October will make 20 years, I'm not sentimental or into traditional stuff so not sure what to do for my wife. We have not had a good anniversary since 2007 my son was pronounced dead on October 8th and we spent the next two weeks in ICU ourselves. I don't remember if we were out of the hospital on our anniversary or if we were possibly planning the funeral or picking out headstones for our 16 month old son. So October is not a great month for us. The same for mother's day . Her first mothers day after he was killed fell on his Birthday. My wife hates mother's day but plays along for the kids.


So my wife will probably not even expect me to remember the date. But I want to do something very nice for her this year. I work to much, the boys have been getting challenging, and I want to do something surprising for her and out of character for me and let her know how grateful I am for her in my life. 20 years married and 28 together, well started dating at 16 married at 24 . Never thought it would be possible to love her more and more each year but somehow it sure has happened.

She is not into jewelry seldom wears it does not work well with the farm homestead lifestyle. Loves the kitchen but has about everything. I'm kind of at a loss as to what to do.

Maybe a weekend trip October is normally busy taking the boys deer hunting but a few days for my wife would be very nice. But where to go.

Anyway I'm brain storming any other ideas?

Have you thought about telling her how much you love her and how much she means to you? Ask her what she would like to do, then do it.

Good luck!

I think for our 20th,,her wheel barrel was getting a bit rusty so I gave it a nice paint job.Will be our 40th this October.Might break down and get her a new one.

Take her shoe shopping, then dress shopping, get a massage, then to her favorite restaurant.

It could use some paint. I did just replace one of the handles, now they are mismatched.



All the time but she just smiles and acts more like I'm just saying it vs. really mean it. Same when I tell her how attractive I find her. When she looked at herself all she sees are what she thinks are flaws. Extra weight, scars from c sections, auto wrecks, hysterectomy, ect.. so she can't honestly believe me or see what I do when I look at her. I see the scars and body that gave me my kids, stood beside me more than half my life and would follow me and support any decisions I make knowing and trusting my judgement.

If I ask her it won't be much of a surprise.

Does your wife have a good flour mill? Just an idea.

Keith

No, and I didn't look at them at the festival last weekend. I could also get here a harvest right freeze dryer come to think of it . Yet I think she would really like a trip. Maybe both. Possibly a pole barn wouldn't be bad either.

20 years is a big anniversary. Both a trip and something useful to have permanently and use on a frequent basis would be nice.

We have one of these Diamant Flour Mills. They are considered the best mills made. It works phenomenally well.

https://www.lehmans.com/product/diamant-grain-mill

Keith

a trip and time together would be nice. Lots of nice spots in IN or KY or TN within and easy drive....

Madison IN is very nice and beautiful in October

a pole barn or flour mill would not be on my list of top gifts. My wife and I went to Disney on our 20th and it was great! Just depends on what you are into...

Can you take hèr to the spot you proposed at?
Trip to see the fall colors in the mountains stay at a fancy resort and due a romantic dinner?

Family photos or a couples photo?

Madison is a very nice town but to close to home being about an hour away we are there several times a year
We used to go to Disney once or twice a year stay in sight and we're big Disney people. Mainly because we had only been home a day before our wreck when our son was killed after a 9 day trip at animal kingdom lodge, photo passes, dining plans, the works. So it was the last place we were as a family and the planing trips there after helped with my wife's related depression. Untill they went Woke. Will never go back.




Lol the place I proposed. I'm not sure where that was. Maybe when I was ambushed when I was in a pawn shop and she said she likes this old ring set. So I bought it not realizing it was a wedding set! Just wanted to buy her something she liked! I was 17 or 18? At some point it just became an understood thing. I don't remember a don on my knee or asking her dad TV type event.

I think Keith kind of nailed both things.

#1 we have been talking about going to that store and Amish area In Ohio for years and never made the trip and I'm sure she will fined many very nice things she will want.

Maybe his please will be along the way and I can swing in and get to meet him on the way home though because we would likely leave with some quail.

I love this sight

I just bought the wife a Milwaukee 18v Fuel miter saw for our 25th

Checked before I left work I'm on vacation that week.

You're welcome to make an appointment to stop by when you head up to Kidron and the Mt. Hope/Millersburg, Amish area. It will be nice to meet you. It's a pretty area of Ohio. I fairly frequently go to the exotic sales and swaps at the Mt. Hope auction site. They used to sell all animal species at the exotic auction. Now they won't sell primates larger than spider monkeys and predators larger than a coyote. You can still buy over 10,000 species there including musk ox, giraffes, zebras, ostriches, Galapagos tortoises, elk, kangaroos, watutsi, bison, thousands of types of birds and furbearers.

Keith

my wife told me to sell out grain mill since we are no grain now.
let me know if you are interested
it is the country living mill.

Take her on a getaway for a few days. And get her something shiny. My wife says the said the thing about jewelry, but then I got her a 20 year anniversary ring. She was very happy. She wears it to church, on holidays and when we go out to dinner.

Providence
These are my go to. After 28 years and every 5 a 5 stone diamond ring stacked these figurines are great. Find one you like and then look on amazon. Most are half price what the hamilton collection wants. If you have a mantle or curio cabinet they look awesome.
https://www.preciousmoments.com/fig...0_MndhgMV9zrUAR17rAkiEAAYASAAEgKIQ_D_BwE

Or go to personalization mall.com . Every thing you can think of to put family pics on

Here are last couple I got her



First one you put your names in the sand

Print off what you publicly posted right here and put it in an envelope for her. Think she’ll see the truth in your perception of her as you’ve written it. Not sure what more she could want.

Good luck!