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life, #8221383
09/23/24 06:35 AM
09/23/24 06:35 AM
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life plans, when I was younger, I always plan for retirement , saved money, but took my girls, camping all over the states, from Wyoming to Maine to Tennessee, and everywhere in between, always plan to retire early and travel and hunt and trap other states, well now I'm raising my grandkids, at 63, almost, and won't be able to do what we plan for 13 more years, plus have to try and save for college for two more kids, People say to us . that's great that you can raise your grandkids, Yes it is great for the kids, but not for the grandparents, you are no longer grandparents, you become, mom and dad, you have to discipline them, you have to do home with them, you have to answer, a thousand questions of why and how come each day, and every day, more dishes to clean, more laundry to do, higher eclectic bills, much higher food bills, if we want to go to dinner, we have to find a sitter, that wants, 10 dollars a hour plus tip, lots want 20 a hour because of two kids, hopefully went they get older, they will help around the house more, RANT OVER, sorry

Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221387
09/23/24 06:44 AM
09/23/24 06:44 AM
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I am glad you stepped up for the kids.

I hope you make the best of it. At a minimum, I agree, get some child labor out of the deal.

Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221394
09/23/24 07:15 AM
09/23/24 07:15 AM
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You would not give up that responsibility without a fight but I understand what you’re saying Cuz, your lucky our family live long lives.


Was born in a Big City Will die in the Country OK with that!

Jerry Herbst
Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221402
09/23/24 07:33 AM
09/23/24 07:33 AM
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I learned early on, nothing lasts forever and the best plans often never work out. We adopted late in life which has thrown a minor kink in some plans, but to be honest, I wouldn’t trade it for the world. Granted late in life was mid 40’s and not 63, but still.

Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221404
09/23/24 07:39 AM
09/23/24 07:39 AM
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Philippines, s.e. asia,ohio
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Originally Posted by Trapper Dahlgren
life plans, when I was younger, I always plan for retirement , saved money, but took my girls, camping all over the states, from Wyoming to Maine to Tennessee, and everywhere in between, always plan to retire early and travel and hunt and trap other states, well now I'm raising my grandkids, at 63, almost, and won't be able to do what we plan for 13 more years, plus have to try and save for college for two more kids, People say to us . that's great that you can raise your grandkids, Yes it is great for the kids, but not for the grandparents, you are no longer grandparents, you become, mom and dad, you have to discipline them, you have to do home with them, you have to answer, a thousand questions of why and how come each day, and every day, more dishes to clean, more laundry to do, higher eclectic bills, much higher food bills, if we want to go to dinner, we have to find a sitter, that wants, 10 dollars a hour plus tip, lots want 20 a hour because of two kids, hopefully went they get older, they will help around the house more, RANT OVER, sorry

You can do it!!!

Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221407
09/23/24 07:51 AM
09/23/24 07:51 AM
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Congratulation on doing good for your new family........jk


Free people are not equal. Equal people are not free. What's supposed to be ain't always is. Hopper Hunter
Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221417
09/23/24 08:05 AM
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You shouldn't have to take on the burden of college.

Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221434
09/23/24 08:39 AM
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People are different.....for some its a gift and a responsibility. Sadly for them they cant be grandparents but parents.

Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221435
09/23/24 08:43 AM
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I've always had the mentaility that they don't print your resume on your tombstone. All we leave on this Earth is our last name.

Tough situation, but it says a lot about you. God Bless.

Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221523
09/23/24 11:57 AM
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It is great that you are taking care of them. We had 4 of our grandkids a lot the last several years because of my daughter’s divorce. They have moved to Tennessee now so the house seems empty. Enjoy them while you can.


Looks like he needs another year;-)
Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221530
09/23/24 12:13 PM
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I would never not take my grandkids ( if I ever get any) but that would be very hard pill to swallow looking at my kids and even remotely having to raise their kids. It is very common today grandparents raising grandchildren. Shows how our society is failing.

It sucks your plans have drastically changed but it's a blessing you have the ability and willingness to be there and step in when needed.


Your plans sound a lot like mine and I'm 20 years behind you. I may be in your position myself one of these days. Life happens it stinks your plans have been forced to change.

Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221589
09/23/24 01:25 PM
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Good to step up for the kids sake at a time of need but hopefully you are not enabling the parent to continue irresponsibility.

Last edited by Boco; 09/23/24 01:25 PM.

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Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221595
09/23/24 01:30 PM
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Listen grasshopper, Listen

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Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221620
09/23/24 02:04 PM
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Hope you find peace with your situation. I have. We're pretty much raising our great granddaughter. We're both 65.
It's just part of what life hands you sometimes. As far as paying for college.....my family you pay for your own college and learn responsibility, but that's just our way. This was my parents, us, our kids,and grandchildren. Now an 8 year old great granddaughter. If they don't want college there's skilled trades and the service available to all.
My father told me the military will GREATLY reduce your college bill. wink


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Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221716
09/23/24 04:56 PM
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I am in the same boat as you. I’m 56 and raising 2 grand kids for the last 4 years. I feel pretty much as you do. I love them to death and wouldn’t trade them for anything but retirement is a long way down the road if at all

Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221738
09/23/24 06:00 PM
09/23/24 06:00 PM
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It's a blessing , imagine if you will , your grandchildren ( flesh and blood ) in foster care .

The wife and I are raising our 4 yr grand daughter in a 50/50 arrangement with her mother.

I wish she was with us 100% as I miss her when she's gone . It's unsettling knowing I can't protect her when she's at her mother's house . The wife says let it go .....nothing we can do ....it is what it is


The world is full of evil , if you can raise/protect your grand children, do it


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Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221804
09/23/24 07:16 PM
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How on earth do you deal with your children not taking care of their children? To me that seems like the most difficult part and can't wrap my head around the emotions that would bring up to deal with. One thing is for sure is that you are all very strong individuals. And you have very lucky grandchildren.

Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221843
09/23/24 08:16 PM
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I'm in the same boat.


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Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8221865
09/23/24 09:01 PM
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whatever situation that put you parenting your grandkids , we thankyou for stepping up.


America only has one issue, we have a Responsibility crisis and everything else stems from it.
Re: life, [Re: Trapper Dahlgren] #8222064
09/24/24 06:05 AM
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thanks guys lady from the government said 35 percent of family won't take kids, I was surprised by that,

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