Re: Divorce and custody
[Re: Brett Thomas]
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I have a good friend that is having the same issue, except he was never married. His exfiance actually made his family pay $450.00 to see his son, when they came down from Michigan to see him. Then she stopped allowing him to see his son at all. He had to higher a lawyer, file a bunch of paperwork, refile the paperwork when he found she was in a different township and wait almost 3 months for a hearing. He was in a terrible state of mind. I was afraid he was going to kill himself. He gave the judge copies of all her harassing, threatening and extortionate text messages and the judge tore his ex apart. He was granted joint custody.
Now she is having him served with court papers seeking information a few times a week.
Keep all negative texts and emails from your ex. Don't say or type anything that can be used against you. Get a DNA test on your son. Get a very good, experienced lawyer. Seek professional counseling if you need it. Being kept unfairly from your children is terrible.
I hope it goes as well as it possibly can for you.
Keith Dont take this personally Let's get one thing squared away my son is mine . I can tell you to with the exact time he was conceived. We had a horrible time getting pregnant because of my wife's reproductive tract issues. Had to go on Thanksgiving morning to make my deposit at 8:00am . Wife went in at 10 to recieve the goods. Was awkward sitting across from my family eating Turkey, after my wife had told everyone what we were doing that morning. Everytime I see a Turkey my mind goes back to the "sin room". There is no question of her faithfulness and yes I am going to counseling. I've never been afraid to ask for help and also know it will only help if we end up in court. I did not mean that your son was not yours. I meant that women seeking custody will say there is doubt to at least temporarily wrest your child from you, while you wait months for a court hearing to get custody back. You can't get back lost time with your child . My friend missed the entire Christmas season and his son's birthday because of his exes manipulations. Keith
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Re: Divorce and custody
[Re: Brett Thomas]
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My son needs his mom but he also needs me. She has made some allegations claiming alcohol abuse from a prior time in my life. I've admitted my mistakes and I nipped them in the butt years ago before they seriously affected my life.
Luckily people are dumb enough to post pics of themselves on Facebook. Kinda sad she had been recording my conversations and gathering evidence for a year. The absolute worst thing was my problems when I was 18 . Took me all of 30 mins online and I had all I need to prove she drinks with our son present.
Its says alot I'm sitting in a parking lot waiting on her mom and sister to get here so all of us can have lunch Her mom went from seeing our son 5 days a week to one because of a fight and she did her sister the same.
Luckily I understand no matter what happens it will only harm Corbin and her family by keeping him from them. Really embarrassing that she cant see that but itll bite her in the end.
I'll answer PM s once I drop him off and cant say thank you enough for the support.
On a brighter note a great guy who traps close to home had his trapping shed burn down and lost near everything trapping related. Dropped him off a few traps and lures yesterday. Told him that helped me alot more than him. It always feels good to help Been through this crap. Just remember, this will pass .
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Re: Divorce and custody
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03/04/19 03:21 PM
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Happens frequently. It's always sad when a mother uses a child as a pawn to satisfy her own greed. The child is the loser every time. I know. I've been there. Custody is the strongest bargaining chip you have. Never give it up voluntarily except possibly in exchange for more liberal visitation rights. The courts are biased in favor of the mother. In a custody hearing the most dominate lawyer almost always gets the most favorable rulings.
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Re: Divorce and custody
[Re: Brett Thomas]
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03/04/19 06:49 PM
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I didn't read the entire thread....
I kept a daily log book for the days I had my son and the days I didn't. What we did, daycare pickup/drop off, bath times, bed times, what we had for dinner, and in the off days, cleaned house, etc. Establish that you can care for your son and that he will be fine. I also documented any interactions with the "mrs".
Find "non family"(of course your family is going to give good reviews, hopefully) people that have witnessed the interactions you have with your son and see if they would be willing to provide affidavits that you are a fit father(I can't remember the exact term). Don't allow any of them - family or non-family - to bash the boy's mother. You are only looking for "your reviews".
Get a lawyer
Lastly, I rec'd the following advice. "When it is all said and done, NOBODY is gonna come up and slap you on the back and tell you that you were a nice guy.".
I am praying for your son
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Re: Divorce and custody
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Good luck, be careful what you post here and other places you visit on the web. Be careful what you text. Very easy to be taken out of context and come back and bite you hard. 36 years ago I got divorced and got sole custody of my Son, but I was lucky, his Mom just walked away from both of us.
When things are Grim, become the Grim Reaper! Fred Moyer
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Re: Divorce and custody
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03/04/19 09:03 PM
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Document, Document, Document, repeat. Record all conversations, Record all conversations, Record all conversations, REPEAT AS NESSASARY. Don't be passive. Sarge
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Re: Divorce and custody
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Don't be fooled by the misnomer that if no wrong is committed she can't stop you from seeing your son !
She can make it so inconvenient, so difficult, so hard to access, that you will feel it's a useless thing to do, even if the court ordered visits, does not make it so, I know as I've lived it for 6 years trying to see him and watch his growing, at every turn there was a road block, excuse, a cover up, supported by family, friends and lawyers. I did everything that's been listed here and still lost him, can't even send a B-Day card, he's as gone as death would be. You can do everything right and still lose whats yours.
Court ordered don't mean crap only when it's shown in court or the LEO's, it's a record that can be broken just like a coffee cup, so many times it's un real.
Your must be for ever vigilant and the even tempered gentleman of grace and charm always, never being negative about her, or her family or friends to her or to your boy.
Sorry if my opinions or replies offend you, they are not meant to !
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Re: Divorce and custody
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03/04/19 09:44 PM
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Not only do you need a lawyer. You need one that specializes in divorce. I went down this road many years ago. My lawyer told me exactly what I should and should not do.He also told me what the Ex would do and when based off of his many years experience. I did What i was told and when I was told to do it. As a result, when the smoke cleared, I had physical custody of my 2 sons, I got the house and all the belongings except for her clothes and a piano. A good lawyer is worth what they charge!
Life always offers a second chance. It's called Tomorrow
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