Will she admit to a judge that there's a gambling problem? Not that it would make a difference but..
I divorced after 40 years of being called a jackarse and arsehole daily. It just got old plus she let herself go and got fat.
She went online and did all the paperwork herself and we went to court without lawyers. I didn't contest her. She got the house and I got the shop, pickup, tools, camper. And guns.
As an afterthought she came back and wanted money for a farm I own with my 3 siblings. I said no, that's going to our Sons. Sorry.

Hate to hear that, y'all tried counseling?

Based on this thread. At least we can all agree. It’s always the woman’s fault and almost never the man’s


Till death do we part is what we vowed, and it’s what we meant.



Sorry you’re having trouble 330, hope it gets better for you.

(This word is unacceptable on Trapperman)! 20 years seemed to be the nick-break point a couple 3 decades ago for divorcé! A few years ago my oldest son got divorced after 30 years of marriage and now it’s 40 years???? There must be people nowadays that don’t mind getting a finger poked in their eye for decades and on the downhill side of the mountain before they figure out they F’ed-up!!!! What’s the point now in the twilight years????

Sorry to hear that 330.

Sorry to hear that.
It sounds like if funds aren't plentiful then your assets will have to be split or sold in order to get to that 50/50 or so. Have her buy you out and leave and head to Wyoming or you buy her out and stay on the place. Most likely would be sell the place and go your ways.
I wish you well I never have been through it but if I were too, I would find the very best divorce attorney you can find. He might take a cut from your selling the place and no retainer to get started.

Perfect advice. Seems every area has a well known attorney that always represents the wife and has a reputation for screwing over the husband. Talk to people, find out who it is (or maybe more then one) and that's your first call. You don't need to hire them but a consultation will shut the door to her.

We have newver divorced, but two of my brothers have and several of the farm business owners I worked with over a 40 year time frame did. As many stated get a lawyer and one with divorce experience. Frome what I found over the years was if both sides wanted amicable it was easier to do with a lawyer than w/o. Relationships are very personal and under stress even more so. The lawyer can look at the situation much with much less subjectivity and that may well be helpful. With cash being limited that means that non cash assets will probably need to be sold or borrowed against. Separations are about turning assets into cash.

Bryce

Thanks, Im trying to get one Now

I'll know at the bank tomorrow

I appreciate the advice from all.

There's blame to go around from us both.

We've always fought Verbally rough. A few hours later we tried to forgive and held hands while watching TV before Nighttime.

To say it best "Small cuts from 1,000 wounds" did us in.

No...SW didn't!

Savell....that was crude to blame me for something you posted & bring me into this.

I have intentionally NOT commented on this thread. I know what 330 is going thru. I've been down that rough road and its no fun. It was the most mentally distressed I've ever been in my life. God is the only reason I made it thru it. I never thought much about God or knew much about Jesus before my divorce, but I know for a fact they are the MAIN reason I'm still here today. For me, this was back in 1989-90. It changed my life.

This is an extremely personal situation in someone's life. I know 330 is just needing to talk about it and this is why he posted it on Tman. I feel your pain.

My only advice to 330 is to try and maintain yourself......mentally and physically. The trouble will pass...hold it together.

Prayers for you from me.

…. Everyone knows I’m full of crap Swamp lol

… but being a deputy I’ll try to act more professional going forward

… 330 … got to look at the bright side … the care free life of a bachelor won’t be too bad

… carry on

Most guys I know that did best during their divorce found the strength and made it to a gym and started working out. And especially important on the days they didn't even want to get out of bed. Someone to work out with helps keep you accountable for showing up when you would otherwise maybe stay home..

Physical activity is good for your mental health not just Physical.

The only advice I can offer based on mine is don't sell anything because it isn't yours. Everything is half hers at the moment and that can come back to haunt you WHEN (not if) things turn ugly.

Around here most lawyers won't touch a divorce. It takes a special kind because divorces usually get uncomfortable

"Uncomfortable"? They usually turn into a blood bath.

I say get a lawyer, a friend’s exwife video taped everything in the house including his guns before she filed, then when things went south the video tape came out and proved what was supposed to be in the house and it didn’t help him one bit, but if she has planned this she knows what’s there, also the lawyer can keep things civil when you can’t.

Im a sinner, Raised in the AG Church
Because of Rogue preachers Ive lost much of my belief in Organized Church
No matter what happens- I pray each night for God's forgiveness
I believe in Christ, the Holy spirit and God the Father.
If Christ can forgive a murderer hanging on the cross next to Him
I can be forgiven for my sins.
But right now Ive been using "cattle moving language " too much

I appreciate you Swamp,our resident former GW a lot.

Even Savell - just right now I cannot fight anymore angles - and humor is evasive.

Sincerely,Scott

If it hasn't all ready been said ONLY comunicate by text or email. For written proof. Good luck dude

Have our issues as well. Making better before bed does not make up it. Let me know if you need anything because I understand how it can happen.