What you leave behind from this very short trip called life represents everything you have been, everything you are, and everything you will ever be. Treat it as such and have no regrets where you choose it to go. It’s yours

Osky

If the most important thing we leave behind is wealth, we've failed

The best thing to do is give it all to charity. I'm having everything sold and half goes to wounded warriors and the other half to St Jude.

My folks died without leaving a will and no directions. Luckily, my four brothers and I agreed to split everything as evenly as possible. With the heirlooms and stuff we made a list of everything then drew straws to see who got the first pick. We then kept taking turns until picking items until we completed the list. Everyone was happy. It's a tragedy when siblings fight over inheritance. The impact on the survivors relationships should definitely be considered.

my wife is one of those kids who doesn't talk to her parents

she wants nothing , not a dime told them all to have fun and live it up spend it all.

one of her uncles died recently and we got talking to other family on that side , found out no one talks to my inlaws and they don't talk to anyone they show up for funerals and that is about it.
my in-laws live one house away from my wife's aunt and uncle (not the one that died) a hundred yards , in the last 3 years the only communication was my father in law asking for a ride to go pick up his car from the body shop because he is too cheap to call a cab.

He plays cards in the same men's church group as uncle Jerry the one he asked for a ride. but won't talk to him at the card games , they (inlaws) have a grudge with everyone over something.

you don't have to give anyone anything you don't want.
just please have it well organized and documented what you do want.
I would encourage as you know you aren't going to need or use a gun or similar give it to the person you want to have it and record in your records , gifted and the date. Maybe take them too the range and get pictures of them and you for them to have a good memory.

my will is an even division to the kids all of whom still talk with and see regular.

if I die tomorrow guns get divided evenly as it was written in the will before some of them were even born. they are not allowed to sell them to anybody but family.
if I know I am going I am giving things to specific kids because others wouldn't know what to do with it
I actually have the first one I am giving to my brother for my nieces picked out and it is going at thanksgiving when we see them.

Spend every penny YOU EARNED . Heck borrow some to play on. My case the son and grand daughters will be just fine with all the life insurance we have.

That don't fly in the State of Florida. My mother died first her husband died 2nd he was worth 358,000 I still had to share with his 2 kids,I never saw them except on Chismas.

I will come at it from the opposite perspective. My dad and I have never had a good relationship. Shortly after my first child was born he moved from 30 mins away to 6 hours away and then complains that we dont come see him. We might talk on the phone once or twice a year and he may come to see my kids about the same amount. Hes told me several times that there is nothing in my inheritance and that he plans to spend everything he has, but has expressed interest in setting up a trust for my children. That is a good agreement for me because I dont have a need or desire to get anything from him. If hes lying, thats fine. But I dont have any expectations.

Its your money and you can do what you want. If your kids are greedy and/or equate love to money or gifts then they may be resentful. But I dont reckon its gonna affect you much at the time.

Big Zero!

It is a gift, not an obligation......jk

Not an issue here.
Spending all my kids inheritance .
Enjoying the crap out of it to.

It's yours, you are under no obligation to anyone. Give it to someone who you know would appreciate it and maybe even deserve it.
I have heard that for legal reasons you should probably give your kids at least a small sum of money that way they can't come back and challenge the Will, and allege that you just forgot to put their name in it.

You are under no obligation to leave your children anything.

If you leave them different amounts from each other, it's likely to cause strife between them.

Keith

Same for scumbag brothers/sisters!

This. If youre on your death bed your kids can hire lawyers to come to your bedside and get you to change your will when you're not mentally capable. Do it ahead of time.

Proverbs 13:22
"A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children but a sinners wealth is stored up for the righteous"

I'm not sure if the verse is referring to a spiritual inheritance, physical or both. I feel in certain instances you are obligated to leave an inheritance, if grandpa left the farm to dad who left it to you but you sell it to live fat and leave your kids with nothing then your greedy and only deserve to be remembered for destroying the families wealth and legacy.

We have no kids. Some pro hunting groups are getting something. My nephew that joined the marines and my brother in law are in the will. My niece who went to Trump's rally is getting the bulk of the estate. My liberal nieces and nephews are getting nothing. We did not work all of our lives to support people that would do away with the things we believe in if they had their way.

It doesn't necessarily mean they don't care. There's a reason why they do what they do. You may not know the reason and since you don't know, you may not understand. Talk to them sometime. Ask them why.

They get what the reap