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Opposition #8010489
12/03/23 06:11 PM
12/03/23 06:11 PM
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Pennsylvania
elsmasho82 Offline OP
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Does anyone else have family (parents or spouses) or friends that don’t want them to pursue outdoor activities? My mother gets so bent out of shape even though I’ve been doing this for years. I think she really wanted a ballerina girl and I’m just the total opposite. She is very protective and quite a bit overbearing. I think that she thinks I’m gonna get killed or something. It’s to the point that I almost have to hide it from her. Mind you I’m middle aged. She has this delusion of control. She’s come after me once when I was fishing like she caught me doing something wrong.
I don’t wanna lose my temper with her and I want the lines of communication to be open. But I kinda don’t feel like she can really accept me

Re: Opposition [Re: elsmasho82] #8010490
12/03/23 06:13 PM
12/03/23 06:13 PM
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More than likely you're not going to get her to change after all this time.

Re: Opposition [Re: elsmasho82] #8010491
12/03/23 06:14 PM
12/03/23 06:14 PM
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Do you live with your mom?

Re: Opposition [Re: elsmasho82] #8010493
12/03/23 06:16 PM
12/03/23 06:16 PM
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elsmasho82 Offline OP
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No I’ve been married and out of the house for decades. I agree I don’t think she’s gonna change. I just don’t wanna hurt her feelings and I also don’t want her to be a nervous wreck but I can’t convince her that I’m capable and that I’m prob more likely to get hurt at work or in transit than in the woods. She’s a negative person and she worries non stop. Guilts me a lot

Re: Opposition [Re: elsmasho82] #8010496
12/03/23 06:19 PM
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Just totally ignore her.
She'll realize her tantrums are futile.


swampgas chili and schmidt beer makes for a deadly combo

You have to remember that 1 out of 3 Democratic Voters is just as dumb as the other two.
Re: Opposition [Re: elsmasho82] #8010498
12/03/23 06:20 PM
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elsmasho82 Offline OP
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I hope so. I give her a lot of time and attention. She’s getting older. But she can’t keep doing this to me, it’s damaging. She’s a good mom but I wish she had a hobby other than me

Re: Opposition [Re: elsmasho82] #8010499
12/03/23 06:20 PM
12/03/23 06:20 PM
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Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. grin


"Where Can A Man Find Bear Beaver And Other Critters Worth Cash Money When Skinned?"

Re: Opposition [Re: elsmasho82] #8010500
12/03/23 06:20 PM
12/03/23 06:20 PM
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Sounds like if there’s no drama she would just create it anyway. Most parents can’t get their kids outdoors it’s a lot healthier than being a couch potato I don’t know what to tell you.

I’d rather be healthy then feeding into that negative thinking it makes no sense and sitting around.


Was born in a Big City Will die in the Country OK with that!

Jerry Herbst
Re: Opposition [Re: elsmasho82] #8010501
12/03/23 06:23 PM
12/03/23 06:23 PM
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My mother was pretty similar to what you describe. I think you've got two choices. Put your foot down and tell her how it is going to be, or put up with her and make the best of it. I pretty much chose the latter, and although she infuriated me at times, I also didn't want to hurt her feelings,and knew she wouldn't change anyway. I just went with the flow as best I could while she was still here. It worked out all right.

Re: Opposition [Re: elsmasho82] #8010503
12/03/23 06:24 PM
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Wow! No explanation then other than take her with you. My mom isn’t close to that bad, but I finally told her just come with me. She now think it’s the coolest thing in the world and tells all her friends about it. Granted I’m a guy and your a girl, but heck, one of the requirements before a future Daughter-in-law took my last name was that she knew how to hunt and fish, lol.

Re: Opposition [Re: elsmasho82] #8010504
12/03/23 06:25 PM
12/03/23 06:25 PM
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Have you tried to explain to her that deer generally don't tend to shoot back ??


Let's go Brandon

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Re: Opposition [Re: elsmasho82] #8010507
12/03/23 06:28 PM
12/03/23 06:28 PM
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I can't imagine. Dad raised us in the woods and on meat and three grown and processed by our own hands. Some of my very earliest memories are hunting and fishing. I literally knew no other way existed until I was grown and I pity those who exist in that make believe world.


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Re: Opposition [Re: Scuba1] #8010510
12/03/23 06:29 PM
12/03/23 06:29 PM
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elsmasho82 Offline OP
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Originally Posted by Scuba1
Have you tried to explain to her that deer generally don't tend to shoot back ??

Ha ha ha I think she’s more frightened of people. Like someone is going to follow me and slit my throat. Meanwhile she never wears her safety belt when driving, and she goes to yard sales and garage sales and into peoples shady basements without caution. She is terribly unaware of her surroundings. Don’t you think I worry about her? I’ve told her that!! Just goes back to square one!

Re: Opposition [Re: Wanna Be] #8010518
12/03/23 06:30 PM
12/03/23 06:30 PM
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Originally Posted by Wanna Be
Wow! No explanation then other than take her with you. My mom isn’t close to that bad, but I finally told her just come with me. She now think it’s the coolest thing in the world and tells all her friends about it. Granted I’m a guy and your a girl, but heck, one of the requirements before a future Daughter-in-law took my last name was that she knew how to hunt and fish, lol.


I took her once! She watched me make sets and took pictures of me. The next day I made her wait in the truck cause I didn’t want her to see the dispatch. When I walked back to the truck with heavy raccoons she took my picture. She just resets back to crazy mode all the time.

Re: Opposition [Re: elsmasho82] #8010521
12/03/23 06:33 PM
12/03/23 06:33 PM
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Get a gun carry permit that might calm her down a bit if safety is an issue any history that brought this about that you know of?


Was born in a Big City Will die in the Country OK with that!

Jerry Herbst
Re: Opposition [Re: elsmasho82] #8010525
12/03/23 06:35 PM
12/03/23 06:35 PM
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elsmasho82 Offline OP
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I have a concealed carry.
We didn’t grow up in a hunting or outdoorsy household so this is all foreign to her. I’ve taken safety courses and everything. My husband is very capable and 99 percent of the time I’m with him. I think poor mom is just mentally unwell. It’s my burden to bear. It makes me crazy because one day I won’t have her in my life and I’m gonna feel bad about hiding things from her or lying to her. But I almost have to for my own sanity currently

Re: Opposition [Re: elsmasho82] #8010537
12/03/23 06:44 PM
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Did she ever get counseling? Look up the definition of a narcissist. Not saying she is but many people who want to control others often fit into this category. Narcissist seldom change since they can’t give up control or never admit anything is their fault and they are always right. I have a close relative is a narcissist. I stay my distance as much as I can.


An old man roaming the Rockies
Re: Opposition [Re: elsmasho82] #8010540
12/03/23 06:45 PM
12/03/23 06:45 PM
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Never feel bad if you’re not doing anything wrong. I’d bet you would have the same issue no matter what you’re doing in life. Consider lying and hiding as part of her therapy to give her peace of mind sense it messing with yours now.


Was born in a Big City Will die in the Country OK with that!

Jerry Herbst
Re: Opposition [Re: elsmasho82] #8010541
12/03/23 06:47 PM
12/03/23 06:47 PM
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elsmasho82 Offline OP
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A friend of mine said that too. I wouldn’t doubt it. She certainly fits the category

Re: Opposition [Re: elsmasho82] #8010555
12/03/23 06:55 PM
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elsmasho82 Offline OP
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She’s literally doing it again as we speak. Cause I haven’t been to Bible class. She is on the phone with me saying I can go to a trappers picnic or banquet but can’t come to Bible class. She’s pushing it

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