the thing with kids is you can't even get life insurance for them till they are 7 days old so you have to bear the cost of burial on your own , many hospitals offer free infant cremation and many cemeteries have an infants grave and a church takes on that expense.
we have reduced mother deaths significantly with pre-natal care and trained people to react as well as monitoring. Kids a lot more make it but they have to make it do days first. we lost 2 kids before delivery , my cousins lost twins hours post delivery , that still happens quite a lot. you don't see it so much because it typically doesn't have a funeral service or not one of any size like a person who has a lot of colleges , friends and such.
before this year I would tell you the hardest day was going to the hospital with a pregnant wife and leaving with no baby.
the next hardest day was telling my kids there mother was going to die in months not years.
the one after that was when they visited and she couldn't speak hardly a coherent thought to them and then the hardest was days later when she passed.
That's a very tough one Green. My sincerest condolences.
My mother had 7 pregnancies, me being the last one. The pregnancy before me ended up being a full term still birth. My mother wrote this poem during her hospital recovery:
To My Baby Son
Like a budding rose
With fragrance sweet
Like a melody just begun
I lift my eyes
I catch my breath
And find the song is done.
Like a bird on the wing
In the homing hour
Like a song in the night half sung
Like the perfumed breath of
A tropical flower
Sweet when the day is done,
My baby entered celestial space
Safe in the arms of Eternal Grace.
One sweet glimpse of a delicate flower
One glimpse of God's exquisite face;
As flower's perfume is wafted away
He drifted in Peace to Eternal Day.
