We are both very happy. My wife is my best friend and I can’t imagine a world without her.
Jim

NO!! No man is responsible to make a woman happy. That just can not be done and you will fail of you try. Putting a woman on a pedestal and like said on the first page you'll be miserable and unhappy until she gets board looses respect and moves on taking half your stuff and in a lot of cases payments in child support and spouse support depending on your state.

Both men and women are responsible for there own happiness.

I bring in the $ do the man things around the house and support her in what she wants to do and raising the kids. But it all has limits and guide lines.

1 stay on a budget and communicate about finances.( absolutely hardest thing for her to do).


2 I support her but at the end of the day I'm in charge period. In the rare case I say no that's not a good idea or happening that's it. There has to be the head of house hold and leader in everything.

3 take care of the kids and house.


pretty short list if you ask me. most women have much longer list. Probably because men are very simple to make happy. All we want is respect and peace when we get home. Add in a full belly and empty nuts and 99% of men will be very happy.

Women in general tend to be unhappy more prone to depression influenced by society and socal pressures. There are plenty of studies pointing this out. They have an internal emotional roll a coaster every 28 days with their ever changing hormones matching their reproduction cycle.


I love and support my wife but have no problem telling her no or letting her know if there is a short coming. I expect her to do the same with me and help keep me on track. We are a team each having our rolls and jobs to do.

I married a very tolerable woman. I don’t know if happy describes her !

But she is way less mean when I quit running with Jack Daniels and started coming home at night !

Sounds like you got a good one!!! Lol

I got a good one too. Not always happy but we have made a good thing of it for 41 years now. It has been a give and take partnership not sure now if I could survive without her on my own.

Like most things in life, this is about choices.

Make a good choice when you find and marry a wife. Choose one with the same values and lifestyle expectations.

Choose to work hard and provide for yourself and your family.

Choose to not be a selfish jerk to your wife or kids.

Choose to create a stable environment for your kids.

Choose to foster respect in your family--for yourself and everyone.

Choose to not lose half of your crap in a divorce. Seriously, this one is very important.

25 years and counting on my first, only and last. My wife and kids know I'm in charge but I don't have to flex and I definitely don't have to tell them.

My bride and I have 21 years together. Happy wife, to me, means you have to work at the relationship together. Choosing your battles and being able to compromise, a bit, certainly helps.

Happy Wife, Happy Life......How come Nothing rhymes with Husband?

PF spoke to the financial side. Yes, always provide as a man should. Try not to let money be a source of stress to the relationship. It’s a common point of failure.

Because nothing rhymes with husband…..

Gary, do you see see your ex at family gatherings then?

It always a one-way street dealing with this subject.

That's my point....We don't get Happy....lol

Johnny Carson used to say that married men live longer than single men, but the irony is they are much more willing to die !

I have been married for 35 plus years. My advice is its cheaper to get a hooker.

I know a guy that fly's one in for a week at a time than she back on the plane till the next time. He says it works really well.

I'll say it. 33 years and I can't imagine being without her. You just have to pick wisely. Nothing like having a true partner for the bad times. The good times are easy.

Not yet but it's getting closer. It's only been 5 years. She says she wants to meet my wife.
She also apologized to me...said she's sorry she ever met me.

How do you know my buddies ex-wife. Lol

My wife and I have been together for almost 20 years... married for 14. We share no interests and she barely tolerates me and my 8,000 hobbies. I do lover her more than anything, and I want her to be perfectly happy... but not at the expense of my happiness. I established long ago that if the "honey-do" list gets pushed aside in favor of an opportunity to hunt or trap that she can choose to be angry over it OR understand that I prioritize some things differently than her.

It ain't perfect, but its' been working.

Been married 34 years. Unfortunately it has been with 3 different women. No question, for me, third time's a charm. Very happy with this one. I think she is too.

Jack