Was reading another thread about spreading ashes and reminded me of something Dad did that (to me) was against my Mothers wishes. She said she wanted cremated since when we moved here in 1972. She even told the funeral director at that time and they'd joke each time she attended a viewing there. She died before Dad and finalizing everything at the funeral home Bill (funeral director Mom joked with) got to the point of the paperwork and said he knew she wanted cremated. Dad said no saying she had been thinking it over lately and didn't want cremated, he was the only one who "knew" of this. We let him do what he wanted as it was his wife. As he was a Pastor the ashes to ashes dust to dust part I brought up he said if cremated it wasn't a natural return to ashes/dust and he would be raised before her. WHAT?
So what is your opinion? Personally I'm going cremation and will have it written that way (plus siblings know) and have asked the kids if they want a place to have to "visit" me. They said no so since it's just ashes and not me I told them to do what they wanted including flushing down the toilet.

There is no biblical direction for either one. Your body returns to the earth whether it decays or is burned. Same thing.

I would prefer buried/tossed in the lake or woods without preservatives. No reason to cut me up and pump my body full of poison. Buzzards gotta eat, same as worms.

I want all my kids to see me dead , but not embalmed no need for that poison I feel seeing the deceased makes it more real and provides better closure . personal experience.

once they have all seen me dead cremation is fine no point wasting money that could be used to buy beer for the memorial party.


hey if they wanted to build a big funeral pyre and have the memorial and cremation all at once sure go for it

I agree on the closure. The goverment will not let that happen at least in indiana.

I wws wanting to have my son moved to the farm and have a family plot. The state required a 300k bank account set aside for future grass cutting ect... thats as far as i got with it.

When im dead I dont care. I only carevwhat the kids want. My wife wants burned and money saved the kids do whatvthey wabt with.

Told the family to toast me up.....and fill all my coal cars with my ashes,and run me around my model train layout......

Buried, next to my grandfather, great grandfather and great grandfather.

Mother made the choice to be be buried in the community Dad and she made home for fifty years so Dad will be with her.

I might be the only one to fulfill Dad's dream of going home after all these years.

well if you know your going your family can be with you at hospice or at home

if you die at home no one has to call the funeral home first they can call the family , provided they don't live too far away.

I was not able to see my grandpa when he died , much of the family was there in the room , congestive heart failure they kept turning up the oxygen when they couldn't give him any more oxygen and his blood oxygen levels were falling they gathered the family that could get there and turned of the oxygen with everyone in the room he was goon in a few minutes.

I didn't think it was a big deal at the time , but I wish I would have gone now.

Burried face down so everyone can kiss my..... bahaha.. I'll be cremated with no funeral. Not giving a funeral home my money. Kids can keep it all.

Dang straight on that !

I don't have a preference. I don't believe I'll have any connection to my body after death, so it won't effect me either way.

Keith

I want to be air fried

Sounds like a plan to me White though my wife don't agree.

Always had a fear of dying in fire. So I'm going for buried. Guess the wife will do what she wants though

Burn me. Add my ashes to a proven fox lure
And I can catch some reds one last time.

Took care of this earlier this year. Cremated no wake or funeral. It's all one last money suck. I told my kids where to spread em.

It is common for people to have a sample of ashes from a loved one , or pet, encased into a glass or crystal ornament for keepsake. To have close to them.

I think , having a dearly loved one in a teardrop crystal as a necklace would be close to my heart....

There are many laws in many states that state how you may be laid to rest in either way, best check on them before setting anything in writing because some times it won't be what is desire by either live or dead.

Not to mention the heart ache expressed by those who have dealt with the passed person for years knowing what they wished.
However if those handling the passing don't care what others think then it's a mute point !

My mom wished to be cremated and the three of us boys all agreed to that wish until her passing, when the middle one decided on a burial,
that caused a riff between us other two who stood fast to her wish's, she was cremated and most of the dominate faith in the family
had a cow over the cremation, saying she no could never be ressurected as the religion believed, told them all they better go back and study up some. My self and the younger brother no longer associate with them. To bad for them.

Who ever is in charge is usually the last say, even with a death wish in writing, so y'all better study up and make it clear who is the last say in the matter to save heartache for the living, the passed have moved on and can't do anything for y'all then !!

I will be buried, hopefully not alive , LOL !!

Dump me in lake erie or out in the Hudson canyon. Fish gotta eat too...