I was hoping you would chime in Pete! Great short version of how you got together with your soul mate.

Hey Wolfie, that's pretty good right there.

I'll tell you what, I think I would have dated a typical American gal for months to get to the point of understanding what they want and if it fits in with what I would have in mind.

My little Colombiana told me in the first email that was exchanged exactly what she was looking for, what she would bring into the union, and if that didn't work for me to basically go pound sand!. It was so darn refreshing to have her just up and say she wanted a man to support her, and she would cook and clean, help me raise my son, be a traditional wife....kind of like how I grew up at home.

No beating around the bush or game playing involved.

pretty much confirmed what I said.

nothing wrong with that, but you won't find many American women that will settle for being that traditional wife in this day and age.

Marlin, it sure doesn't mean that Newhouse114 nor I have submissive wives...LOL.

fair enough...I don't know you. (would like to meet you guys one day).

but that's what it sounded like. and in the couple cases I'm familiar with, that's what the guy was hoping. (it REALLY didn't work out that way for one of them...his wife became completely "American-ized")

I know a guy like that....

I believe it's the natural role of a husband to lead. Thats a far cry from a tyrant. I value my wifes opinion. Don't think I would be happy with a completely submissive woman.

I kind of know what you're talking about. I think some guys have this fantasy about what it would look like for them to have a pretty, and submissive mate.

Where marriages really work is where you have a partnership built upon mutual respect. Chuck went back to Costa Rica, learned to speak Spanish, immersed himself somewhat in his wive's culture. In my case my wife and I decided that Spanish is the language we speak in our home. She took all the English classes available at the local community college but never could really completely master our language because she started so late in life (42).

Give and take.

I feel sorry for young people of both sexes in this day and age... especially if they're conservative.... when it comes to trying to find a spouse. With the majority of young white women being blue-haired, nose-ringed, tatted up liberal feminists, I could understand why young conservative men many need to look to another country to find a mate. But, young conservative women also have an ever-decreasing pool of masculine men to choose from.... with many young "men" today not even knowing how to do basic things like change a tire.

Same , the idea of having a partner that just 100% always agrees with you and does whatever you want without question is beyond weird to me ... Most guys I've known to want that definitely have issues.At that point it's like your living with a yes person and ..idk I need kick back

… you’re running around in your own house speaking Spanish?

… ought to change your name from beaverpeeler to tamalepeeler lol

… and I could use a few tamales right now … stayed up till past 4 in the morning… got a category 5 hangover

… a few tamales and a michelada would get me right lol

As soon as I saw Savell was the last poster I knew it was gonna be a zinger. LOL

Or would you rather I'd made that submission in Castellano?

And Yotetrapper...by golly, it's refreshing to agree 100% with you on a thread. LOL

Yeah I couldn't deal with the "average" or "normal" American woman . All the guessing games and long drawn out whatever's.... The guys around .my age will tell me all the crap they do trying to date or dealing with there women and I'm just here like


Idk though we where friends before we dated , seems many skip over that step first that might be it

Had a buddy who married a phillipino woman....evertyhing went well until she asked him to start the process to bring her "sick" mother over.
As soon as Mommy arrived she booked...never to be seen again. Guy was heart broken...

The problem is your reading submissive as be subservient. In fact is seting back and allowing the husband to lead. I value and discuss thing with the wife and take her opinion in acount. She is smart and I married her for a reason. But when or if there is a difference of opinion I make the call. There can only be one person in charge.

In order for her to submit I must be doing my job. The other part of the verse love her like myself. She has to have confidence in my abilities to make good decisions that put the family first. If Im mot doing my part she won't be able to be submissive and do hers.

Being submissive is not a negative thing its a feminine trait. Its not being a slave or walked on its being able to relax and let the man take care of the things that are his job and she takes care of her part. . Today's women tend to want to be masculine take charge and lead, be abrasive and argue.