There are so many unknowns I don't know how many dares not get a lawyer unless dead broke.

The farm is going to have to get sold.

Is there any retirement?

Vehicles?

Machinery?

Guns?

Unknown debt?

Did she work?

If not she may go after your social security and retirement

As long as you're taking advice from strangers on the internet...

Pay for a good counselor rather than a lawyer. 40 years is a long time, you could still make it...

I know a guy, mid 70s, married forever, just got divorced. She took off and has nothing to do with the kids or grandkids. He said she took him back to court over 20.00 and the judge said get out of here now.

Yep. Half of nothing is still nothing.

Sorry for what you are going through but for everyones sake get counsel if not it can get nasty real quick

The one my ex used was excellent! The one I used sucked and I paid for it.

Get the best attorney you can find. She is in no position to tell you no lawyers.

I know people who have gone through divorce and were sorry if they didn't have good legal representation and advice. It's clear that you don't know how your assets could be split to your advantage and how best to handle that.

Good luck!

Not With a 30 year Gambling problem

Mean, even for You.

… Swampwolf made me do it

I can think of a really good benefit to getting married.

Consummation of the marriage. I wasn't about to be celibate for life.




All y’all did wait until marriage to do that right? What with being Christian and all. None of that outside of marriage business.

My brother in law got divorced, he paid for HER lawyer, when they got done with him he ended up with nothing, and never recovered.

I'd dissappear some stuff ....ASAP

Sell her ring and get a lawyer

For sure get a lawyer. Who knows what kind of debt she has racked up that you don't know about.

Mine was a killer. She told me exactly how to do it and this is how it will turn out and it did

A guY at work always said which ever friend of yours got raked the most, hit his ex wife's lawyer

It's war Scott she made the decisions. You need to protect yourself, your assets and the legacy you will leave for your children

What the heck man? 40 years!!! Duct tape her and drop her off at Gamblers Anonymous and go back and pick her up in 30 days.

Should of keep them cows and make payment on the house she would of stayed .

40 years, what's the point now?

My mother served my father with divorce papers, she tried to get him to move out of the house for separation. His lawyer asked him if he wanted to stay in the house, he said yes, then the lawyer told him to stay, and he did. He didn't want a divorce. There were some fights but he stood his ground and they ended up staying married.