.
Good on you for talking and getting a reaction….
God bless.