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Re: Difficult to Understand Tragedy
[Re: HobbieTrapper]
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05/14/23 05:35 PM
05/14/23 05:35 PM
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Northeast Oklahoma
Mike in A-town
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About 20 years ago my best friend and his wife divorced. She was given custody of their son and found someone new and remarried... I don't know all the details and wouldn't share them anyway. But I think she must have regretted the divorce and was unhappy in the new marriage.
So she put the boy to bed. Went out in the garage and started the car. Her new husband had tried to call her and didn't get an answer... So he came home, found her in the car, and called EMS.
My friend's son saw her being loaded in the ambulance. He was just days short of his 5th birthday.
And I was there when my friend had to tell his son that she wasn't coming home.
That was almost 20 years ago and I can still remember exactly how that little boy reacted and what he said. Not a conversation I would ever wish to be party to again in my life.
That experience caused me to form some fairly strong opinions on the topic. So I'm just going to stop there.
I'm sorry HT. I wish I had some sage advice to pass along. But I don't. Some things never make any sense no matter which angle you look at it from.
Mike
One man with a gun may control 100 others who have none.
Vladimir Lenin
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Re: Difficult to Understand Tragedy
[Re: HobbieTrapper]
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05/14/23 07:30 PM
05/14/23 07:30 PM
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Ohio
newtoga
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My best friend did it. Family and friends have no answers. He had retired early and seemed to be enjoying life.?????
lifetime member NTA, OSTA, GTA
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Re: Difficult to Understand Tragedy
[Re: HobbieTrapper]
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05/14/23 07:46 PM
05/14/23 07:46 PM
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james bay frontierOnt.
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A couple co workers I knew over the years offed themselves,for different reasons. One guy was a nice guy when sober but when drinking,(which he did fairly regular) he was like a bomb ready to go off. Always got in fights in the hotels,and didnt always come out on the winning end. I could tell something deep down was bothering him. When he was a small boy his mother was decapitated in a car crash coming back one night from bingo out of town,and his older brother(who was nothing like him)said that bothered him all his life.The guy was a loner with no friends or girlfriend. One day in summer he drove out on an old bush road drank a case of beer in the car with the engine running and a hose from the tailpipe into the car. No one knew where he was for about 6 weeks,when he was found by a fisherman.
The other fellow was a young guy with young children.He got separated from his wife and she took custody of the kids and made it difficult for him to see the kids,I guess he got depressed and took his own life.Not sure how he did it,a gun I think.
Forget that fear of gravity-get a little savagery in your life.
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Re: Difficult to Understand Tragedy
[Re: HobbieTrapper]
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05/14/23 08:17 PM
05/14/23 08:17 PM
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Eastern Shore of Maryland
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There were people from his college and even folks from Michigan, where he was starting this new job, at his funeral. The young man apparently made quite an impact on people’s lives. Makes it even harder to understand that he didn’t see his value being here.
Last edited by HobbieTrapper; 05/14/23 08:17 PM.
-Goofy
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Re: Difficult to Understand Tragedy
[Re: TreedaBlackdog]
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05/14/23 09:24 PM
05/14/23 09:24 PM
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Pennsy
Ed Patrick
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John 10:10
Ed Patrick - Thank you for the honesty of your testimony. Please know the more you share the love of Christ and how He changed your life - others will be moved. Rev 12:11. We can overcome through the blood of Jesus Christ.
If anyone reading has even the slightest inclination to destroy the life that God has given you, please know that there are many people that truly love you and above all Jesus Christ has an unimaginable love for you beyond your greatest dream. Call upon Him in your times of trials and pain and wait upon Him. He loves you more than I could ever tell you. Please please learn to cry out to our Creator and allow Him to carry your burdens. There is true freedom in Jesus Christ. He loves you! Amen brother.
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Re: Difficult to Understand Tragedy
[Re: HobbieTrapper]
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05/15/23 08:47 AM
05/15/23 08:47 AM
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Central, SD
Law Dog
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Self worth is a strange thing beautiful people think they are unattractive, people that have so much are lonely and often lost for what seems for no reason to us. Just look at eating disorders and the way the mind tricks a person into seeing what’s not the case. Child molesters convince themselves a child is a willing participant when that’s not the case.
That’s one reason you should not pick on the less fortunate imagine the impact to gang up on an already struggling person to think you’re “ manly” to do such a thing. You would think that time could be better used to help them rather than hurt them for “fun”. That supports the lack of self worth idea when a stronger person feels the need to pick on a weaker person to feel better about themselves. Sad but true it happens all of the time.
One thing I noticed over the years is mental health is not a perfect practice as the ones involved have fancy names for their ideas but seem as unsure as others involved when it comes the real problems.
Was born in a Big City Will die in the Country OK with that!
Jerry Herbst
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