This thread has truly opened my eyes to the selfishness of some men. Men that have taken vows and promised their bride they would be there for her. Now, some saying divorce is the best thing done in their life. Many profess to be be Christ followers but in trials and tribulations spout out to get the best lawyer they can afford and are driven on material possessions. It truly saddens me to know that so many men have not loved their brides even in the dark times and learned to fight on their knees and allow the Lord to lead them to love their brides even when they don't deserve it. See, I don't deserve it. I am a dirty rotten lying adulterer at heart but only by the blood of Jesus have I been forgiven and learned to love. Love without limitations. Love without being hung up on material possessions and thinking I am owed this or that. I can't control my next heartbeat - but I can try and exert self control and show love to even those that offend, ridicule, and dismiss.
Most of you are right - I have no idea what you are going through. But I do know - there is no justification that will ever make it right. Jesus even spoke on it due to the hardening of your hearts. I pray some of you men allow God to soften your hearts so you can allow the love of Christ to overwhelm you and you have the ability to love others unconditionally.
I know you mean well but you are achieving nothing and infact appearance is becoming more Self Righteous Than helping. There are a few listed examples valid reasons for divorce directly in the bible and others in paul aluded to like Abandanment. Good for you If you choose to live life miserable. O wait that's is not you so easy to get all high and mighty. "I would never" self promotion validation. Then your Judjment on how other think. But you fail to see it.
The largest turn off I hear about the church from non believers Is how Christians are all hypocrites. They seem to think becuse someone is a Christian they should be perfect. Not one of us is worthy of the gift freely given, we can't buy it , can't earn it. Your additude and self righteous is exactly what they are talking about.
Many try to act like Jesus was a push over. Over looking his whipping the money changers and flipping the tables over. Not exactly a talking to or turn the other cheek. No that was righteous Anger
Sure is easy to say what you would or would not do when your not the one in the situation and don't have 40 years worth of info. only what you believe you learned in a few minutes.
Hear is my turn to be judgmental. "I would never no mater what" Is a very sad man asking to have no respect and be walked on. Women need/want a Strong man with boundaries a leader to head the home. That is for all life wife, children, friends, co workers. What good are boundaries or even laws if there are no consequences.
Yes trying to work things out is the priority. But 2 people have free will and one wishing can't change the other. Pray your heart out GOD can fix it , BUT that free will thing comes into play and if one doesn't want to fix anything?
If it's all about GODs will and plan where does that leave free will? Is there any free will at all.
330 he didn't answer becuse those are hard questions to answer and take a lot of time, study, prayer, and self reflection to get into. At least that would be my guess. Best to give deep though and reflection vs a quick answer and have regrets. Or it's just to hard and bi passed. Either are as likely as the other
I would have to spend a lot of time trying to find answers to those questions and would still never be sure if I was 100% corect.
