I have 3 adult children 18, 19 , 21
18 is still in high school , 19 works at a plant in town making farm equipment , 21 is a junior in college to be an art teacher.
so my experience isn't from being a grand parent but the parent and seeing how different my parents and in-laws grand parented but really how they parented also.
my dad let me do , everything working on trucks , the house , he kept a close eye told me how he wanted it but I could input how I thought might be better and we could discuss it and decide on a plan.
my mother in law would tell my wife not to do it , or your doing it wrong , always very negative
I have a good friend and hunting partner that his dad a nice guy was silent or you are doing it wrong. not really anything in-between.
I take the I am going to tell you how to do it the first time exactly how I want it and why. then when you understand the process we can try some things your way if they aren't unsafe.
my wife always felt judged and not a huge surprise my kids did also by my mother in law. got to where they just didn't even want to be around her my wife and my 2 daughters.
my father in law is a nice enough guy but to be honest he invented every type of yard work he could to get out of the house once my mother in law started yelling.
it's 2022 grand kids are probably going to wear some strange stuff and dye their hair weird colors although you probably have a few years on that , how you react will decide if they keep visiting you.
they are going to have phases ,you have to let them grow through them some times.
Last edited by GREENCOUNTYPETE; 12/23/22 04:40 PM.