Take what you said, twist it around to mean something else.... that then pees them off?
The discussion at coffee this morning went something along the lines that the homestead was less than perfect when she arrived 25 years ago. Little homemade cabin was nestled in a pine thicket that was somewhat overgrown to blackberries. She often reminds me (including this morning) how she got me to take out the pines, plant a lawn, kind of tidy up and how much better it all is now.
Says I, I kind of liked it the way it was. Place was invisible to neighbors and cozy.
....Apparently that meant I regretted she ever came into my life.
cause they are wired 180 from men often with a ton of insecurities that twists what you say in their mind to be about as far from what you said as it can , but so that her insecurities can feed on it.
there are a number of what he said , what she heard , what he meant , how she took it to mean type videos and explanations.
there are questions that people who train them selves to understand their insecurities ask each other to clarify before they go off on each other
but until she realizes what and why she is doing it and wants to change it she isn't going to be much for trying to understand what is so plain to her
and there in lies the problem , she can't admit she has insecurities , so she cand deal with them
on the flip side men mostly just say what they mean and are very transparent no hidden meanings or agenda other than getting in bed. really is that even hidden?
.....buy her some chocolate
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