I quit going to thrift stores cause my mom would always have something negative about the neat things I found. For instance I found an oil painting of a pirate ship on a dark sea and she didn’t like it and wouldn’t let me get it because “it’s probably demonized, I don’t want it in my house”
But she got whatever she wanted and even things she didn’t want just because they were cheap and “pretty”. I guess “pretty” things can’t be “demonized”
that is really Sad , wife and I were just talking about this type of thing yesterday
her almost exact words were names changed
quoting my wife "your family says your a Green you can do anything! and my mother said your a Smith your probably just going to f%^&* it up any way. " I bet you can guess who still talks with their family regular and who doesn't.
that is some hurtful attitude with a kid and it's no wonder that decades later she is still unpacking that stuff mentally.
My grandpa came out of a bad home situation , depression era Chicago joining the Navy in WWII when he turned 18 was probably the best decision he could have made to set his life in the right direction. he always took a very positive attitude about everything always an analytical look at why to do or not do. after the navy he worked as a driver for a few places before starting his own small beverage delivery businesses . he would drive his routes, fix his trucks , re-side the house, fix anything in his apartment buildings , everything was just something to be learned and done. Because even working the engine room of the most complex ships in the US Navy was just a set of procedures , checklists and maintenance routines. that could be taught to a bunch of 18-19 year olds and the chief told you what to to and when to do it.
so the real knowledge was when to use what procedure.
that passed down to my dad and uncle , my uncle. always very positive affirmations in your a green you can do anything. if it's with doing it's worth doing right . hustle hustle hustle no complaining(uncle was my youth baseball coach so every kid on the team got that one)
my kids now adults tell me I "broke" them jokingly , yeah Broke them good! they run into where ever they go for work or school they tend to be the hardest working. anything can be done , high expectations of themselves and people around them , disappointed in the attitudes of co-workers and their complacency and laziness. their teachers , coaches and employers seem to agree with them having a very strong work ethic.
I hope you can unpack that baggage your mother left you with and realize everything is just a procedure you can learn then learn when to use what procedure.
also way too much of the mystic , spiritual , religion . is people using it as a way to manipulate others. that is why many people turn away from religions because they see that happening repeatedly and they think everything is just more manipulation of man. unfortunately not enough people are actually asking themselves WWJD. and instead find a verse to justify their motive.
that is a lot and sorry to hijack the thrifting thread.