My wife and I received our daughters ashes. Mail lady brought them to our door. No denying what is in the box. Cremation Remains written on box.
We were hopeing her friend would take her to their favorite spot in the mountains of Wisconsin and let her rest there.
But, we unexpectedly get a box of her ashes.
It finally hits home. It's never easy.
Freaking tough year so far.
Sarge out.

Hang in there Sarge,
I lost my daughter when she was 13. The pain will live in your heart forever, but so will the fond memories.
My prayers and thoughts are with you. God bless and take care

I am so sorry...cannot imagine how that must be , to not only receive those, but for the mail lady to have to deliver them.

Mine too and Prayers

13!?!? That's sad!

Words can never describe how you feel.

If you know Jesus as Savior then he will comfort you in your grief.

I lost my son in a auto wreck Oct 7, 2007. He was only 16 months old and killed when a guy ran a light and t boned us hitting in his door.

I will say I would not consider myself stable for over 4 years after looking back. I'm not the same man and never will be but I will tell you it does get easier to cope with with time. One day you will realize your smiling and then it will hit you you have not thought about your lost child in a few days. That brings on some guilt.

It does get easier to function with time.

My brother lost his eighteen year old daughter in an automobile accident. I've never seen such a grief-stricken man. Having daughters of my own, I can't begin to imagine the pain. Nor do I want to.

My condolences.

My thoughts and prayers are with you guys

Prayers sent!

Yes, hard on the mail lady. Lives on same road. Couples miles away. She had no idea. When pulled into the yard. Wife asked what I ordered. I said nothing. Furthest thing from our minds. Last time we talked to her friend. He was taking her into the mountains.
We have picked out a spot in North Carolina.
Wife in bed. Needs alone time. She was just getting her strength to venture out. We took a long drive yesterday to get away. It was very nice. Hope today doesn't set her back.
She said today hits home. In her mind, she knew she gone. But, envisioned her traveling around the country and having fun exploring. Today made it real.
Wife said she wants to be spread in the same place. I will make it happen if she goes first. That I promised to her.

I tried drowning the pain at the bottom of crown. That didn't work. Yes, I have been angry. And want to apologize to t-man members for being so. Folks can always say how.they would hqndle such things. I say no prep can be enough.
Sarge has seen and done things most people can only think of. This I can't fight or yell at. Saps your energy. Has got to be the toughest thing to face head on. One minute,day,hour,week, month at a time.
Time will heal. But not forget. That would be the worst tragedy. To forget her smiles and love. Even though she was different and lived in your own world at times. The poetry book she wrote and got published was at times hard to grasp. But, that was her. Goofy and carefree. She loved to explore. We never knew we're she would go next. She had a gypsy soul. It took CANCER to ground her. Even then, cancer had to fight to take her. Never did get her spirit.. She didn't go down without a fight. And by God, she fought.
She was born on my birthday. So nobody could lie about our ages. Dad and daughter were both hardheaded her mom used to say. I guess that's way we butted heads at times. Sarge always gave advice straight up. But, she knew if crap hit the fan. I would find a way to be there. Maybe that allowed her to be fearless. I let her fail at times to keep her grounded, but never harmed. But I couldn't save her from cancer.
I feel lost.
Sarge

Undoubtedly tough the delivery being a surprise like that

Even worse would be a scumbag porch pirate stealing the box from you.

Prayers sent to you and your family.

To fight an enemy that is seen and can be taken out, is one thing...to fight an enemy that is unseen from within, must be the worst feeling of helplessness. Especially for a man, who has been the protector and careful provider of a child.

It still hurts , no matter that you all did everything you could to win. Your role as protector, this time, against unimaginable pain inside, is still needed.... though leaving you and everyone entirely exhausted. Being angry is surely understandable, I would bet the farm, not one Tman member here would blame you for that , but fully support you all they can.

She knew she enjoyed the best parents she could ever wish for , and she was happy. All she ever knew, was love. That love will endure forever, with herself, and you all. That never changed.

I'm so sorry, I lost my son 17 years ago. It's painful but it gets better with time. You have to learn to work thru it. It's ok to move on with life. That's the hardest part!

I'm sorry for what you're going through. We lost my little brother 2 years ago, he was 27. My dad survived it, but I don't think he'll ever be the same as he was before. All you can do is take one day at a time. I know for months he went to the grave/vault/whatever it is every day. But eventually that changed to a few times a week and now once a week. Just focus on today, and try to remember that your daughter wouldn't want you to mourn her forever.

Sorry to hear sarge,you’ll be in my prayers. Cancer sucks.

I couldn't imagine what some of you all have experienced with the loss of a child! Sarge so sorry for your loss and having tobe reminded of it today. But, maybe look at it as a sign from God he has more and bigger things planned for you and your wife. Be strong!