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So how much did she lose gambling? Who’s money did she lose? Who paid for the weekend of female debauchery? Women are just as crude, crass, vulgar, and low as men. If she’s so wonderful, why haven’t you already married her? Lock up the money, credit cards, deeds, power of attorney, and anything that can be squandered. You can share with her later.
Let us know how Savell’s advice works out. Teach her some manners!
So how much did she lose gambling? Who’s money did she lose? Who paid for the weekend of female debauchery? Women are just as crude, crass, vulgar, and low as men. If she’s so wonderful, why haven’t you already married her? Lock up the money, credit cards, deeds, power of attorney, and anything that can be squandered. You can share with her later.
Let us know how Savell’s advice works out. Teach her some manners!
That is pretty common behavior, understand that you aren't the only one that has ever experienced it. Don't try and fix it with logic, because it's not coming from a logical mindset. Real good chance that she doesn't understand it any more than you do. I went through the same thing and read a bunch of self help books, female psychology, and went to counseling. I think that I have a fair understanding of it female behavior but I'm not going to write a book about it here. I read a great article in National Geographic about love years ago. The author came right out and said that love fits the clinical definition of insanity, enough said? Let's just say that I get along better with my ex wife now that we've both moved on. I frankly choose to be single now. I date quite often but the idea of having someone else in the house doesn't appeal to me anymore. I've dated more than one lady that feels the same way about having their own space, getting that out of the way early makes for pretty good bedfellows. Marriage is really about children and property. The rest of it doesn't need a contract. Good luck and take care of yourself first. Thats easier said than done sometimes.
“Dear Abby, dear Abby My fountain pen leaks My wife hollers at me and my kids are all freaks Every side I get up on is the wrong side of bed If it weren't so expensive I'd wish I were dead Signed unhappy… Unhappy”
Well you’ve gotteb a lot of advice on this thread ( and some maybe not so good) ..LOL
On a serious note, I Hope everything works out for the two of you 8 years is a long time.
Sounds like you both need some serious relationship counseling.
To be honest probably do. Just needed to vent and apricate that I can here and maybe get some wisdom from some of the folks here with decades of marriage experience.
36 years here, not as many as others on here.
But best advice I ever got was from 2 different worlds
A divorced Woman who worked at Ballistic products with me. She said "Always Remember what made you fall in Love" ...and second bid came from my Grandfather / Baptist Minister in his 20's & 3o's Then 50 years selling Fuller brush. He said " Ask forgiveness first for your Part in the fight - even if you feel she was 80% at fault. Bite the bullet and Apologize " and before bed.
I hope she sees You're trying ...when fights are bad and there seems no way out. Ask Her "What's my Out" she should give you one...
Scott
NRA and NTA Life Member www.BackroadsRevised@etsy.com
So how much did she lose gambling? Who’s money did she lose? Who paid for the weekend of female debauchery? Women are just as crude, crass, vulgar, and low as men. If she’s so wonderful, why haven’t you already married her? Lock up the money, credit cards, deeds, power of attorney, and anything that can be squandered. You can share with her later.
Let us know how Savell’s advice works out. Teach her some manners!
Advice from another undoubtedly single man
yotetrapper - you made a bad call here. I am happily married, and so is my wife. And yes to each other for 39 years. In my case, I was extremely selective and “married up”. Funny, my wife says she did the same thing.
There should be a good hard look at responsibility and accountability. It looks like the woman takes the man for granted, does not value him, and has no respect for him.
Maybe Coonman220 Dave could do counseling for them?
I was married at 18, just a kid, my wife was 17. During our first slobber knocker fight I was hanging out in the garage at my folks house. I did evening car repair for extra cash. He knew I was frosted. I told him we were fighting. He said "son you better learn, if it has (T--'s) or tire's you're going to have trouble, and have to work on it" Still better than walking. Go fishing!
you're only allowed so many sunrises... I aim to see every one of them!
That is pretty common behavior, understand that you aren't the only one that has ever experienced it. Don't try and fix it with logic, because it's not coming from a logical mindset. Real good chance that she doesn't understand it any more than you do. I went through the same thing and read a bunch of self help books, female psychology, and went to counseling. I think that I have a fair understanding of it female behavior but I'm not going to write a book about it here. I read a great article in National Geographic about love years ago. The author came right out and said that love fits the clinical definition of insanity, enough said? Let's just say that I get along better with my ex wife now that we've both moved on. I frankly choose to be single now. I date quite often but the idea of having someone else in the house doesn't appeal to me anymore. I've dated more than one lady that feels the same way about having their own space, getting that out of the way early makes for pretty good bedfellows. Marriage is really about children and property. The rest of it doesn't need a contract. Good luck and take care of yourself first. Thats easier said than done sometimes.
Only a few things in this life you really have control over, figure out what they are and try to do them the best u can and give the rest to God. Really simplifies life for me.
Just talk it out immediately, never go to bed with any dispute on the table! Don't let up until its handled for the good or bad! Got married at 22 after dating for 5 years and this will be year 35 for me. We have never slept apart and I never let any dispute go to rest until its over and in the end its was always something stupid when we both gave it some thought!
start with , I am not sure what I did or said , but I don't want to lose you and the relationship we have, can we talk this out? if she starts talking start taking notes at lease mental ones.
I don't know much about women but admitting you don't know what you did or didn't do and asking to talk it out works better than silence.
When she came home last night I asked if she wanted to talk and got told no and that I knew what I had said . When I told her I didn't know what had her hurt like this , she just said figure it out. Heck this wasn't even one of the nastier fights we've had, really didn't even raise our voices but I said something wrong or what she thought I said really hurt her. No clue other then I know I was wrong on how I handled parts of this.
Sometimes it the tone that you say it in. Words can be very hurtful. Especially when they come from rhe one we love yhe most..
Sometimes also the things that hurt us the most are the things yall never think twice about.
And sometu.es we've had enough and it doesn't take much to send us packing
IF IDIOTS GREW ON TREES THIS PLACE WOULD BE AN ORCHARD !