I’m from Pa. and have known of several destination weddings in both Cancun and the Outer Banks. I opted out of them, the wife went in my stead. She’s at Disneyworld now with the daughter and grandkids, I’m at camp in Snow Shoe, Pa. Unless I’m going somewhere to shoot something, I’m not much of a traveler.

I also think those "reveal Parties" are nothing but a LOOK-AT-ME event for spoiled children in adult bodies.

To the OP tell your niece to tell them that she can not do it and let it go with that. It dose not matter what time of what generation it is there was some back in the days done the same but you do not hear as much about it. I say she should just say no. As for the bride and groom that is there problem of how long they will stay together.

I am on the older end of the millenial generation UNFORTUNATELY and even I say that is ridiculous. Personally, if a friend asked me to do that, I'd have to reconsider how good of a friend they really are. Seems completely self-centered. The world does NOT revolve around you.

In the cases I’m used to, when they travel like that it was the party, wedding, and then the honeymoon all in one mostly to Vegas. They invited people but it was always your discretion weather you went or not everybody always understood. Main reason was they didn’t want people in town judging the wedding.

My wife has a friend that had a destination wedding and bachelorette party. Cost me a fortune. Her father spent close to $45,000 on the wedding way up in Vermont(we live in NC and so does she ). She was very self centered the entire time. I know it’s her special day and all but it was way over the top. Expected us to hang out with them all night after the reception at the hotel. I finally said drew it and went to bed around 2 that morning. When our wedding came around she didn’t reciprocate as well as you would expect. That marriage lasted about 5 years they split up for a year or two until she realized she could t live the lifestyle she wanted on a single teachers salary with two kids. This is what happens later in life when your children haven’t been told NO.

Wedding etiquette dictates that the brides family pay for travel expenses for destination weddings. I was told I was being rude for bringing that up and proving it in Emily Post book of etiquette. In the end I paid anyhow. Plane tickets cost us $600 each(apparently it’s not cheap to fly into Burlington) $400 for hotel. No telling what I paid for my wife’s hair and makeup at that time she wouldn’t tell me what the cost were.

Weddings and funerals. A big waste of money.

Oh boy you're right on about funerals! Even if you just want to be roasted to ashes they charge you an arm and a leg.

If it was legal I'd direct my family to just plant me in the mud in the swamp next to the lake.

Well my wife and I are going through the planning with my daughter who is getting married this next fall. So far seems like she is very thrifty and knows that spending a lot of money on a one day event probably isn't a real great idea. Knowing that spending $1000 or $10,000 isnt going to change much. You are still getting married.

I've got 3 daughters. Two are of marrying age but haven't done so yet. They know there will be no extravagant nonsense paid for out of my wallet. I have no problem with a decent, low key wedding and celebration with close friends and family, but thats it.

Psying for a tux is almost too much...let alone that!!!

I’ve got a friend who gave each of their children $15,000 when they were getting married. That’s all he gave them. What they did with it was up to them. They could do a justice of the peace wedding and save the money or spend it however they wanted. Two of the three spent an excess of that to get married. The first one spent about half and saved the rest.