Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
[Re: 330-Trapper]
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07/28/25 10:45 AM
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First of all, very sorry to hear this.
Over 50 years ago, my wife said she wanted a divorce and we separated. She said we could do it without a lawyer. About a month later I got divorce papers. Definitely get a lawyer and advise her to do the same. I'm guessing she will get the same advice.
We are living in a world where the intelligent must be quiet so that the no common sense people won't be offended.
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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
[Re: GREENCOUNTYPETE]
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07/28/25 10:46 AM
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could play it the other way also she stays living in the house and you build a pole shed with an apartment for you to live in.
Is it just a coincidence that Bruce is building an addition or is there something else going on here?
I have nothing clever to put here.
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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
[Re: 330-Trapper]
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07/28/25 11:09 AM
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Everyone hates the sleazy lawyer until they need one your life will change make sure you come out good enough to enjoy the rest of your life.
Was born in a Big City Will die in the Country OK with that!
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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
[Re: 330-Trapper]
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07/28/25 11:14 AM
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Are you in a no contest state? Anything of value you have that she doesn't have tabs on needs to disappear now.
Or you will give her half in mediation...Anything you owned before the marriage is pre-marital property and is yours, anything your family gave you is off limits unless you put her name on it, and might be still if you get the right attorney & judge.
Don't talk to her alone, don't be around her alone, get away from her asap....Don't text her, don't talk to her on the phone without knowing it's probably being recorded.
Retain the best attorney you can, but being a man they can only minimize, your not going to win, your going to survive.
Been there twice, and things are going good now, but it can all change tomorrow for anyone, anytime, anyplace...She's not your friend, she doesn't love you, and she will be a viscous bovine before this is over I promise you.
Goodluck brother, wouldn't wish it on anyone.
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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
[Re: 330-Trapper]
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07/28/25 11:15 AM
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Congrats! You the only reason divorces are so expensive is because they’re worth it!
Not everyone likes me, but not everyone matters
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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
[Re: 330-Trapper]
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07/28/25 11:20 AM
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Dang sorry for what you're going through Scott. Many of us have been there done that.
25 years ago my first wife and I split after 13 years and a child. I suggested we do it without attorneys and it did work out OK for us. For one, we weren't fighting over things since I had two houses on the farm I gave her the better one, agreed to finish paying off her car, etc etc. So she saw I was being generous. Joint custody of our child week on week off.
She had friends that were insisting she get a lawyer and go for blood but I think she saw I was being a good guy and she was getting a good deal on the split of our stuff.
Had a legal aide draw up the papers for cheap.
My fear of moving stairs is escalating!
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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
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07/28/25 11:34 AM
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I am sorry to hear that Scott. Get a lawyer. Do your best to keep your children and grand children out of it. It will mess them up. I got stuck mediating my parent's divorce. It was bad for me.
Keith For the sake of learning from your experience, how old were you? I was 28 through until i was 31. It's got to be worse for younger children. I got stuck knowing every detail, going back and forth between them, to avoid using a lawyer. Keith
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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
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07/28/25 11:44 AM
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Are you in a no contest state? Anything of value you have that she doesn't have tabs on needs to disappear now.
Or you will give her half in mediation...Anything you owned before the marriage is pre-marital property and is yours, anything your family gave you is off limits unless you put her name on it, and might be still if you get the right attorney & judge.
Don't talk to her alone, don't be around her alone, get away from her asap....Don't text her, don't talk to her on the phone without knowing it's probably being recorded.
Retain the best attorney you can, but being a man they can only minimize, your not going to win, your going to survive.
Been there twice, and things are going good now, but it can all change tomorrow to anyone, anytime, anyplace...She's not your friend, she doesn't love you, and she will be a viscous bovine before this is over I promise you.
Goodluck brother, wouldn't wish it on anyone.
You're absolutely correct. They get vicious quick!
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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
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07/28/25 11:51 AM
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Had a uncle get divorced back in the nineties his wife wanted out.so he asked her what do you want she told him how much money she wanted he had her write it down they both signed it plus 2 witnesses. Then she went got a lawyer and so did he.his lawyer told him that was the smartest thing he could of done to have her sign that piece of paper,even though they went after more money that piece of paper held up in court good luck.when lawyers get involved things can get messy,unfortunately most people need one.
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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
[Re: Bob Jameson]
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07/28/25 11:54 AM
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It is cheaper to keep her. That's a financial fact, but what's your peace of mind worth? I know some who are doing that, it's sad.
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