good luck in life hope it goes the way you want

Oh...I thought you were in Iowa with your Dad. If so, I'd stay there.

Not many people live their lives according to Jesus' Sermon on the Mount teachings. Which of course includes marriage in the Christian sense outlined in the Bible.
Which in the text you mention (Matt 5:31-32), has our Lord quoting from the Law given to Moses (Deuteronomy 24:1) and then teaching that if the husband "sends away" the wife, for any reason other than "porneia" (sexual immorality), the husband is causing the wife to commit adultery (forcing her unwarranted remarriage).

Likewise, if the wife divorces (sends away) the husband and marries another, she commits adultery unless her marriage bond has been broken by immorality (Mark 10:12).

God's ideal is that the wife should never depart from the husband. If she does, however, she should remain unmarried or be reconciled to the husband. Likewise, the husband should not divorce or send away the wife (Jesus' teachings and 1 Corinthians 7:10-11).

Jijjamitch, many of us have tasted the defeat of divorce and for some of us, me included, made dramatic life changing choices during that time. I was not a believer years ago when my wife (not a believer either) and I divorced. I was taking advice from all the wrong people too, now that I look back on that tragic era. Life will go on, and I hope you steer towards the betterment of your heart in all this. It won't be easy because it was never meant to be easy. It'll probably be the crappiest thing you ever go through. So seek wisdom from the best sources and perhaps if your heart is open to it.... seek God's answers in all this too. That'd be done in prayer. Depending on the day, you may be depressed or angry or something else entirely. God can take it.

Mother Theresa was asked towards the end of her wonderful life of ministry and servanthood to others, what she prayed to God day after day, year after year about.
Her answer.... "I mainly listen."

Blessings,
Mark

Lucky it happens within a year instead of later. I know it may not feel like it now, but it’s for the best. Go find another and start hauling her ashes. Keep your head up!

Prayers

Sorry for your situation but if you lose trust it’s tough to find peace of mind after that. Your life your choice of direction from here on out. Good luck

Prayer for these tough times.

^^^ I agree with LawDog.

Also, I've been exactly where you are. She cheated. We were married 8 years. We have 2 kids (5 & 7 years old when all that occurred.) I prayed for God to help me lift that mental anguish/pain, and emotional confusion from me. One night, alone in our empty home and while praying, I felt all that turmoil lift from me. I know and believe that was God helping me. Because of His mercy on me I was able to slowly get it back together...career change, new home in different part of state. There were many, many more blessings in my life after that.....and today I've been married to a wonderful wife for more than 22 years. My sons have grown to be fine men (now 39 and 37 years old.)

Your going to look back at this as a stepping stone one day, the Lord won't just open another door for you in the future, he will kick it off the hinges!

Been there and back, so glad it happened now, bet you will be also.

Sorry to hear of your situation. You can’t make somebody love you but you don’t have to stop loving them. Doesn’t mean you have to stop living either.

Imagine how Adam felt knowing Eve was specifically made for him and yet she just had to step out on him. I reckon it’s a good thing for all of us that they got it sorted out.

Why did you leave your home?
You should have kicked her cheating arse out on the street.

She already owned the home when we got married. We bought some land together, but she's keeping that and I get to keep my retirement accounts. She tried to add on some of her debt in front of the judge at the last minute, but I refused. I appreciate everyone's kind words and prayers.

Best to move on, sad but true.

One way love affairs don't work.