Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
[Re: 330-Trapper]
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07/28/25 09:43 AM
07/28/25 09:43 AM
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danny clifton
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I am sorry to hear that. Been there. It's hard.
Those who would give up essential liberty, to purchase a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety. Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790)
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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
[Re: 330-Trapper]
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07/28/25 09:52 AM
07/28/25 09:52 AM
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Too much time on Trapperman....and she feels ,left out ???
One has to go... ...TMAN for the Win !!!
Lawyer UP !!
Last edited by Nessmuck; 07/28/25 09:53 AM.
It is better to die on your feet than to live on your knees.
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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
[Re: 330-Trapper]
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07/28/25 09:55 AM
07/28/25 09:55 AM
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I heard it said once upon a time that "the man who represents himself in court (or divorce settlement in your case) has a fool for a client."
Don't be that guy; I'd get legal representation.
Life Member: ITA, IBA, MTA & NRA. Member of SA, FTA & NTA
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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
[Re: Trapset]
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07/28/25 10:18 AM
07/28/25 10:18 AM
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Lawyer or no lawyer, don’t get hung up on stuff just because other side wants/likes it more. Deals get routinely stalled over the dumbest little things just because one side knows an item means more to the other side.
I usually say beer and/or whiskey helps everything. This is the exception, not a good time to increase your drinking, if your a drinker.
Solid advice here.
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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
[Re: 330-Trapper]
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07/28/25 10:21 AM
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unfortunately yes lawyer , give them clear expectations of what you want and what you don't.
a real shame , hard to imaging you are a big enough A-hole to need to get away from you after she didn't see the need for 39 years.
that makes her what 60 at least what is her plan for the future that is so much better without you.
I mean maybe you have been 2 people living in the same house married but not really connected for 20 years and so she wants to try and start over before it is too late.
I have been taking a little look at the dating pool at 46 and thinking , shoot I miss my wife (she passed away from cancer didn't divorce me)
who knows , certainly not I but yes if amicable is going south , lawyer up.
America only has one issue, we have a Responsibility crisis and everything else stems from it.
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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
[Re: KeithC]
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07/28/25 10:23 AM
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I am sorry to hear that Scott. Get a lawyer. Do your best to keep your children and grand children out of it. It will mess them up. I got stuck mediating my parent's divorce. It was bad for me.
Keith For the sake of learning from your experience, how old were you?
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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
[Re: 330-Trapper]
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07/28/25 10:29 AM
07/28/25 10:29 AM
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Green County Wisconsin
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my one thought would be make one last offer , put the farm into a trust to leave it to the kids and grand kids , then divide savings and retirement accounts in half , she keeps her car. takes anything for housewares , furniture other stuff in the house and you help her with rent for 6 months at an apartment. if that isn't amicable where she leaves a legacy for her kids and grand kids in the land , then yup lawyer up
could play it the other way also she stays living in the house and you build a pole shed with an apartment for you to live in but the farm and buildings go into trust for the kids and grand kids.
depends does she want to move away or not
America only has one issue, we have a Responsibility crisis and everything else stems from it.
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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
[Re: 330-Trapper]
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07/28/25 10:41 AM
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They rarely end well or else they wouldn't end. You each need to get a lawyer and be prepared to end up spending a bunch of money arguing over a vase that was given to you as a wedding gift that neither of you really wants.
I have nothing clever to put here.
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Re: Wife and I are Divorcing-Questions
[Re: wissmiss]
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07/28/25 10:44 AM
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When I got divorced many years ago, it was a friendly split and we wanted one lawyer to handle everything. He declined, saying we each needed out own lawyer. Said it was best for the long run.
Get a lawyer and encourage her to get one as well.
Sorry about your situation. This advise is spot on! If everything was amicable, you would not be getting a divorce. The chance of you both agreeing to terms is slim and none. She has her ideas and you have yours and you both need representation handling your assets. And the emotional toll on both of you and your family is another matter you both may need help with as well.
Life Member: NCTA, VTA, NTA, TTFHA, MFTI Member: FTA
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