Sorry to hear. Do yourself a favor ... Get the attorney if for no other reason to have the paperwork done correctly, I s dotted, T s crossed.

Best advise my attorney told me ... If you two fight, I be the one getting all the money! So very true.

Whoever said this is war is spot on.

Get a lawyer, that doesn't mean you and her can't be amicable but you have to look out for your own interest. My ex didn't get one and I'm not ashamed to say she got hosed. I had to look out for mine and the children's interests.

Fortunately your children are grown up.

Sorry to here this Scott.

Sorry to hear, yes get a lawyer pronto. You want to serve her papers not the other way around.

good point...

Sorry to hear about your situation.

Minnesota is a no fault state when it comes to divorce. So it’s usually a 50/50 deal. Maybe you could get one lawyer for both of you to help work through the sticking points. You will basically be fighting over what you both know you have. I’ve gone through it twice and have not hired a lawyer for either and I did fine. Good luck.

I went through a divorce, never should have married someone like her but any way, We filled out our own papers but I still got a lawyer, made things real smooth and I didn't lose out any property. I say even if it seems there will be no problems, get a lawyer with you in court, if she does and you don't it could go badly for you

Here's the problem, If she's asking for the divorce, she's been thinking of it and planning it without you knowing, so your already behind and starting with a handicap......get the consultations , you'll know right away if she started without you......good luck.

Have an auction just between the two of u

Ur going to cause a cat fight on here

Anyone selling 50/50 tickets ..??

Paradise by the dashboard lights by Meatloaf comes to mind I often think of heading back to the Northwoods or Black Hills myself often. LOL

Sorry to hear Scott. Tell her that your sorry that she's not happy but your not going anywhere and your not signing anything. She's welcome to leave if she wants.

All my money was Used up last year when we paid off our House and land.

I talked to Three lawyers They all want $6,000 or more retainer.

Our small farm is valued at a bunch but All our Money is in Assets not Cash.

So Im kinda screwed...

That sucks.
Get a good divorce attorney.

Good luck Scott. It's too bad

I'd still get a lawyer. Take out a personal loan if you have to.

get the best in the area and talk to all the other good ones so she can't hire them. There is no such thing as a reasonable woman during a divorce..

Also backs up my stance on there is no benefit for a youn man geting married that our ways the risk. One look at the #'s is all it should take to see it. But thelat unfortunately the world we live in today.

If you think your screwed now, imagine how you will be when you lose it all and can't buy food. Get a lawyer! If you go with one lawyer for the whole deal, make sure you retain it. The lawyer is going to work for whoever buys it. You can still get along, and be amicable, but you have to cover yourself. I've had three friends divorce recently and two of them got the short end, until they retained an attorney late in the game. Sell something and get a divorce attorney!

Been through a divorce early in my life, was miserable then and probably still is for most later on !! We were together only 7 years it was quiet and great until the last year when she got lonely she said, told her find we divorce and start over, she never expected that, just had a baby boy the years before !

I got a lawyer due to her playing the field, she did not have any funding to get her own, I just gave her all her stuff and kept the home we had gotten and been in only 6 months, lawyer said sale and split, I said no way, I put everything into getting the home
she did nothing, told him to write it up, she kept playing around and tried to talk me back into the marriage, said nope I'm done and your gone. I ended up paying child support for a few years, until my new wife's car accident with a load of kids going to school, which changed that payment and both mine and my new wife's life !!

With out the lawyer I would have had to split the home sale, I kept the home she got her stuff and we went different directions still took three months, but she was not a very good fighter either ! She did try and take part of our settlement from the accident to help her, but instead brought her own suit against the company who caused it, and her and I had to work out a new visiting arrangement with the first son, was ugly then though !!

I would recommend a lawyer even if you both agreed to a settlement with out one, will not be as expensive if she sleeps things over and changes the ball park rules the next week !

Almost 40 years is a long time to hide bickering and stuff that goes it, sorry you both stayed together that long !!