I did something dumb yesterday, got after my wife about a cluttered house while she was busy cooking a Thanksgiving meal. I lost something and lost my temper. She was obviously upset. We made up but i gotta make this up to her, any outside the box ideas? Not just flowers or dinner, really want her to know how much she means.

I Just got mine and new vacuum, it's a head turner made to get pet hair up. Maybe a feather duster and French maid outfit to go along with it. Also maybe some time management and how to declutter your life books. With good time management there is more time to cleaned things up.



What is she into? Have you noticed her eyeballing somethings in stores she would like but won't buy for herself? What is your availability on time and money. Maybe a short weekend trip, cruise or small get away. What my wife would like will be different than most. She likes going to jingle Jim's grocery for things like her birthday and likes when I buy her practical things she will use instead of jewelry and flowers for example.

Maybe a trip for her to a day spa or just a nail/pedicure if she is into that. All women are the same but also very different at the same time.

Sounds like you didn't get a prenuptial, some guys don't learn after the first time.;)

Its hard to buy your way out of a jam when feelings are hurt. Kind words and actions like helping her with her household chores are more genuine than money.

I've been thinking about it, she's been saying she's "babied out" I think I'll take the kids for awhile today, give her some alone time, hopefully she can do something she will enjoy without the little monsters dragging off her

I'm no expert on this but buying her something isn't going to cut it. Pour 2 cups of coffee then sit down at your kitchen table with her. Maybe even reach over a take her hands. Then looking her stright in the eyes tell her how much she means to you and what a jerk you are for forgetting it. Telling her that if you had to you would merry her again wont hurt either.. My wife and me have been together for 55 years now and I still tell her that I love her every day plus thank her for ALL the little things she does for me throughout the day.

Beautiful.

Be blessed

Back rub.

How about you cleaning the house?

book her and a friend a massage at an upscale local spa...Girls Day outing.

That's what I was going to suggest. I've booked her a massage with a friend, and even made sure that her favorite bottle of wine was there waiting for her. Sure made her happy.

Maybe stop treating her like she works for you. That would be a good start.
What about being grateful of the fact she decided to be your partner.
It is very easy to spout off but that does very little for building good will in a marriage.

I would guess a new over and under 20 gauge and a new light weight spinning rod from Trout Magnet, might be just what solves the problem.

Your welcome.

Mac

Thats what I did yesterday while I complained. The issue is that some muzzleloader parts seemed ti have been thrown out, season starts tomorrow and I had put a new scope on and planned to get everything ready yesterday and today. Wife is a bit of a collector and I was mad a box of muzzleloader parts went missing while we have 15 pairs of woman's boots in our room.

This morning I wore out the floor walking the 1 year old around so my wife could get 30 mins of extra sleep. Now the kids are coming with me to buy a new scope for the old muzzleloader. We can salvage this whole thing, deer season n all.

I like that!!! Lol
Stressful time of year any way then add kids and busy life things can get edgy. I not an expert but you taking those kids one day a week for two or three hours would be a huge gift for that lady of yours.
Your house hold isn't any difference then any of the rest. Lol

Buying a new scope is the best way to instantly find the old one.

Just be nice, it goes a long way

Had no use for a prenuptial, I was still broke from the first divorce when we got married.

I think you be honest , say I am sorry I snapped , I was frustrated and I took it out on you at an especially bad and stressful time.

then take the kids and go do something with them ,cause , yeah I expect most people could use a break after preparing thanksgiving dinner.

then maybe budget some time to de-cluttering one area at a time , because clutter is what happens in a busy house , items that need to get put away or trashed or filed , ect.. end up on the counters and about any flat surface or corner they can be pushed into while making space to get other more pressing things done.

Heck with all that, lol. Either hire me a maid or buy me a new gun LOL

Talking with her and actually listening goes a long way.

I’d go with yotetrapper30’s advice.