what a man does from 15 to mid 20s sets the course for his life. They should be working to improve themselves, decide on career, investing and geting established. Focusing on your purpose. Don't make a girl your purpose. If you do you will end up like the rest of of working tell retirement instead of being comfortable in your 39s and able to be semi retired in your 40s if not early.

I told this to my boys and don't think they will listen because I didn't. But I hope they stay at home and get into a good career or start some business and focus on that work a ton and save and invest while living at home and having no expenses. so by the time they are 30 to 35 they can be established with 750k to a million invested and have the rest of their life debt free, with the option of passive income and or growing portfolio and freedom of choice to live it without having to work all the time.

BUT every young man I know at around 13 starts focus on girls. MYSELF included. This distracts you from your purpose and will drastically effect the rest of your life course.


More than 50% of marriage in in divorce over 70 % are filed by women. No fault divorce states, the family and divorce courts really incurage women to divorce and screw the man. You can catch here in the act of cheating but you lose half of everything, become an every other weekend and one day a week part time dad, pay crazy child support, alimony, and possible maintenance depending on your state. The days of being married 50 years are over its crazy rare for anything to last.

Here come what will make many mad. The feminist movement and destruction of Christian morals in society has encouraged girls to be promiscuous. Many have well over 30 intimate partners before getting out of high-school and those numbers only climb faster when they get more freedom in college. Studies show when they get above 7 their ability to pair bond is severally effected and the likely hood of a successful marriage goes down to 20%. Look at their family. Are her parents happy married or divorced single mom or disfunction marriage. How are their /her finances. her spending habits become your problem, if she was raised in a dysfunctional environment that behavior and patterns will follow how she thinks and reacts becoming your problems. Problems = higher probability of an already high chance of divorce and you geting screwed.

Never become a simp. Have your rules and make them clear and alway let them know you can walk away At any time if they are broken. And always be willing to walk away. A few good examples no girls nights out and no male friends. Now they will likely say your insecure or controlling. Your not and not telling them what they can or can't do. She can do what she wants . But you also have a choice to be in that relationship. If she feels the need to go out to bars and clubs and act single then she can be single. There are 8 billion people in the world over half are women.They are not hard to come by and are easily replaced. Girls night lead to drinking dancing and grinding on all the men hitting on them and cheating. Guy friends all will jump on the chance to have your girl if they get the chance.

here come the really make them mad.

Men go up in value as we age. when young we are broke have no career and are struggling. as we get older we gain experience get more earning potential and generally stay attractive and age well. hitting our prime in our 30 to 50s

Girls prime is 16 to 27.

Time is on your side.

As a girl what she wants in a man and you will get an unrealistic list of expectations. Then ask her what value she brings into a man's life that warrants that. Few women cook and clean today, every woman has well... so what value does she bring into your life over all the other women in the world let alone what value is brought into your life? Typically it's not much. So veting your girl very well for a long time to help mitigate the risk. It goes both ways few men know how to be men and ladies need to vet well also. But there Is more risk for men. Heck paternity fraud # are well you decide but 30% of men's kids are not really those men's kids in several cases. To many stories.

This is probably way to heavy for your age and will probably tick some of the ladies and the older guys that grew up in a different socal expectations time and th younger simp men off but young guys need to watch out and protect themselves in today's climate.

Wow.

Get a dog, find a friend, get a girl that will work and give you some $$ to pay for your hobbies.

Is that all you're gonna say?

Put God first on your priority and you'll turn out all right

Main thing is finding the right girl.

Remember that she is going to look like her mom in 20 years. So if her mom is still hot, you're good to go.

Yes. It's not worth it.

Providence : Are you the caveman in the Geico commercials?

Now Thats funny

You gave the worst advice ever..... At this age most don't even know what they want. Now is the time to try as many things you can to figure out what you want to do. Surrounding yourself around good people is more important than what you said.

God, Family, guns, and Packers in that order and he'll be fine.

Most people change their career choices several times before they're 30

Someone having a bad day?

Get some cage traps and start advertizing my business. I already got my deer I wanted. Also I want to make 5000 dollars this year with my business. Made 800 last year

Stay away from negative people and know it all's.

That is a perfect advice! Glad I didn’t stick with the last girl I dated

PF you need to work more. According to your post basically you're telling him to not be like you which I'd agree with. You're an unhappy guy who does little other than work and at a job you probably don't care for.
Sounds like you have good kids and a wife who's basically a saint. IMO your post proves she could do better. After you keel over or pass on she most likely will. So keep that life insurance paid up and the retirement maxed out for her, she's earned it. There's no doubt about that.

I do agree with saving for retirement and maxing out your retirement contributions. It's also obvious to pick the right woman who has similar interests but also let her have some freedom to do things she wants to do. It's rare in my experience when two people who are jammed up each others butts that a relationship lasts. It happens but not that often. Don't get hung up on the girl thing either. It's the least of your concerns trust me on that. If they ever want to play head games run don't walk away.

To the OP I agree with the ones on here that tell you to try different things as far as jobs go. When you find one you like you'll know. What you like right now or in the next few years may not be what you're going to be doing when you're 25, 30 or even 40. Learn as much as you can. If your interested you can look at the military. I honestly wish I'd have done that. It's an option that you can look into. They have great training programs and many make a career out of it.

Also and this is important too. Learn to spot a dead end job. The ones that don't pay that well and have little advancement in pay, benefits or enjoyment. Always keep looking if you find yourself in one and don't be afraid to take a chance and try something else. Weigh your options don't make rash decisions. I'm not telling you to become a job hopper, not in any way but also don't be a doormat. You will make mistakes in life and in choices we all have.

I'm thinking most of us here would love to know then what we know now.
Good luck kid.