Ok , Heres the deal , lost my wife to a long battle with cancer back in june .

BLESS HER SOUL !

Thinking its time to move forward , anybody using an online dating site to meet their next adventure ?

Sorry to hear about your loss.

I have a few friends who like farmers only

Yep considering that one , was born a farmers son .

must be awful to lose your wife. good to see your ready to keep on living.

Still think grocery, gym, stores or out in the field of your interest/hobbies would be a better avenue first. Seen "LOTS" of things go wrong on them sites. Good intent, but badly taken advantage of by folks and not in a good way. Know some folks who have found the "love" of their life as well, but it took a long while for them to by using them sites. That would be a last resort effort..be careful and good luck jmo

Might have better 'luck' if you are not actively looking. Just live your life as best you can.

Sorry to hear of your sad circumstances.

interesting white , but my dog gets tired of my gabbing ! lol . Im sure your advice is sound , just looking about may be entertaining , or enlightening .

If I were in your position I would be involved in community stuff and active with some local groups. You'll meet someone when you are least expecting it. Don't fall into the trap of wanting something too much.

Prayers sent to your dog !

Online is a great way to go, especially for somebody in your situation....it puts you in contact with women you know are available and interested in finding somebody. A casual date and you will know if you want to get to know that person better...if not, move on to the next. It works better in areas where there are a lot of people as there will be more people on the site. Also, I would go with larger services, not ones that restrict to small groups of the bat. Just make sure you are honest about yourself in the profile and see how it goes. You can still be open to meeting somebody through other avenues, this is just one more tool in the box.

Been in this exact spot about 6 years ago. Tried farmers only and after dating several different women from completely crazy to just not compatible. Found a great one and we've been together 4 years now. Several of the couples we know also met online.

Before joining a dating site maybe a support group for widowers might help too. Give yourself some time to heal.

My brother lost his wife of forty-something years to cancer two years ago. He took some time, got himself collected and then struck up a relationship with a girl he dated in high school fifty years back. He keeps himself so busy he hardly has time for romance.

I know of several guys who just couldn't find a good one with today's American women spoiled rotten, so they got a Phillippino wife. Takes a lot to get them here, but the Phillippinos are all dirt poor and really appreciate having something for once in their life and make good wives.

Should read "you think are available" and hope they are interested in really finding someone. I could tell you many true stories of situations where I've had to deal with folks who've used them sites. All I'll type is be very careful.

Sorry for your loss. I don't know how I'd function without mine.

As for the on-line dating, maybe you should just look at it as a new adventure for you. I could see advantages to using such a site to meet new folks.
One thing you gotta be careful with is the friend and family fix-ups. It can make thing awkward if you break a heart, or even just stop calling the girl they though was perfect for you.

I think you should got for it and go into it hoping more to make new friends than to find a mate for a while.

A female friend of ours found "the perfect guy" on one of those services and after a dozen dates told us she was thinking of having him move in with her. I told her to do a background check first. Turns out he was being foreclosed on and had a list of minor arrests and judgments against him as long as my arm. Be careful.

I tried them sites about 4 years ago. If your wise you will figure out there's a learning curve to them if ur desperate then it wont matter what someone tells you. I'll give you one other piece of advise, its impossible to have a healthy relationship with another person if your not spiritually healthy yourself. Also you better go into dating FULLY aware that alot of people out there aren't there.

I lost my wife of 35 years to cancer 3 and a half years ago.
I have tried the online sites. I have met some real crazies. Most want to move in with you. A few are married.
Its kind of fun but be very careful.

You do not need to besperate it is how they word things and tell you what you want to hear nd then try to see what they can get from you in the end. Ned to watch and push there buttoms to see what they are made of and how true they are.

Just what we need....more foreign gold diggers with 3 kids and 50 cousins waiting to jump on a boat and follow them over.

Susan and I met online 20 years ago. Will have been married 15 years now this April. Sometimes a guy gets lucky.

Just be careful.