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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: 330-Trapper] #8444226
07/28/25 10:45 AM
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Sorry to hear this 330.


Eh...wot?

Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: 330-Trapper] #8444228
07/28/25 10:45 AM
07/28/25 10:45 AM
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First of all, very sorry to hear this.

Over 50 years ago, my wife said she wanted a divorce and we separated. She said we could do it without a lawyer. About a month later I got divorce papers. Definitely get a lawyer and advise her to do the same. I'm guessing she will get the same advice.


We are living in a world where the intelligent must be quiet so that the no common sense people won't be offended.
Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: GREENCOUNTYPETE] #8444229
07/28/25 10:46 AM
07/28/25 10:46 AM
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Originally Posted by GREENCOUNTYPETE


could play it the other way also she stays living in the house and you build a pole shed with an apartment for you to live in.



Is it just a coincidence that Bruce is building an addition or is there something else going on here?


I have nothing clever to put here.





Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: 330-Trapper] #8444236
07/28/25 10:50 AM
07/28/25 10:50 AM
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Sorry you're going through this, and yes, get a lawyer, in fact get a consultation with every divorce lawyer around you....that keeps her from using said lawyers....you have to think of it as a war, with appropriate strategy, yes, try to be amiable but have the plan ready, cause she will, more times than not, especially after she talks with her friends..

Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: 330-Trapper] #8444242
07/28/25 10:56 AM
07/28/25 10:56 AM
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Best thing? So don't fight with her, both of you get the same lawyer, get everything on paper, and be done.

If you can't agree to and get everything on the paper yourselves then you both need lawyers. That takes more time and money.

Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: 330-Trapper] #8444250
07/28/25 11:09 AM
07/28/25 11:09 AM
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Everyone hates the sleazy lawyer until they need one your life will change make sure you come out good enough to enjoy the rest of your life.


Was born in a Big City Will die in the Country OK with that!

Jerry Herbst
Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: 330-Trapper] #8444252
07/28/25 11:14 AM
07/28/25 11:14 AM
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Are you in a no contest state? Anything of value you have that she doesn't have tabs on needs to disappear now.

Or you will give her half in mediation...Anything you owned before the marriage is pre-marital property and is yours, anything your family gave you is off limits unless you put her name on it, and might be still if you get the right attorney & judge.

Don't talk to her alone, don't be around her alone, get away from her asap....Don't text her, don't talk to her on the phone without knowing it's probably being recorded.

Retain the best attorney you can, but being a man they can only minimize, your not going to win, your going to survive.

Been there twice, and things are going good now, but it can all change tomorrow for anyone, anytime, anyplace...She's not your friend, she doesn't love you, and she will be a viscous bovine before this is over I promise you.

Goodluck brother, wouldn't wish it on anyone.



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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: 330-Trapper] #8444253
07/28/25 11:15 AM
07/28/25 11:15 AM
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Congrats! You the only reason divorces are so expensive is because they’re worth it!


Not everyone likes me, but not everyone matters
Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: 330-Trapper] #8444255
07/28/25 11:17 AM
07/28/25 11:17 AM
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From personal experience get a lawyer and make sure it’s a good one.

Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: 330-Trapper] #8444256
07/28/25 11:20 AM
07/28/25 11:20 AM
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Dang sorry for what you're going through Scott. Many of us have been there done that.

25 years ago my first wife and I split after 13 years and a child. I suggested we do it without attorneys and it did work out OK for us. For one, we weren't fighting over things since I had two houses on the farm I gave her the better one, agreed to finish paying off her car, etc etc. So she saw I was being generous. Joint custody of our child week on week off.

She had friends that were insisting she get a lawyer and go for blood but I think she saw I was being a good guy and she was getting a good deal on the split of our stuff.

Had a legal aide draw up the papers for cheap.


My fear of moving stairs is escalating!
Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: 330-Trapper] #8444258
07/28/25 11:23 AM
07/28/25 11:23 AM
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Get a lawyer.


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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: 330-Trapper] #8444262
07/28/25 11:33 AM
07/28/25 11:33 AM
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It's cheaper to just sell e everything and split the $ more u argue over stuff the more the lawyers get of everything

Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: Pike River] #8444263
07/28/25 11:34 AM
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Originally Posted by Pike River
Originally Posted by KeithC
I am sorry to hear that Scott. Get a lawyer. Do your best to keep your children and grand children out of it. It will mess them up. I got stuck mediating my parent's divorce. It was bad for me.

Keith

For the sake of learning from your experience, how old were you?


I was 28 through until i was 31. It's got to be worse for younger children. I got stuck knowing every detail, going back and forth between them, to avoid using a lawyer.

Keith

Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: 330-Trapper] #8444265
07/28/25 11:41 AM
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Sorry to hear that. I did a DYI divorce on my 2nd wife. A few years later she got a new boyfriend and I ended up back in court with a lawyer. It's a pay me now or pay me later situation. Get a lawyer and dont let the lawyers get you to fighting.

Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: 330-Trapper] #8444267
07/28/25 11:43 AM
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Get a GOOD lawyer who has experience in divorces. Don't grab the first name in the book or someone that you know from your area. I have a friend that just went through this (settled this year). It's not pretty for him. His lawyer sucked big time. He he was from his small town area so I'm guessing that's why he went with him. Big mistake on his part IMO. He didn't fight for him at all.

He's 65 and gets to start over after his ex didn't work most of her life. He paid for their mobile home and 7 acres which he kept but he had to pay her out 60K which he had to borrow plus half his retirement. She got around 150K and he also gets to pay her $500 a month while he's working then it drops to $300 a month when he retires. He's a township patrolman and a great guy. Bends over backwards to help people and I don't know of anyone that doesn't like him other than his lying ex.

She's a real gem, 60 y/o been on disability for a few years even though there's nothing wrong with her. She can go on a 10 mile or longer bike ride and can sit in a car for hours driving everywhere but claims she has a bad knee and back. Unfortunately I know her as well and can't stand her. She's a master manipulator in getting sympathy. She lies like a rug. There's more to the story on her but I don't want to type all day and raise my blood pressure.

Don't screw around, GET A GOOD LAWYER!!!

Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: 330-Trapper] #8444268
07/28/25 11:44 AM
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It is cheaper to keep her.

Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: ky_coyote_hunter] #8444269
07/28/25 11:44 AM
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Originally Posted by ky_coyote_hunter
Are you in a no contest state? Anything of value you have that she doesn't have tabs on needs to disappear now.

Or you will give her half in mediation...Anything you owned before the marriage is pre-marital property and is yours, anything your family gave you is off limits unless you put her name on it, and might be still if you get the right attorney & judge.

Don't talk to her alone, don't be around her alone, get away from her asap....Don't text her, don't talk to her on the phone without knowing it's probably being recorded.

Retain the best attorney you can, but being a man they can only minimize, your not going to win, your going to survive.

Been there twice, and things are going good now, but it can all change tomorrow to anyone, anytime, anyplace...She's not your friend, she doesn't love you, and she will be a viscous bovine before this is over I promise you.

Goodluck brother, wouldn't wish it on anyone.


You're absolutely correct. They get vicious quick!

Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: 330-Trapper] #8444273
07/28/25 11:51 AM
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Had a uncle get divorced back in the nineties his wife wanted out.so he asked her what do you want she told him how much money she wanted he had her write it down they both signed it plus 2 witnesses. Then she went got a lawyer and so did he.his lawyer told him that was the smartest thing he could of done to have her sign that piece of paper,even though they went after more money that piece of paper held up in court good luck.when lawyers get involved things can get messy,unfortunately most people need one.

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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: Bob Jameson] #8444275
07/28/25 11:54 AM
07/28/25 11:54 AM
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Originally Posted by Bob Jameson
It is cheaper to keep her.

That's a financial fact, but what's your peace of mind worth?

I know some who are doing that, it's sad.


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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions [Re: 330-Trapper] #8444277
07/28/25 11:59 AM
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So.....who wants the divorce ??


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