I learned people can develop bi polar in there mid/late 20s... even if you think you picked right there are no guarantees but death and taxes.

Generally, "marriage" is a written CONTRACT. Unfortunately, it does not define all the issues in the "future details". The words "Love "and Lust" both begin with the letter "L" and have four letters. The main causes in divorce are sex, finances, in-laws, and "friends". Think about these before you say "I do" because one of you may say "no you don't". Experience is a strenuous teacher.

Good advice.

Lol sure a simple out look guess you know it all. I have a friend thats x not wife had proven drug issues he spent 20k on the first round tryong to get his kid. There were many more rounds not one less then 10k. He never got her. Sure a few times mom got ger wrist slaped so she sid as ordered for a while tell she didnt. Then back to the lawyer abd another 10k ot more and months in court.

It was a cut and dry he should have got the kid the first round according to the law and her behavior Turnd out his x lawyer was good looking and known to spend a lot of time alone with the judge.

My wifes mom amd step dad have been married 3 times. Twice to each other.

Boco, I'm sorry to hear that. That hits close to home. A good buddy had an argument with his baby mom, she threatened that she will make sure he will never ever see his son again. He committed suicide that afternoon.

White Dog, unfortunately the courts usually side with the mom and the dad has to fight like the 3rd monkey getting on the arc. I've seen women get away with lies false reports false testimony including witnesses that lie and the dad is lucky to get once a month supervised visits.

Nate, If both acted and treated each other that way it may work. If your spouse decided to commit adultery, do drugs, spread disease, steal, lie, deal drugs, neglect and abuse the kids, and then the spouse is the bad person. Forgiveness is hard. Forgiveness is also not in me, never has been never will be. Vengeance I get.

maybe we have discovered a cause to being bi polar. jk

Heh. Genetics was the clue I missed, her family was nuts, shoulda known she'd end up that way as well.

Lol, didn't see that last line coming.

If you wanna know what a woman is gonna end up like, take a look at her mother.

Because they don't fix the problems that caused the first relationship to fail so they just take the same bad behavior patterns into the next one. Some people figure out out after 2 or three tries but some people never do. Once they realize it's their baggage that's causing them to get involved with toxic people instead of getting away from them, then they have a chance.

At the risk of starting to sound like a marriage counselor, here's one piece of advice to live by: A great marriage is not the result of finding the right person, it's the result of being the right person. I wish someone had told me that so I didn't have to screw up the first five years of my marriage.

I always hate to hear about the outliers and painful experiences such as people who lose a spouse to drug or alcohol abuse, those are tragedies, but generally, if you're in a bad relationship it's best to look inside instead of pointing fingers.

[Steps down off soapbox]

There is a lot in this and other words here.
Years ago there were stigmas and pressures and financials and all that I think helped some people make a better decision about marrying in the first place. It also caused couples to put more thought into divorcing and maybe see the ramifications in a brighter light. Not to say divorce is not proper in some cases.
Today we are a far more selfish society. Poor me. Friends, media, family, poor you you have to be happy, you deserve better say those who believe misery loves company.
Kids? They do not get the respect they deserve from parents before actual divorce illustrated by the parents selfish actions. Not all but very many.
If more parents would think more about their children, and the common goal loving and being there for them, I think that commonality would go a very long way.
I know I’m painting with a broad brush and of course there are exceptions. Overall divorce is not good for the innocent. Worse is for those children never having two decent parents involved from the get go.
Osky

Well said.

I figured it was time to bail when my finger nails and locks of my hair were cut while I was asleep only to find them in a wooden box with some other stuff with a book about black magic in her closet. lol

And auctions....

All I know is once a woman has her eye set on another guy you can do nothing right.......

I have never known anyone who put God first in their life to get divorced,

I don't know about that but I will say praying with my wife everyday and going to church on Sunday is much better than being with someone who chugs half a bottle of vodka before bed.

Wife from the other room:
"Do you ever feel like someone has a voodoo doll of you and they are jabbing needles in it's back?"

Me:
"No."

Wife:
"How about now?"