I hear it's nice out west.

You are an adult. You have to set boundaries and let her know what those boundaries are. I had to do this with my dad. He thought he could just walk into my house whenever he wanted to. I told him he could come in my yard anytime (large farmyard) and was always welcome to be in the shop anytime that he wanted. My house however (in the same yard but 100 yards from the "farm" part) is not part of the farm, it is my private residence. No reason he can't call me if he needs help in the shop. I will come down and help him. I had a calm talk with him, laid out my expectations. After the talk, he challenged me 3 times by walking in my house unannounced. The third time I caught him on the porch before he got to the door. Told him he had to make a choice, either respect my boundaries or we go our separate ways. Of course now he has done a complete 180° turn and calls just to drive in my yard. Very childish and controlling, but his choice to do so.
You either set some boundaries or let her keep controlling you. I know it's tough and there is a chance that she will get mad and will choose to not be a part of your life, but that is her choice. Your choice is to let her continue manipulateing you or set boundaries. If you choose to let her keep controlling you, please don't complain about the issue not being resolved.

There’s some good advise here and sounds like options, carry on status quo or put the foot down.
As for her driving, she should buckle up. Getting behind the wheel is one of the most dangerous things I do at work, and I build powerline…lol!

To bad she doesn’t understand your life style my mom was always 110% supportive

My mom is a borderline animal rights type but she doesn't badger me about it. Like you, I think she was disappointed I wasn't a girly girl. But I've always been all about hunting, fishing and trapping and she's learned to live with it even if she doesn't approve. She'll even occasionally ask if I had any luck hunting or trapping but she definitely does not want to see dead critters and won't eat wild game.

Your mom just sounds super controlling which I couldn't deal with... I no doubt would be rude. You'll just have to deal with is as best you can and in cases where she makes a comment like the one about the bible class, just reply back that you'd have even less time to talk to God if you didn't hunt and trap since that's when you most often do so... or something along those lines.

This is a tough situation I’m thinking she is having a tough time accepting your life now it does happen, I know my grandmother didn’t like dad with the wild game we ate but almost every time she was over we had something wild, grandpa loved it, but grandma finally excepted it.

My Daddy told me a few years ago he was glad I like to trap but he didn't want to hear another word about it. It hurt my feelings.Now we have nothing to talk about. I started preaching for the Lord a few years ago and he told me I would never lead anyone to Christ because I preach against sin. Now I can't talk about God or trapping with my daddy. There is not much else to talk about how so I do short visits over there.

You’re right I’m closer to God when I’m in the wild. That is something she cannot understand. There’s a big difference between religion and spirituality

I know how you feel. Most of my parents siblings think I just enjoy torturing and killing poor little animals. I'm 68 and spoken with them in years..

Twice in my life I went years dealing with 2 people and just dealing with it. One was my grand mother on my mom's side. Only reasion she would call me was to ask and talk about one of my cousins. I would answer the phone and get have you heard from steven.. no hHi how are you how is your wife and my great grand baby. I was alway nice and just dealt with it tell I was in my mid 20s. Then I Finally told her how it was.

I told her look he has his phone in his pocket. He knows you are calling and just not answering. I always answer your calls and you never care to ask about me or my family all you want to do is talk about him. Don't call me again unless you need help with something or want to talk about my family.

There was more to it but that sums it up she was quiet we got off the phone. I got less calls from her but they were no longer about my cousin for 35 min then hang up.

The 2nd was my mom. My wife and her alway have had tension since I wa 16 when we started dating. She was rude and made sharks comments to my wife and to me about my wife when my wife was not there. I let that go door years and expected my wife to ignore it. Finally I hit my breaking point and told her she would be kind and respectful of my wife or we won't be coming back.

Solved that problem also and it worked. She gives my wife respect now. Since you have 82 in your screen name I'm guessing your 2 years younger than I am.. I would tell her look this is my life I'm doing what I want how I want to do it either accept it or don't but I'm not putting up with with another negative word.

Live with it or solve the problem.

Just remember parents are not here forever. Cherish what time you can spend with them. Conflicts now will seem petty when they are gone.

Tell her to mind her own buisness or the next stop for her will be the Old Age Home.
That should get her off your back for a while.

Alot of advice is just a bandage.
She cannot argue with you if you don't give her a chance.
This goes for everyone/ topic.
Turn around and Totally ignore it.
Don't let her get ONE minute of momentum.
You are who you are. That should be good enough.
By the way, you've been a great contributor to this site.

Good luck,I'm a guy and my mom's been gone for over 20 years but she grew up in a hunting/fishing family so I didn't need to worry about anything like that. To me it may be time to give Mom the cold shoulder.

If you want to stir up a hornets nest tell her not to worry about Bible class and look at the problems with organized religion and the number one concern of how much money a person donates to a church.

Thanks everyone
Hubby says “don’t let anyone take your joy away” and I think largely it’s up to me to do just that. I appreciate everyone taking the time to comment even though this is somewhat of an unorthodox and possibly dull topic

With mine, I just looked at her, rolled my eyes, and said, "Yes Mother", then totally ignored her.